Kuvakazve Upenyu Hwako Kana Wawakaroorana Naye Afa
Rufu rwemumwe wako ndiro dambudziko guru remuchato. Rimwe zuva iwe wakaroorana. Zuva rinotevera iwe hauna wakaroora, uri woga uye unoshungurudza. Hapana chinhu chisingaperi. Chinokosha ndechokuti iwe unoda kuziva nzira yekufamba nayo munharaunda iyi yakaoma, kuburikidza nezera rezvinyorwa, zvisarudzo, maitiro ekuzadza, kushamisika, kusurukirwa, kutsamwa, kupesana, kutya, mwoyo wakaputsika, uye kuora mwoyo.
Zvisinei, panewo kunogona kugamuchirwa uye kutanga kwatsva.
"Mumwe nomumwe zuva rimwe nerimwe acharasikirwa nezvose zvaakada kana kutarisira.Iyo ndiyo chokwadi chehupenyu pachahwo ... Asi kushungurudzika kwedu hakusi kungosiya munhu watinoda kana kutarisana nehupenyu hwedu hwekufa.Kana chiri kurasikirwa nebasa, kuroorana, kurota, kana huduku hwedu, isu tose takaita kuti mwoyo yedu ive yakaputsika.Uye mumwe nomumwe akarasikirwa nemhosva yedu, uye akaita zvikanganiso, uye akakuvadzwa uye akakuvadzwa munzira.Tose tine nhau dzedu dzega apo, kupi, sei, chii, uye ndeupi wepfungwa dzedu. Mumwe nomumwe wemifananidzo yedu anonyatsosiyana uye isu tose tine nhau ... kushungurudzika mamiriro evanhu, tambo inosungira isu tose pamwe chete. " David Treadway, Ph.D., "Kushungurudzika Zvakanaka: Kupemberera Kushungurudzika Kwoupenyu Hwedu." pa PsychologyToday.com (2012)
"Munhu wese anonzwa kurasikirwa zvakasiyana, uye chinhu chekupedzisira vanhu vanoda pavanenge vachitambudzika zvakanyanya ndechokufunga kuti vari kuita chimwe chinhu chakaipa nokuti havagone kuwana nzira yekuita kuti vanzwe zviri nani Kurangarira kuti dzimwe nguva hapana chinobatsira chinogona kukumisa iwe kubva kuzvipa mhosva mukati mekutambudzika kwako. "
Will Schwalbe, "The Loss of Loved One: How To Get Through It" paHuffingtonPost.com (2013)
Nhano dzekufa nekufa
Elizabeth Kubler-Ross akanyora makore mazhinji akapfuura pamusoro pe "zvikamu zvekutambudzika": kuramba (kushamisika), kuburitsa, kutsamwa, kuora mwoyo, uye kugamuchirwa. Zvakakosha kuziva kuti zvikamu izvi hazvive nehurongwa humwe uye kuti vamwe vanhu vangazviwana ivo pachavo mumutsara vaifunga kuti vakanga vakunda kare.
Iyi nhanho inowanzova chikamu chekushungurudzika. Usazvibvumira kuti ubatanidzwe nekuita zvinhu pane imwe nguva. Iwe uchaziva nguva yakakodzera yekudurura zvidhi uye zvipfigiro uye kugadzirisa zvinhu zvako sehombodo uye zvikwereti. Mira kusvikira iwe wagadzirira.
"Uye chinhu changu chokutanga pamusi wega wega ndeichi: Mukai.Kana ini ndichikwanisa kuvhara izvi, ndatoita chimwe chinhu uye ndinogona kupfuurira nebhizimisi rehupenyu uye ndichiedza kukudza kurangarira kwevaya vandinoda vasina kwenguva refu pano. " Will Schwalbe, "The Loss of Loved One: How To Get Through It" paHuffingtonPost.com (2013)
Zvakanaka kuchema Kana Wawakaroorana Naye Afa
Njodzi inokosha. Saka ndiyo misodzi. Kuchema kunobatsira. Kuchema isimbi inoporesa. Dr. Joyce Brothers anorondedzera misodzi se "mafungiro ekutanga."
Misodzi ine leucine-enkephalin iyo imwe yehupfungwa 'hurombo hwepanyama hunoderedza. Misodzi inewo hormone inokurudzira kuchengetedzwa kwemisodzi - prolactin. Vakadzi vane prolactini yakawanda kupfuura varume, iyo ndeimwe yezvikonzero nei vachigona kuchema kupfuura varume.
Kuita Nevamwe
Vanhu vazhinji havafari nerufu. Somugumisiro, vachataura uye vanoita zvinhu zvisinganzwisisiki. Edza kukanganwira pamusoro pevanhu ava vasingazivi zvingaita kana kutaura.
Vanowanzoziva kuti zvakakodzera kutaura zita romumwe wako, kana kutarisa iwe muziso, kana kuti kukupa.
Mazororo uye Mazuva Akakosha kuMudzimai Anopona
Upenyu hwako hwakachinjwa uye hunochinja. Karenda ichava nemusiyano wakasiyana iwe semusi wako wegore wechato, Zuva reValentine, zviitiko zvakakosha, mazuva ekuberekwa, uye mazororo anosvika. Mazuva aya anofanira kutarisirwa. Rongedza mberi kwavari uye ita zvaunoda kuita. Usazvirega iwe uchitungamirirwa nemhuri neshamwari.
Kutarisa kune Ramangwana
Dr. Joyce Brothers vakanyora mubhuku rake, Vakarasikirwa , "Uye kana pane imwe nguva yakanaka kune mumwe munhu akanaka wandinoshamwaridzana naye muupenyu hwangu, pachava nekona iyo isina chinhu yemweya wangu.
Ndinoziva zvandaiva nazvo uye zvandakarasika. Ndinotarisira kuti handizopedza hupenyu hwangu hwose ndoga. Asi kana ndikadaro, handingazvidzori ini. Upenyu hunoenderera mberi, uye ini ndakagadzirira kubatana nechirongwa zvakare. "
Nhoroondo yeUnited States inotaura kuti paavhareji, chirikadzi inoroorazve mumakore matatu ekufa kwemadzimai avo, uye chirikadzi zvakarezve mumakore mashanu. Nyanzvi dzinotaura kuti zvinokosha, zvakadaro, kuroorwa nekuda kwerudo ... kwete nokuti iwe uri woga.
* Article yakagadziridzwa naMarni Feuerman