Kutaurira Kuronga uye Kubvuma Zvaunogona Kusingakwanisi
Zvinoratidzika zviri nyore kwazvo kuti zvive zvechokwadi, asi kubvuma kuti kudhakwa kwechirwere chirwere chisingaperi uye kwete kukundikana kwega-ndicho chinhu chinokosha pakuwana kupora kwenguva refu.
Mune mamwe mazwi, kurega kutonga kwako, ona zvikanganiso zvako, uye usangana nematambudziko (iwe une dambudziko doro) ndiyo danho rinokosha pakuenda.
Zvino, mushure mokugamuchira kubwinya kwako, iwe unogona kuenda mberi nekuchinja zvaunokwanisa (zviri mukati mehutongi hwako).
Kugamuchira Doro
Iyi ndima shomanana pamusoro pekugamuchirwa inogona kuva imwe yezvinyorwa zvakataurwa kudarika mabhuku. Inobva ku 4th edition yeAlcoholics Anonymous kana The Big Book sezvainozivikanwa zvikuru.
Chitsauko chakanyorwa naDkt Paul Ohliger, uyo akafa musi weChishanu, Chivabvu 19, 2000, muMission Viejo, California pazera remakore makumi mapfumbamwe nematatu.
"Uye kugamuchirwa ndiyo mhinduro kumatambudziko angu nhasi." Pandinenge ndavhiringidzika, ndechokuti ndinowana munhu, nzvimbo, chinhu kana mamiriro ezvinhu - chimwe chinhu chehupenyu hwangu - hachigamuchirwi kwandiri, uye handigoni kuwana hukama kusvikira ndakagamuchira munhu uyo, nzvimbo, chinhu kana mamiriro ezvinhu sezviri chaizvo izvo zvinofanirwa kuva panguva ino.
"Hapana, zvachose hapana chinoitika munyika yaMwari nekukanganisa Kusvikira ndisingakwanisi kubvuma kudhakwa kwangu, handigoni kugara ndakanyanyisa, kunze kwekunge ndagamuchira hupenyu huzere zvizere mumararamiro ehupenyu, handigoni kufara.Ndinoda kuisa pfungwa pane zvakawanda zvandinoda ichishandurwe munyika yese pane izvo zvinoda kuchinjwa mandiri uye nemafungiro angu. "
Mharidzo yekutora pamba apa ndeyekuti mafungiro (kwete kungofunga) kubvuma kudhakwa kwepfungwa kunokosha kuti uve zvakanaka uye kudzivisa kudzokerazve.
Pane flip side, mafungiro asina kubvuma kudhakwa, kunotsigirwa nekuramba, mhosva, kurwisana, kana kupukunyuka kurwara, kunoita kuti munhu ave pangozi yekudzokerazve, kunyange kana munhu achigona kugamuchira chirwere ichi.
Zvimwe zviratidzo zvekushushikana kwepfungwa zvinogona kusanganisira manzwiro ekutsamwa kana kunyadziswa pamusoro pekusimudzira doro. Kutya uye kuzvidzora kune mamwe maviri manzwiro anodzivisa kubvuma uye rugare rwepfungwa.
Kuburikidza neunyanzvi hwokupa mazano kana chirwere (kana munhu mumwe nomumwe, boka, kana maviri), munhu anogona kudzidza kudziziva maitiro aya ekunyanya kukanganisa mafungiro uye kwaanobva ((somuenzaniso, kuburikidza nekuongorora zvisinganzwisisiki zvehupenyu hwevana). Zvadaro, iye anogona kugadzira nzira dzakanaka dzinokurudzira kugamuchirwa, sekuvandudza pfungwa dzakanaka.
Kutsigirwa kubva kune vezera uyewo chikamu chinokosha pakugamuchirwa.
Muzvokwadi, maererano nechimwe chidzidzo, kupinda kune rimwe boka rekutsigira kunwa doro rine simba rakasimba pane kana munhu asina kukwanisa kugutsikana mumagariro ekudhakwa kwewaini. Muchidzidzo chakafanana, kuva nemafungiro akanaka kwakanyatsokonzera kugamuchira zvirwere.
Kubvuma Kugamuchira Nokurapa
Kana ukangonzwisisa kukosha kwekubvuma kudhakwa kwako, zvakakosha kuedza kubatsirwa, kana iwe usati watova. Kune huwandu hwehutano huripo hunowanikwa kuti hubatsire kupora kubva kune dambudziko rako doro. Nhanho yako yekutanga inofanira kuva yekutaura nemukuru wako wekuchiremba.
Anokwanisa kukupa kuendeswa kurapwa uye kuona kana mishonga inokodzera iwe.
Kunze kwemishonga inogona kukubatsira kuti umire kana kuderedza kunwa kwako, kune mararamiro ehutano akafanana nehutano-behavioral therapy kana kukurudzirwa kusimbisa therapy. Kubvira pakutsigira kwemhuri yakasimba kunowedzera mukana wemunhu wekugara asingabatsiri, mazano ekuroorana nemhuri anowanzobatanidzwa mukurapa.
Pakupedzisira, mapoka ekubatana-soro akafanana neAlcoholics Anonymous (AA) kana mamwe mapurogiramu gumi nemaviri anopa rubatsiro rwevamwe, izvo zvingabatsira zvikuru kudzivirira kudzokerazve uye kuchengeta kudzivisa.
Shoko Rinobva
Mukuguma, zvakakosha kuyeuka kuti kugamuchira chirwere hazvirevi kuti unofanirwa kuifarira, kuregerera, kana kutozvidza. Zvinorevei kuti iwe uri kubvuma kusava nesimba kwako uye kukwana - uri kurega kuenda, saka iwe unogona kutanga kutorazve nekuporesa.
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