Kunyangwe munharaunda yezvehutano uwandu hwekuziva kushandiswa kwemishonga inowedzera kuwedzera, uye kushorwa kuri kuderera, paunoshandisa zvinhu, zvakadai soro kana madhiragi, dzimwe nguva zvinogona kuoma kuwana hutano hwehutano. Vanachiremba vanozivikanwa kuti dzimwe nguva vanosarudza varwere vanoshandisa zvinhu, avo vane nhoroondo yekushandisa zvinhu, kana vanhu vane zvimwe zvinodhaka.
Uku kusarura kunogona kuratidza nenzira dzakasiyana-siyana.
Kuwana ruzivo kune chiremba kunogona kuva kwakaoma. Vanhu vazhinji vanoshandisa zvinhu vanowana kuti vanofanira kushanda kumahofisi echiremba kuti vave murwere, uye musambonzwa zvakare kubva kwavari. Vamwe vanogona kuona chiremba, asi vanoona kuti kana vakazarura nhoroondo yavo yekushandisa zvinhu, havakwanisi kuwana mitsara yemishonga inoda, kana kuti vanoramba kurapwa kwakakodzera, kunyange kune mamiriro ezvinhu anoita seasingaenderani nemishonga yavo, kunze kwekuti ivo vanozvipira "kuchenesa uye kuchenesa" kutanga.
Kunyange kana iwe uchikwanisa kuona chiremba, uye vanokupa kurapa, kushanyira chiremba wako dzimwe nguva kungava kushungurudza uye kunyange kuora mwoyo. Chiremba angabvunza kuti nei wakatanga kushandisa zvinhu-nyaya yakareba yakawanda kudarika iwe unogona kusvika mumaminitsi gumi, uye zvichida iwe wausingadi kutaurira. Iwe unogona kunzwa uchimanikidzwa nachiremba wako kuti arege kushandiswa kwemishonga, sezvo ichi kazhinji chiri chinhu chimwe chiremba wehutano wehutano achava nehanya nazvo.
Vangabvunza kana iwe uri kufunga zvekushandisa zvakare, kana iwe uchinge uchinge uchinzvenga. Kune vamwe vanhu vane nhoroondo yezvinhu zvinoshandiswa, izvi zvinogona kukwana kuzviisa kure kushanyira chiremba wavo zvachose.
Nei Machiremba Achizvidza Vanopindwa Muropa Nevarwere?
Kusarura kune varwere kwave kuchiitika mukati mehutano hwemakumi emakore.
Nguva yakawanda uye simba iro murwere anoda, zvinowanzoitika kuti achasarurwa. Kunyanya kuti chiremba achakumbirwa kuita chimwe chinhu chaanenge asina kunzwa akasununguka kuita, kunyanya murwere achasarudzwa.
Icho hachisi chikonzero, uye haisi pfungwa yokuti izvi zviito zvakanaka. Kana iwe zviri nani kunzwisisa chinangwa chechiremba wako, zvimwe unogona kunzwisisa zviri nani kuti uwane chii chaunoda.
Nzira iyo hurongwa huno hwehutano hwakagadzirirwa huripo, pane dzakawanda zviitiko apo vanachiremba uye vanopa utano hwehutano vasingabhadharwi kuti vashandise nguva yakawanda nemwi. Vanobhadhara mari yakafanana yemari kana vachipedza maminitsi mashanu newe kana awa imwe newe. Hazvina mhosva pasinei nokuti une inshuwarisi yehuruzhinji kana yega, vatsigiri vegore rimwe nerimwe vanobvunzurudza kuti vachabhadharwa zvakadini pamhando ipi neipi yebasa ravanopa. Uye zvakaitika kare pamusoro pemakore mashoma apfuura, iyo yero yekubhadhara yakaderera.
Tarisa pazviri nenzira iyi: Mubasa rako, unoramba uchiita basa raunofanirwa kuita. Iwe unoramba uchishanda maawa ose aunofanirwa kushanda, asi mukuru wako anosarudza kukubhadhara zvishoma pasi gore rino kupfuura iwe wakabhadharwa gore rapera, raive risati rapera gore rapfuura, nezvimwe zvakadaro.
Ndizvo here kana kuti zvakanaka? Aiwa. Asi ichokwadi kune vanachiremba.
Kana iwe uri kuzvipira, iwe unoziva iwewo unofanirwa kubhadhara renti, kuripa mushandi wako (kusanganisira inshuwarisi yehutano), kuripa zvinhu zvose zvinoshandiswa kupa hupiro hwaunopa-asi uri kubhadharwa zvishoma kudarika iwe waibhadhara kare. Izvi ndizvo zvinotarisirwa navanachiremba.
