Avo avo vakaroora vanoziva kuti kuroorana kunogona kugunzva zvakashata panguva ipi zvayo munguva. Kana zvikaitika pakutanga kwechato, izvi zvinogona kuva zvinotyisa uye zvichida zvinofanira kuva. Sezvo nyaya yekurara pamwe nekurambana inodzidzwa nekuwedzera, kutsvakurudza kunoratidza kuti mamiriro maviri ekufamba kwemakore maviri ekutanga pamwe anogona kuita kana kuputsa imba yavo.
Mazana Emakore Akutanga Anofananidzirei Nhamo Yenguva Dzakagara Yemhuri
Dr. Ted Huston weYunivhesiti yeTexas kuAustin akapa hurukuro pamusoro pechidzidzo pamusoro pezvakafanotaurwa zvekugutsikana kwemhuri uye kushungurudzika. "Ongororo iyi yakaratidza kuti vakaroorana 'vakaroora kana kuroorwa uye kuchinja mumubatanidzwa wavo pamusoro pemakore maviri ekutanga vanomiririra nguva yavo yekugara kwenguva refu mushure memakore gumi nematatu ... kushungurudzwa-sekuratidzwa mukuderedzwa kworudo, kuderera kudanana zvakanyanya, kuderedza yekutenda kuti mumwe wako anoteerera, uye kuwedzerwa kwemaitiro-kunosiyanisa vakaroorana vanotungamirirwa kurambana kune avo vanovaka hukama hwakasimba hwemhuri. " Vatsvakurudzi vakaonawo "kusiyana pakati pevanhu vakaroorana vakaroora uye vasina kufara vakaroorana vakaonekwa mushure mekunge vakasunga pfumo."
Kuongorora kweTexas kwakatarisa pamadzimai 156 akange akaroorana kwekutanga muna 1981. Vatsvakurudzi vakawana zvinotevera mushure memakore gumi nematanhatu:
- Vakaroorana 68 vakaroorana vachifara
- 32 vakaroorana vakanga vasina kufara vakaroorwa
- 56 vakaroorana vakanga varambana
Matambudziko Mumwedzi Yokutanga Yomuchato Inzvimbo Yakaipa
Vakaroorana vakarambana mukati memakore maviri ekutanga vakaratidza zviratidzo zvekuvhiringidzika uye vakanga vasina kunaka kune mumwe nemumwe mumwedzi miviri yekutanga yewanano yavo.
Icho chiratidzo chekutambudzika kana murume nemudzimai vakaroorana vatanga kusvikirwa mukati megore rokutanga. Vakaroorana avo vachiri kufara vakaroorana vakaroorana avo vakakwanisa kuva nemanzwiro akanaka pamusoro pevakaroorana navo panguva ino yekutanga munguva yehukama hwavo.
Kutarisana neHurmoon Blues
Kana iwe ukazviwana uchinge wakaora mwoyo mushure mekuroorana kwako, zvakanaka. Honeymoon blues yakajairika. Imi mose makabatwa mumararamiro ekuroorana anopedza nguva. Icho chokwadi chekutengesa kuti kana uchinge usisina dambudziko iroro kusangana naro, iwe uchava nepfungwa yekurasikirwa. Izvo zvakafanana ne-post-holiday inoderedzwa iyo vanhu vakawanda vanoona.
Zvisinei, zvinokosha kuti usatora nguva iyi yekuora mwoyo. Kuva wakagadzirira blues ichangobva kuchata kunogona kukubatsira kuti upfuure. Yenguva yekuenderera mberi nekuisa mararamiro ehupenyu hwako hwose pamwe chete. Sezvakataurwa nezvakaitwa naDkt. Huston, chinonyanya kukosha kune vakaroorana vangave vachichengetedza rudo rwavo kurarama.
Pane zvimwe zvinotarisirwa nevarume vaviri vachatarisana nazvo. Zvinangwa zvakakosha zvakakosha kugadziriswa gore rokutanga zvinosanganisira nzira yekugadzirisa uye kushandisa mari, ndiani achaita mabasa epamba, nzira dzokushandisa nguva yakawanda, kuwana nguva yekuita zvepabonde, kubata nemitemo, kunzwisisa kutsauka mune zvekunamata kana chitendero, kudzidza maitiro ekugadzirisa kukakavara, uye kukurukura zvinotarisirwa.
Zvinosuruvarisa, vazhinji vakaroorana vanodzivisa nyaya dzinogona kupisa, asi kuita kudaro kuchaita kuti mushure memubatanidzwa wenyu.
Zvitsvuku Zvidhori Kuona Zuva
- Kusina rudo uye kushamwaridzana
- Kusakwanisa kufara pamwechete
- Kuzvida
- Kutya kukakavara
- Kusina ruremekedzo
- Kunyanya-kuzvipira kwenguva kune zvimwe zvinhu
- Kupfuura-kushandisa mari
- Kunyanya kuvimba nevabereki
- Zvinetso zvepabonde
- Zvidhakwa uye / kana kushandisa zvinodhaka
- Kushushikana uye / kana kushungurudzwa
- Zvisingatarisiri zvisingatarisirwi
- Vakaroorana vaduku kana nekuda kwezvikonzero zvisina kunaka
Zvaungaita Kana Iwe Uri Kurwisana
Chinhu chakanaka chekuita ndechekukurukurirana pachena uye yakatendeseka nemumwe wako, pasina mhosva, pamusoro pekunetseka kwako.
Iwe unogona kutanga nokutaura chimwe chinhu chakadai, "Ndinofunga kuti isu tose tiri kutambura kuti tifanane nekuroorana." Kubva pano unogona kuona kuti zvingasarudzwa zvakadini iwe mose. Inogona kunge ichiverenga mabhuku ekubatsira, uchitsvaga kutungamirirwa kubva mumba mako kunamata, chikwata chekuroora kana kuroorana.
Vakai Nheyo Yokuti Imba Ibudirire
Kunyange zvazvo makore maviri ekutanga ataurwa kuti akaoma zvikuru, anowanzoyeukwa seanofadza zvikuru. Inogona kuva nguva yakawanda yehukama hwepedyo uye kuwanikwa. Pane zvakawanda zvekudzidza pamusoro pemumwe nemumwe uye zvakawanda zvekutaurirana kune mumwe. Munguva yechatochitsvaga chikwata chekuroorana, iwe unogona kuvaka zvose nheyo uye nekuisa mararamiro eupenyu hurefu, hune chinangwa. Saka fara nekudanana mumwe nomumwe!
> Chinyorwa: "The Connubial Crucible: Makore Ichangobva Kuwedzerwa Sevamwe Vanofananidza Nezvokuroorana, Kutambudzika, uye Kurambana" naTed L. Huston, John P. Caughlin, Renate M. Houts, Shanna E. Smith, naLaura J. George, rakabudiswa muna "Journal of Personality uye Social Psychology." (2001; 80: 237-252).
* Article yakagadziridzwa naMarni Feuerman