Vana vanogara mumisha umo kune vabereki vanoshandiswa zvisina kunaka vanogona kuwana hupenyu hwakaoma, husingafungiri uye hunovhiringidza. Dzimwe nguva vanototenda kuti doro kana kushandisa zvinodhaka ndeye mhosva yavo.
Kutarisana nehutsinye uye kusagadziriswa kwehupenyu hwavo hwemusha, vana vanogona kugamuchira misangano isingaenderani. Vanogona kunzwa vaine mhosva uye nyadzi vachiedza kuchengetedza mhuri "zvakavanzika." Kazhinji vanonzwa vakasiyiwa nekuda kwekusaziva kwevabereki vavo.
Chii Chingaudza Vana?
Kana mhuri ikasununguka nekuda kwekushandisa zvinodhaka, kana vana vakabviswa pamba, vamwe vanobva vadzoka uye vachinyara apo vamwe vanogona kuputika uye nechisimba. Vanowanzotanga nyaya nekuzviremekedza, kushamwaridzana, kudzivirira, uye kuvimba.
Iwe unoudzei vana kana mumwe wavo kana vabereki vavo vose vari doro kana vanodhakwa? Unotsanangura sei mhirizhonga? Chokutanga uye chakakosha, nokuti kuvimba kunenge nguva dzose iri nyaya, iwe unovaudza chokwadi.
Maererano neNational Center pamusoro pekushandisa Dambudziko reHuman and Child Welfare, aya ndiwo mharidzo iyo vana, nevabereki vanodhakwa kana vanodhaka, vanoda kunzwa:
Mishonga Inorwara
Vana vanoda kuziva kuti vabereki vavo havasi "vakaipa" vanhu, ivo vanhu vanorwara vane chirwere . Kana vakadhakwa kana vakakwirira, dzimwe nguva vabereki vanogona kuita zvinhu izvo zvinoreva kana zvinhu zvisinganzwisisi.
Haisi Chako Chako
Vana vanofanira kunzwisisa kuti haisi icho chikonzero mubereki anonwa zvakanyanya kana kushandiswa kwemishonga.
Havana kukonzera kudhakwa uye havagoni kuimisa.
Iwe Hausi Woga
Vana vanoda kuziva kuti mamiriro avo ezvinhu haasi akasiyana uye haasi ivo voga. Mamiriyoni evana vane vabereki vanopindwa muropa nezvinodhaka kana vanodhakwa. Vanofanira kuziva kuti kunyange kuchikoro chavo pachavo, kune vamwe vana vari mumamiriro akafanana.
Zvakanaka Kutaura
Vana vari mudzimba vane zvinodhaka vanofanira kuziva kuti zvakakodzera kuti vataure nezvechinetso, vasingafaniri kutya, kunyara kana kunyara. Havafaniri kunyengera, kuvhara nekuchengeta zvakavanzika.
Vanofanira kukurudzirwa kuwana mumwe munhu wavanovimba naye - mudzidzisi, mazano, mubereki wekurera, kana kuti nhengo dzeboka rekutsigira vezera saAlateen .
The Seven Cs
Sangano reNational for Children of Alcoholics rinoratidza kuti vana vane hutano hwemhuri vanodzidza uye vanoshandisa zvinotevera "7 Cs of Addiction:"
Handina Kuita izvozvo.
Handigoni Kurapa .
Handikwanisi Kudzora .
Ndinokwanisa Kuzvitarisira ini
Nokukurukurirana manzwiro angu,
Kuita Sarudzo dzakanaka, uye
Nokuzvipemberera.
Vana vanobva mumisha umo kune vabereki vanoshandisa zvinodhaka vanowanzovhunduka, vasurukirwa uye kakawanda vanonzwa vakazvimiririra kubva munzanga. Kunyangwe iwe uchiendesa shoko racho zvakakwana kana kwete, kuvapa mumwe munhu waanogona kutaura naye danho rinokosha pakurarama kwavo.
Sources:
Breshears, EM, et. al. " Kunzwisisa Kudhakwa Kwemishonga uye Kugadzirisa Kudzorera: Nhungamiro yeVashandi Vemagariro Evana ." Dhipatimendi reUnited Health Health and Human Services. Rockville, MD: Kudhakwa Kwemishonga uye Mental Health Services Administration, 2004.
National Association for Children of Alcoholics. Hasi Chikanganiso Chako! (PDF). 2006.