Mhinduro yacho? Iwe uchiri kuda mari yaunenge uchiwana kare, zvichida zvakanyanya sezvo mari inowanzoenda kumusoro, saka nzira chete yekuita mutsauko ndeyokuona vamwe varwere muzuva. Kuona vamwe varwere, une nguva shomanana nemurwere mumwe nomumwe. Kana uchinge uine nguva shoma, iwe unoda imwe nzira yekuongorora iyo varwere vachatora nguva yakawanda .
Ichi ndicho chikonzero chakaoma kuvarwere vane mhando ipi neipi yezvinetso nekurapa kwavo kuti vaone chiremba. Zvinoshamisa, avo vane hutano hwakanaka vanove nyore kuwana hutano hwehutano. Kunyange zvazvo pasina kodzero kana kururamisira, ndiyo nzira yedu yekuAmerica yehutano inoshanda, uye pane imwe nzvimbo, kuti hutano hunoita sei mune dzimwe nyika pamwe chete.
Unogona kufunga kuti izvi hazvina basa-zvichida iwe haugoni kushanda kana kusada kushanda, uye iwe haugoni kurondedzera izvi. Chiremba wako angangoita akapfuma uye akabudirira achienzaniswa newe. Asi vangave vane hanya chaiyo pamusoro pekuti vanogona kuchengetedza tsika yavo. Zvinotora nguva yakawandisa nemari kuti zvive zvakakosha, kugadzirisa nekuita tsika, kubhadhara chivako uye vashandi, uye vanoda kuona vakawanda varwere kuti vaite basa.
Kusarura kwakabatana neArain Medication
Panewo rudzi rwakasarudzwa rwekusarura kune vanhu vanoda mishonga inorwadza, kunyanya avo vanoita sevanovimbiswa nepamusoro peinkillers . Kune mitemo yezvematongerwo enyika uye yezvematongerwo enyika iyo inotarisa izvo chiremba angada kuti ataure maererano nezvinoonekwa sepamutemo. Chiremba anobata marwadzo nevarwere vane zvinodhaka anogona nyore nyore kuwira munzvimbo iyoyo yeguru-uye vanogona kusungwa vasati vapihwa chero tsanangudzo.
Vanachiremba vanongoronga-kureva, zvinoreva kuti maererano nemaonero ehurumende, vari kurondedzera marwadzo akawanda kupfuura ivo vanofanirwa (izvo zvisiri nguva dzose zvinonzwisisika), vacharasikirwa nemvumo yavo. Kunyange kana vasingarasikirwi malayisensi avo, chero kukanganisa kupi zvako muitiro wavo kunogona kukonzera matambudziko, uye kwete kungoita chiremba iyeye nevashandi vake, asi kune vese varwere vake. Saka, vanachiremba vazhinji vanoramba kungoona varwere vasingazivi avo vari kukumbira mishonga inorwadza, pane kungoisa pangozi zvinhu zvose.
Chimwe chikonzero icho vanachiremba vanosarudza varwere vachikumbira mishonga inorwadza hachisi kunyanya kunetseka kuti iyo mishonga inenge ichingopfuura-inoshandiswa nemurwere, kana kuti inotengeswa kune mumwe munhu, iyo inogona kukuvadzwa kana kuurayiwa. Mumakumi mashoma mashoma akapfuura, vanhu vanowedzera kuwedzera zvinodhaka uye mamwe matambudziko maererano nemishonga inorayirwa zvinorwadza, uye pane vanhu vakawanda vanofa nekudarika , kubva pakutora mishonga yakawanda iyi kupfuura kare.
Matambudziko muTrapeutic Relationship
Vanachiremba vanewo hukama hwokurapa nevarwere vavo. Kuti hukama huve huri pamwe chete, uye kuti chiremba aikwanise kubatsira murwere, panofanira kuve nekuvimbana. Vanachiremba vakawanda vanonzwa vasingakwanisi kubatsira vanhu vane zvinodhaka, uye vamwe vanga vakuvadzwa nevanhu vane zvinodhaka ivo pachavo.
Kunyange pasina munhu anofanirwa kusarura kubva kune zviitiko zvakasara, mune dzimwe mamiriro ezvinhu, vanhu vane zvinodhaka vave vachishora uye kunyange nechisimba kune vanachiremba kana vashandi vavo. Vanogona kureva pamusoro pekuoma kwemishonga yavo kana zvimwe zviratidzo, zvichiita kuti zvive zvakaoma kuti chiremba avabatsire zvakanaka. Vakapindwa muropa nevarwere dzimwe nguva vanogona kushandisa maitiro ekunyengedza, zvakadai sedhigirii mbiri , kutengesa mishonga zvisiri pamutemo, kureva nhema pamusoro pezviratidzo zvavo kuwana mishonga yakawanda yemishonga , uye kuba zvinhu zvekurapa nezvimwe zvinhu zvevashandi nevamwe varwere.
