Deredza dambudziko rekurohwa zvepabonde pamakorojiji
Mutsamba yakashama yakatumirwa paIndaneti, Kenyon alumnus Michael Hayes anotsanangura kuti Kenyon College muGambier, Ohio yakashandura sei kurwisa kwepabonde kwehanzvadzi yake, Chelsie. Mutsamba yake, anoti ikhoji yakapandukira kuvimba kwake uye yakakundikana hanzvadzi yake apo nguva yakareba yekufambisa yakazopedzisira yawana uyo akapomerwa asina mhosva.
Nhoroondo yake yakajeka yezvakaitika haisi nyaya isina kujairika pamakorojijiji.
Kurwisa zvepabonde kumayunivhesiti eUnited States dambudziko guru. Kutaura zvazviri, kune chirwere chekuita zvepabonde nemumwe wevakadzi vashanu uye mumwe wevarume gumi nematanhatu ari kurwiswa zvepabonde pakoroji, maererano neNational Sexual Violence Resource Center.
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Vatsigiri vanoti chimwe chikonzero chiitiko chekurwisa zvepabonde pamakambani anoramba achikwirira ndeyekuti vatevedzeri vekoroji vari mukuramba nezvehuwandu hwechinetso. Vanotaurawo nezvezvikamu zvakasiyana-siyana zvekubika; kwenguva yakareba, zvinyorwa zvisingabatsiri pakubika; uye chido chokuchengetedza imwe chimiro chevanhu sezvikonzero zvinotambudzwa uye mhosva dzavo hazvibatsirwi zvakakodzera.
Maererano naVanessa Grigoriadis, munyori we "Blurred Lines: Zvepabonde Rethinking, Power & Consent pa Campus," 99 muzana yekoroji yepurogiramu yekutsvaga zvirongwa zvisingashandisi. Uyezve, anoti zvese zvikoro zveAmerica zvinodzidzisa "dzidziso yevanomiririra" misangano inobatsira vadzidzi kudzidzira kurega kuzvirwisa pachavo.
Asi purogiramu chete inoratidzirwa kushanda ndiyo yepamusoro yevakadzi vanozvidzivirira pachavo. Uye maererano naGrigoriadis, masunivhesiti matatu chete anodzidzisa rudzi urwu ikozvino. Aya ndiwo Oregon, Ohio University, uye Florida Atlantic University.
"Ndinofunga kuti zvikoro zvizhinji zveLogi League zviri kuita basa rakaisvonaka zvakare," Grigoriadis anowedzera.
"Ndichangobva kuverenga mitemo pamusoro pepabonde yakabudiswa neYunivhesiti yeAo Iowa, uye ndakaiwana ichi inonakidza.Vyunivhesiti dzechiKristu dzave dzichinonoka kutora mitemo yakawanda uye kudzivirira vakadzi vavo vechikadzi, asi vari kuipa ikozvino. chikoro chine boka guru rebhobho rinounza tani yemari inogona kuva nehuori mukati meboka iroro. "
"Makorogiji anofanira kubvuma kuti vana veAmerica vanoita zvepabonde pavanenge vari kukoreji, kunyange kana izvozvo zvisati zviri padzidzo, ndizvo zvinowanikwa vadzidzi vakawanda," Grigoriadis anowedzera. "Vakashongedzerwa nezivo iyi, vanofanirwa kutarisa zvakaoma mutambo wavo wepati.Havanoda kuisa vana kuvhesi yemisangano pamusoro pekusaita chibharo, ndizvo zvavanoita iyezvino.Vanoda kutarisa kunwa doro uye kunze kwekutonga hupenyu hwehupenyu pamakambani avo, zvikurukuru pavanhurume vanotungamirirwa nevarume uye mapoka emutambo. "
Mubhuku rake, Grigoriadis anoti yemayunivhesiti anogonawo kuvandudza mamiriro ezvinhu nekurambidza masangano akaoma mukati mavhiki ekutanga ekireji. "Vana vanoenda kumapato aya ... vachangobva kusiya dzimba dzavo dzevana," akanyora kudaro. "Havafanirwi kupinza mukana wekupisa mutambo panguva imwe chete ivo vanovhiringidzika."
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Asi kusvikira makoroji nemayunivhesiti vachiziva kuti vanofanira kuchinja nzvimbo yehuwandu mumasasa avo uye nekuvandudza zvirongwa zvekuziva nekudzivirira, mutoro wekuwedzera kukurudzirwa kwepabonde yekuziva kuchaitika kuvabereki nevadzidzi. Havana kungoziva chete kuipa kwehupombwe hwekuita zvepabonde asiwo vanoziva kudzivirirwa pachavo mumamiriro avo matsva uye asingawanzozivikanwi.
