Heano mimwe mhinduro dzemibvunzo inowanzobvunzwa pamusoro pegodo
Pasinei nokuti iwe uri murume ane godo kana kuti wako wako ane godo, godo risina musoro rinogona kuparadza imba yako. Heano mhinduro dzemibvunzo yakawanda pamusoro pegodo uye zvinhu zvaunogona kuita kuti ushe godo mumhuri yako.
Chii chinonzi Jealousy?
A. "Kushushikana ndechekuita kune chinonzi chaityisidzira - chaicho kana chafungidzirwa - kuhukama hwakakosha kana hunohu hwakanaka.
Kuongororwa kwenyika kune vapepi vemakaro kunoratidza kuti godo inetso mune imwe chetatu yevakaroorana vose vanouya kuzorapwa kwemishonga. "AM Pines, CF Bowes," Rudo Rukuru: Kuziva Kwatinoita Njodo Inobva Uye Inogona Kutarisana Nayo Sei " Psychology Today , (1992).
"Kushuva kwechinguva kunokurudzira uye kunogona kugadzirirwa mukati medu." Izvozvi zvakajairika. "Godo rakawanda rinotyisa uye rakatadzisa vanhu kune imwe nzira ine ngozi zvikuru Hapana chikonzero chekutenda kuti godo ichavandudza nenguva kana kuroora ... Nokuti godo rinosvika pamwoyo wekuti iwe uye midzi yawo yakadzika, haisi chinhu chinogona kubviswa nechishuvo chokufunga. " Hara Estroff Marano, "Mazano: A Jealous Fiance" pane Psychology Today , (2004).
Icho Chishuwo Zvakasikwa Here?
A. "Muhukama apo manzwiro e godo ane unyoro uye pane dzimwe nguva, inoyeuchidza vaviri vacho kuti varege kutora mumwe nemumwe pasina.Iyo inogona kukurudzira vakaroorana kuti vanzwisane uye vanoedza kuedza kuti mumwe munhu anzwe achikoshesa ...
Kushuva kunokwidza manzwiro, kuita kuti rudo rune kunzwa rune simba uye zvepabonde zvakanyanya kufarira. Muchidiki, zvisingakwaniswiki, godo rinogona kuva simba rakanaka muhukama. Asi kana yakanyanyisa kana kuti isinganzwisisiki, nhau yacho yakasiyana chaizvo ... Kushuva kwepanyika nguva dzose uye kunogona kuita kuti ukama hurambe huri hupenyu, asi kana hukava hunyanyisa kana husina hanya hunogona kukuvadza zvakanyanya ukama. "Paula Hall," Kunzwisisa Kushingairira "pa BBC .co.uk
Chii Chinonzi Vanhu Vane Shanje?
A. Vanhu vane godo vanoona manzwiro akawanda kusanganisira kutya, kutsamwa, kunyadziswa, pfungwa yekukundikana, kunzwa kushungurudzika, kutyisidzirwa, kutsamwa, kushungurudzika, kunetseka, godo, kusuruvara, kusava nechokwadi, kurwadziwa, uye kuzvidzora.
"Kusuruvara kunotichengetedza pasi pekunzwa kuora mwoyo uye kuora mwoyo kunotiita kuti tive nekushungurudzika." Icho chinhu chinorwadza chisingagoni kutaurira nezvazvo kunyange shamwari dzedu dzepamusoro uye hatigoni kuzviisa mukati medu. kushungurudzika kwenhamo inoshamisa uye kana yakabvumirwa kukura kusingatariswi kupfuura mhirizhonga, inoshanda sechinotyisa kusvika kune utano hwakanaka. " Gyan Rajhans.
Sei vanhu Vachida?
A. Kushuva kunogona kukonzerwa nezvinhu zvakawanda.
- Zvisingatarisirwi zvisingatarisirwi nezvemuchato munharaunda.