Kunyangwe izvi zvingasava mufambiro wako, uye pangave pasina mamiriro ezvinhu aungaita zvinhu izvi, chero nguva iyo izvi zvichiitika, inosimbisa maitiro ekuti vanhu vane zvinodhaka kana vanoshandisa zvinhu zvose vanoita zvinhu izvi. Apo vanachiremba vanonzwa kuti munhu akapindwa muropa haadi chaizvo kuti rubatsiro rwavo rurega asi achangoda kuishandisa, kutora varwere vanoshandisa zvinhu zvinogona kuonekwa sematambudziko akawanda kupfuura akakodzera. Kusvikira vanhu vanoshandisa zvinhu vanogona kuchinja mifananidzo yavo isina kuvimbika, kusarura uku kunogona kupfuurira.
Zvaungaita Kana Iwe Uchifanira Kuona Chiremba Wako
Chinokosha kukundwa kushorwa kwekuti vanhu vanoshandisa zvinhu neavo vane zvinodhaka zvinotarisana nekutarisana ndeyekusiyana nemafungiro. Ratidza kuremekedza chiremba wako uye iye kana vashandi vake. Izvi zvinoreva kutora nguva yekuita kuti uve nechokwadi kuti wakachena uye wakajeka muchitarisiko chako, unoteerera usati wataura, uye unotaura nekuremekedza kune vashandi uye vanachiremba.
Kunyangwe iwe unganzwa uchinetseka kana kunyange uchigumburwa nemafungiro echiremba kana vashandi, chenjerera kuti usazvidza kana kunyomba kana iwe uchitaura. Kushandiswa kwezvinhu kunogona kukanganisa kuzvidzora kwevanhu, asi iyi imwe nguva apo zvakakosha kuedza kuita. Yeuka, iwe ndiwe nyanzvi yekuziva kwako, asi chiremba ndiye nyanzvi yezvinhu zvingakubatsira kuti ufare.
Kana kushanyira kwako kuna chiremba hakurevi zvakananga nemishonga yako yekushandisa, uye iye haazokubvunzi nezvehupfumi hwenhau yako yekushandisa, zvingasave zvakakosha kuti ukurukure naye. Zvisinei, kazhinji pfuma yako kushandisa nhoroondo yakakosha, saka iva nechokwadi kuti iwe unoudza pamusoro peizvi kana wakabvunzwa, uyewo iwe uri kupi pane zvaunofunga nezvekurapa.
Vanachiremba vazhinji vari kutamira kune dzimwe nzira dzisina mishonga mishonga yemamiriro ezvinhu akasiyana-siyana, zvose nekuda kwezvinetso vanhu vanobudirira semugumisiro wekutora mishonga-kusanganisira migumisiro pamwe nekudhakwa-uye nokuti dzimwe mishonga dzinogona kuva dzakasimba uye dzakasarudzwa nguva refu. Saka usazvitora iwe pachako kana chiremba wako anoratidza nzira isiri yemishonga yekugadzirisa chirwere chako, uye kuipa kuedza kwakanaka, panzvimbo pokusarudza pakarepo iyo isingashandisi.
Kana iwe unotambura nekurwadziwa kusingaperi uye iwe une nhoroondo yekushandisa zvinoshandiswa kana kusagadzikana, ziva kuti chiremba wako angada kuongorora dzimwe nzira dzokurapa dzisingakuisi pangozi yekudzoka zvakare . Edza kuchengeta pfungwa yakasununguka, uye uone kuti kurwadziwa kusingagumi kwakaoma, asi hazvibviri kurapa pasina mishonga. Mune zvimwe zviitiko, kuenderera mberi kwemuti we methadone kunogona kuva nzira yekugadzirisa marwadzo uye kudzivisa kudzokera kune dzimwe opioid. Mune dzimwe mamiriro ezvinhu, kuchinja maitiro uye kushandisa dzimwe nzira dzokurapa, dzakadai sekufunga-kunokonzerwa nekuderedza kushungurudzika, kunogona kushanda zvakakwana kugadzirisa. Aya maitiro haazogadziri kurwadziwa nenzira iyo iyo madhiragi anoita, asi haazokukuvadzei. Hapana munhu anogona kudzivisa kurwadziwa zvachose, uye nzira isiri yemishonga inogona kuita kuti upenyu hureruke pasina kusagadzikana.