"Vakawanda vekuAmerica vanonzwisisa kuti 'kuzivikanwa zvekuita zvepabonde' (kana munhu waunozivana achirova mumwe munhu anoziva, zvakadai sokuti mukuru wepamusoro anotora zvinyorwa pamusangano weKrisimasi) zvinonyanya kuitika kupfuura 'kugadzirisa zvepabonde zvisina kufanira' (kana mutorwa achipinda mumumwe munhu pamba uye kumubata chibharo), "Grigoriadis anotsanangura.
"Asi ini ndinofunga kuti mukoroji, vaviri vakomana vanoda kunzwisisa kuti ivo vakakomberedzwa nematani evanhu vanoziva, uye havasi vose vanofanira kuvimbwa."
Heano mamwe mazano anopiwa naGrigoriadis.
Ziva "nzvimbo yakatsvuka." Nyanzvi dzezvematongerwo enyika dzinoongorora kushungurudzwa kwepabonde dzinotanga kutanga kwevatsva gore, "nzvimbo yakatsvuka" kana chikamu chine ngozi pane hupenyu hwevakadzijiji. Ichokwadi, United Educators, kambani yeUnited States yakawanda yehushuwarisi yveshuwarenzi, inofungidzira kuti 73 muzana yekorogi yekushungurudzwa kwepabonde kune vanyoro kana kuti sophomores, uye 88 muzana yezvikwata zvekubata chibharo vatsva.
"Munguva iyi, mudzidzi wechikadzi asingabatanidzi (zvinoreva munhu mutsva asati apinda mukunyadzisa) ndiye anonyanya kuisa pangozi yevadzidzi vose pamusasa wekushungurudza.Aizove pane imwe nyika isina kufanira kana imwe imba yokugara, kana kuti ' Achave akarembera pamwe nemumwe mukomana aisakwanisa kumukoka kumba kwake kana akatova necheka rakasimba, kana kuti ari kunwa doro rinodhaka, zvichida nokuti haana kunwa doro munguva yekare, "anodaro Grigoriadis.
Zvose izvi zvinomuisa pangozi yakanyanya yekutambudzwa nekuda kwepabonde nekuti iye mamiriro matsva, ane mashoma kana chero masimba akasimba. Zvakare, Grigoriadis anoti vadzidzi vatsva haafaniri kuiswa mukati mungozi yekambani tsika panguva iyo ivo vachazovhiringidzika. Vari kutumira mapoka emakirasi, vachiita shamwari itsva, kudzidza mapepa emusasa, nekuita kuti varinde.
Yeuka kuti shamwari dzako ndeipi . "Vana nhasi vari pasi pekufungidzira kuti shamwari dzavanazvo pa Facebook uye Snapchat ndezvechokwadi shamwari dzavo," anodaro Grigoriadis. "Shamwari idzi dzemazana 500 hadzisi shamwari dzadzo uye kufunga kuti dziri nengozi." Kana iwe uchienda kumutambo, uye iwe unofunga kuti iwe wakakombwa ne "shamwari," iwe unogona kunge uchida kutevera mukomana anoti anoda kuwanwa doro kubva kumba kwake kusvika kuimba iyoyo, uye usati wazviziva, iwe uri muimba ine musuo wakavharwa uye mumwe munhu asiri shamwari ishamwari. "
Grigoriadis anoti izvozvi zvinoenda kune varume. Vanofanira kuziva kuti kutora vakadzi vekudzidzira navo mudzimba avo vanofunga kuti 'shamwari' navo nokuti vaifarira mifananidzo imwe neimwe pa Instagram inotyisa.
"Vasikana vave vachitaura nenzwi guru pamusoro pekuvhiringidzwa kwavanoita nehuzhinji hwezvavanoita zvepabonde parejiji, uye hamudi kuva mumwe wevakomana avo vanoputsa mumwe munhu kunyange iwe usingarevi," anodaro Grigoriadis. "Vakomana vanoda mitemo yekunakidza kwavo, uye rimwe remitemo iyo inofanirwa kuva iwe usingatori kumba chero musikana anoita sewadhakwa kubvuma."
Usapindira muchikwata chekutaurirana . Maererano naGrigoriadis, anogara achikurudzira vashandi vatsva kuti varambe vari muboka nevevamwe vadzidzi.
