Chikonzero nei nzvimbo yakasvibiswa mupfungwa inokonzera kukuvadza
Chimwe chinhu chinokonzera kusavhiringidzika mupfungwa pane chero mamiriro ezvinhu anosanganisira vamwe vanhu mavari pavanopindura pamashoko enyu emanzwiro asina kunaka kana kuti asingatauriki. Muchirevo chemuganhu we " borderline personality disorder" (BPD) , "kusavhiringidza" zvinoreva kusakwanisa kutora manzwiro ako emanzwiro nehanya, kuremekedza, uye kunzwisisa.
Chii Chinoitika Munzvimbo Isingavhiringidzi?
Munzvimbo isina kuvhiringidza, iwe unofanirwa kuudzwa kuti kutaura kwako manzwiro kwakaipa.
Iyo "mvumo" inogona kuramba, kusava nehanya, kuseka, kusataura nemaune, kana kutsiura manzwiro ako.
Chero chero chimiro chisingaiti chinoparadza, mwana ari kukura mumamiriro ezvinhu asina kuvhiringidzika anodzidza kuti manzwiro ake anenge nenzira isina kururama, zvichida kwete kunyange zvakakodzera kufungisisa. Sezvaanokura, kuzvipira uku kunogona kumuita kuti asatendese manzwiro ake. Icho chinogonawo kubatsira pakuvandudzwa kweBPD .
Chimwe chinhu chinokonzera kusavhiringidzika mukati mehuduku chinotendwa kuti chimwe chezviitiko zvehupenyu izvo zvinoisa vanhu pangozi yekuvandudza BPD.
Mamiriro asina kukodzera uye Kuvandudza BPD
Semuenzaniso, mumamiriro ezvinhu edzimba asina kuvhiringidzika mupfungwa, mwana anozovhiringidzika uye anotanga kuchema anganzi, "Rega kuita sechecheche!" Chaizvoizvo zvinodiwa nemwana hazvina hanya. Sezvo mwana achikura uye kusavhiringidzika kwepfungwa kunopfuurira, anogona kuedza zvakanyanya uye zvakaoma kuti vabereki vake vateerere manzwiro ake nenzira dzakanaka.
Kana vasina kudaro, mwana wacho angaguma achizvikuvadza kuti aite izvi, kuzviratidza iye somumwe munhu anofanira kutorwa zvakanyanya, kuti anonyanya kuda.
Dzimwe nguva kusavhiringidzika kwepfungwa kunokonzera hukama hunoitika "zvakasununguka," sekunge paine kusawirirana pakati pehupenyu hwevabereki nevana vavo.
Semuenzaniso, mwana anonyara ari kukura mumhuri inofamba, inotaura inogona kunyombwa uye kushorwa nokuti anyerere uye anoramba ari oga.
Kune rumwe rutivi rwakaperera rwehutano hwezvakaitika zvisingabatsiri, vabereki vanogona kuregeredza nemaune vana vavo kana kuti kuvhiringidza zvakanyanya mumanzwiro kana kunyadziswa pamusoro pavo sechirango chekutaura manzwiro avo.
Chii Chinobvumirwa?
Chaizvoizvo, kutendera mumwe munhu kuziva kuti iwe unogamuchira uye unonzwisisa manzwiro ake, zvisinei iwe unobvumirana nezvaanotaura kana kwete.
Dzimwe nyanzvi dzeBPD kuongororwa uye kurapwa dzinofunga kuti humwe hunokosha hwehutano hwehuduku, hutano hwekunetseka , ihwowo chinhu chinokosha cheBPD. Kushungurudzika mupfungwa kunotendwa kuti "kushanda pamwe chete" nenharaunda yekushushikana kwepfungwa muBPD.
Vanhu vane manzwiro anokanganisa:
- Iva nemanzwiro anomutsa kana kutsamwa zvakakurumidza
- Kuratidza manzwiro avo zvakasimba, kunyange zvinoshamisa
- Tora nguva yakareba kuti udzivirire uye udzoke kumamiriro avo ehupenyu
Tsika yekuita nenzira idzi mumamiriro ezvinhu emuviri zvinogona kuita kuti zvive zvakaoma kukurira nekukura mumamiriro ekusavhiringidzika mupfungwa.
Haasi Wese Munhu Angave Asina Kuvhiringidzwa Nenzira Iyoyo
Sezvaunoziva, munhu wose akasiyana, kusanganisira nenzira iyo vanoona ukama uye kushamwaridzana nevamwe.
Semuenzaniso, kana wakakurira munharaunda isina kuvhiringidza, zvichida wakaona zvimwe zvezvinotsanangurwa pamusoro apa. Izvi zvinonyanya kuitika kana iwe une BPD. Asi zvakare zvakare, zvichida iwe hauna, uye zvino iwe unoziva kuti iwe hauna kuona uhu hwako hwehutano hwehupenyu nenzira iyo.
Nei zvakasiyana-siyana zvekupindura? Dzimwe nyanzvi dzeBPD dzinofunga kuti unyoro hunogonawo kukanganisa kunzwisisika kwokuti munhu angave ari munharaunda isina kuvhiringidza.
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