- Zvisingatarisiri zvisingatarisirwi nezvehukama hwako nemumwe wako.
- Nzira isina kururama yekuve yako wewawakaroorana naye.
- Chiitiko chinokuvadza chokuregererwa munguva yakapfuura.
- Kutadza kuzvidzora.
- Kusachengetedzwa.
- Kutya kwekusiyiwa kana kutengeswa.
- Kutya kurasikirwa nemumwe munhu kana chimwe chinhu chakakosha kwavari.
- Kunyanya kugadzikana.
- Chido chekutonga.
Ndezvipi Migumisiro YeHasha Dzisina Kurara Muwanano?
A. "Kune avo vanoona godo risingaiti, manzwiro anoisa uporofita huri kuzadzisa.
Sezvo vavakidzani vavo vachiedza kuzvidzivisa, kutya kwavo kukuru kwekurasikirwa rudo uye kuremekedzwa kunozadzika. "Robert L. Barker, mubhuku rinonzi Green Eyed Marriage.
Zvimwe zvepfungwa dzepfungwa kana maitiro ekugadzirisa zvegodo zvingave zvakare:
- Hasha.
- Kuwedzera kwekushaya kuvimba.
- Hasha.
- Kudzivirira.
- Dzimwe nharo.
- Vanoda kugara vachirudziro.
- Kuora mwoyo.
- Chido chokutsiva.
- Constant questioning.
- Kugadzikana kwepanyama kwakadai sekudedera, kunzwa kusviba, kuchinja mumararamiro ekurara, uye kuchinja mukudya.
- Kuguma kwechato chako.
"Vanhu vanofunga kuti vakachengeteka uye vanozvida ivo pachavo vanowanzove vasina godo kune vamwe uye vasingashamisi vavakidzani vavo, neavo avo vakambonzwa kusiya kana kutengesa muupenyu hwavo vanogona kudedera negodo ...
Kana iwe uchinzwa godo, kana kana mumwe wako achiita, hazvina basa. Pakupedzisira, godo richapedza ukama hwako uye kuparadza imba yako ... Kushuva inzira yekugadzirisa kuronga muhukama ... Kuwana kudzora kwegodo rako hakurevi kutora mudiwa wako, zvinoreva kuwana kubata pane zvako . "Dr. Gail Saltz," godo: Ndizvo Zvose zvevarume nevakadzi? "Pane MSNBC.msn.com (2006).
Vakaroorana Vanogona Sei Kuita Nehanzvadzi?
A. "Ko godo rinogona kukundwa here?" Mhinduro ndeyekuti hongu, asi nekuedza kukuru.Sezvimwe zvakawanda zvakaoma zvakaitika mumasangano, godo, kana zvakarapwa zvakanaka, zvinogona kuva chikonzero chekukura.Ichigona kuva danho rokutanga pakuwedzera kuzviziva uye kunyatsonzwisisa zvose zvemumwe wako uye zvehukama. " AM Pines, CF Bowes mu "Rudo Rudo: Ungaziva sei kuti godo rinobva kupi uye kuti ungakunda sei" paPsyylogy Today ( 1992)
- Bvuma godo rako uye ugamuchire kuti godo rako rinokuvadza imba yako.
- Kurukura midzi yehanzvadzi yako kana yewawakaroorana naye.
- Usatora mumwe wako.
- Somumwe wako ane godo, sarudza kushandura maitiro ako. Iwe unogona kudiwa kuti uwane mazano kune mumwe munhu.
- Ziva kuti haugoni kudzora mumwe munhu.
- Pamwe chete, sarudza mitemo yepamutemo yekuti iwe unogona kugara pamwe chete.
- Kana iwe usiri iye ane godo, usareva nhema kana kuedza kuvanza kwauri iwe kana kuti chii chauri kuita.
- Tsvaka rubatsiro rubatsiro semurume nemudzimai kana zvichidiwa.
* Article Yakaitwa naMarni Feuerman
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