"Havafaniri kutanga kutaurirana nevana kubva kumadziro avo pasi, kana boka ravo rekuvimbisa, kana boka ravo remitambo," anodaro. "Hazvina mubatsiro kurudzi rwekukurukurirana varume vari kutaurirana pa 4 am pahurukuro yeboka. Panguva iyoyo yeusiku, teknolojia ino inova nzira yekudyana kuti vaite zvepabonde uye hazvigoni kufungidzira kuti vamwe vakomana, izvi hazvirevi kushandiswa kwevasikana.Uye usakanganwa kuti Brock Turner ari kuStanford aiva neboka-kutumira mameseji neshamwari dzake kubva kuStanford kushambira boka nguva dzose apo akarova musikana uyo mushure mokurwisa. "
Ramba uri muboka panguva dzose . Grigoriadis anoti nhamba yake imwe chidimbu chekupinda mu-freshman musikana ndeyokugara muboka. "Sembeveve sezvamunofunga kuti unonamatira pamwe chete mumapoka maduku achifamba mumusasa kusvika kumaFat Party, itai izvozvo uye musasiya mumwe musikana mushure mushure mokuenda kumba," anodaro.
Anotaura zvakare kuti njodzi huru yekurwisana nepabonde haisi pane imwe nzvimbo yepati. Icho chiri shure kwemaFat party. "Ndiko paunodzokera kune mumwe mukomana ari kunze kwekamba mushure memutambo nokuti ivo vakabuda kunwa doro pamutambo. Kana kunyange kana muchidzokera kumarara enyu musi wa2am, uye musarudza kumira muimba yomukomana iwe wakangosangana kamwechete kare apo iwe waive uchitenga chiduku che pizza muguta asi unoitika kuti ugarame pasi maviri kubva pasi iwe Unofanirwa kuve wakanyatsojeka kuti sei uri muimba yomukomana uyo pa2 am "
Akasimbisa kuti "kungozvimirira" hachisi chikonzero chakakwana. "Kana iwe uchida kubvumirana naye, hukuru.Kana iwe usingadi kubvumirana naye, dzokera kumba kwako.Zvirevo uye zvakanaka kugadzira chisarudzo zvinokosha pano usazviisa mumamiriro ezvinhu ane ngozi. "
Shandisa "hongu" zvinoreva hongu "semutungamiri . Munguva yakapfuura, mutemo pamusoro pekuita zvepabonde nemumwe munhu ndewekuti "kwete hazvireve" zvinoreva kuti mukadzi aifanira kuti "kwete" kuitira kuti amise tsika yemunhu. Asi Grigoriadis anoti akawana kuti "hongu zvinoreva hongu" ndiyo nzira yakanaka kwazvo.
"Izvozvo zvinoreva kuti varume zvino vanofanira kunyatsotsvaga kana kubvuma kana kupiwa chiratidzo chekuti angave mukadzi anoda kuita zvepabonde," anodaro. "Kunyarara hakubvumirwi." Mukomana anogona kuti, 'Wakanaka here?' Uye musikana anogona kupindura. "
Uyezve, kana musikana wacho akadhakwa kuti apindure hongu, saka hazvirevi. Grigoriadis anonzwa iyi nhungamiro itsva inogona kubudirira chaizvo kana zvikoro zvekuchikoro zvichitora.
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Kushungurudza zvepabonde pamakorojiji ndiko dambudziko riri kukura iro vabereki nevadzidzi vanoda kutora nguva yekudzidza zvakawanda pamusoro. Uye sezvo makoroji eUnited States nemayunivhesiti vachiri kuedza kubata kuchinja kwepabonde, mutoro wekudzidzisa vatsva vanouya pamusoro pengozi dzekurwisa zvepabonde kunowira kuvabereki uye vadzidzi ivo pachavo. Zvakare, vabereki nevadzidzi vanofanira kuziva kuti kurwisa zvepabonde pamakorojiji kwakasiyana nedzimwechete-iyo inofungidzirwa kubatwa chibharo.
"Hatisi kutaura pamusoro pomumwe munhu asingazivi kuti akavanza mumasango kunze kweraibhurari." Uye kakawanda hatisi kunyanya kutaura pamusoro pechisimba chemuviri kana maitiro anonyadzisa, "anodaro Grigoriadis. "Izvo ibenzi, isina kufara, uye hongu, kutadza kwemhosva nevechiri kuyaruka vanoyambuka muganhu kana vachifunga kuti vanogona kubvisa."
Chinokosha ndechekuti kuve nechokwadi kuti college yako itsva haina kungonzwisisa chete kuti njodzi ndeyechokwadi asiwo inoziva nzira yekuderedza mikana ichaitika muupenyu hwake.
> Sources:
> Grigoriadis V. Blurred Lines: Zvepabonde Rethinking, Power & Consent pa Campus, Houghton Mifflin Harcourt, New York, 2017.
> Nyaya Nezvekuita zvepabonde, National Sexual Violence Resource Center, 2015. http://www.nsvrc.org/sites/default/files/publications_nsvrc_factsheet_media-packet_statistics-about-sexual-violence_0.pdf