Vanababa vanoda kuziva kukosha kwehukama hwepedyo mumhuri yavo uye mumhuri dzevamwe shamwari. Kana hukama hwepedyo hwehukama hwakashaya, imba inotambura uye dzimwe nguva inokundikana. Kudzorera kushamwaridzana kwepfungwa kana yakarasika kunogona kunge kwakaoma zvikuru - zvakanyanya kuoma chaizvo pane kushanda zvakaoma kuchengetedza iyo munzira.
Semuenzaniso, mukadzi achangobva kurambana nemurume wake uye akanyora kuti akangobviswa zvachose nekusiya kwemurume wake.
Achifunga nezvemakore makumi maviri nemakumi maviri ekuroorana kwavo, aigona kuona nguva apo paiva nechepakati pamanzwiro pakati pake nemurume wake, uye sezvaakadzorera karenda yavo yemukaro mushure mekudzidza kwechakavanzika chakavanzika chekuita zvemashure, akaona kuwirirana. Apo paiva nezvakavanzika, imba yakatambudzwa. Maawa ake akareba pa "basa" ainyatsoshandiswa nevamwe vakadzi uye kure nemudzimai wake nemhuri.
Kushamwaridzana kwepfungwa kunowanzotsanangurwa sehukama hwekuti vaviri vari vaviri vanofunga kuti vakachengeteka uye vanoda uye mune kuvimba nekukurukurirana kwakawanda. Kana iwe uine hukama hwepedyo nemumwe wako, iwe unonzwa sekunge iwe unogona kuona mune imwe mweya, uchiziva tariro yavo, kurota, uye kutya uye kuvanzwisisa pahutano hwakadzika. Ukama husina hukama hwepedyo hunozivikanwa nekushaya kuvimba, kutaurirana kwakashata, zvakavanzika uye manzwiro akavanzika.
Saka, kana ukama hwehuroorana hwako hunoita sokuti husina hukama hwehukama hwehukama, kune zvinhu zvakawanda izvo iwe nemumwe wako munogona kuita kuti musimbise uye muwedze hukama hwepedyo hwehukama.
Silence the Electronics
Kushamwaridzana kwehukama nehukama mune ukama hunoenderana nehutano hwekubatana kwevanhu. Kutumira mameseji nekunyora maimeri zvakakosha, asi vanowanzovhiringidza kubva kune hukama hwepedyo hwehukama kana pasina hukama hwakasimba, hwevanhu, umwe-ne-umwe. Saka funga kubvisa kombiyuta, terevhizheni, vhidhiyo game console, foni uye tablet pakusangana pamwe nekupedza nguva yekukurukura nekugovana.
Chimwe chishandiso icho vazhinji vakaroorana vanobudirira vanoshandisa kuvhara foni dzavo uye vachidzikanda mubhasiki shoma kana bhokisi pamusuo sezvavanodzoka kumba uye vachibvumirana kuvasiya kubva kweawa kana maviri apo vari pamwe chete.
Wedzera Nguva Yakaitwa Pamwe Chete
Munyika yakanyanyisa uye yakaoma, zvinogona kuva zvakaoma kuwana nguva pamwe chete semhuri. Kuva nevana mumusha kunogona kukurudzira dambudziko iroro. Imwe mhuri mushonga akagovera pfungwa yekuita maminitsi makumi matatu oga oga manheru mushure mokunge vana vari pamubhedha kusvika panguva isina kunetseka nemumwe wako. Akaratidza kuti avo vanobatana vanodya pamwe chete kuitira kuti vave vari pedyo pedyo asi vachiri nezvinhu zvakakosha zvinoitwa.
Mumwe murume nemudzimai vakasarudza kuva nekapu yekutsvaira kocoa inopisa kana mishonga pamwe chete mukati mehafu yenguva iyo kuitira kuti vanzwe vakasununguka uye vakakwanisa kutaura zvakanaka. Zvadaro mumwe muongorori akakumbira wevhiki nevhiki manheru. Mhuri dzakawanda dzaakashanda nadzo dzakawana shamwari dzaizotengesa vana kuchengetedza kuitira kuti mumwe murume nemudzimai vabuda musi weChishanu manheru apo imwe yevana, uye ivo vakashandura manheru anotevera. Vamwe vakaroorana vanogadzirira kudya kwemasikati pamwechete kamwe kana kaviri pavhiki kuti vawedzere nguva yavanopedza pamwechete.
Kuwana nzira dzekushandisa nguva pamwe chete pasina vana kana zvimwe zvipingamupinyi zvakakosha kuti urambe uine hukama hwepedyo.
Iva Wakachengeteka Kune Wawakaroorana Naye
Makore apfuura, ndakanzwa hurukuro pamusoro pewanano kubva kumutungamiriri weyunivhesiti kwandakadzidza. Akataura nezvehukama hwepedyo mumashoko aya:
Sezvo rudo rwedu ruchikura uye ukama hwedu hwakakura, tave tichiri kuzarurirana kune umwe neumwe pamusoro pezvose izvozvo kwemakore makumi maviri nemaviri ikozvino, uye mugumisiro ndewokuti ndinoziva zvakawanda zvakajeka kuti ndingamubatsira sei uye ndinoziva kunyatsokuvadza iye. Ndinogona kunge ndisingazivi mabhatani ose ekudhonza, asi ndinoziva vazhinji vavo. Uye zvirokwazvo Mwari achandibata kuti ndizvidavirire pamusoro pemarwadzo amunomubata nawo nekunyengetedza avo vanokuvadza pavanenge vachivimba neni. Kutamba nekutenda kwakadaro-muviri wake, mweya wake, uye remangwana rake risingaperi-uye kushandisa avo vanozviwanira pfuma yangu, kunyange kana kuwedzerwa mupfungwa, kunofanira kundiregedza kuva murume wake uye kunofanira kutumira mweya wangu unosuruvara kugehena. - Jeffrey R. Holland
Tinofanira kuva vakangwarira kuti tive vakachengeteka kune vakaroorana vedu - kunzwisisa zvinogona kuvakuvadza uye kudzivisa izvozvo, uye zvino kuziva zvatingaita kuti tibatsire vamwe vedu kuti vanzwe vadiwa uye vanokoshesa uye vanozviita. Kana tikaita kuti zvakatipoteredza zvive zvakachengeteka kune vakaroorana, kushamwaridzana kwepfungwa kunowanikwa mbeu.
Verenga Bhuku Rakanaka pamwechete
Kuverenga bhuku rimwechete pamwechete panguva imwechete, uye zvino kutora nguva yekumira uye kukurukura zvauri kuverenga, zvinogona kuva motokari yakanaka yekuwedzera kushamwaridzana kwepfungwa. Kune mamwe mabhuku makuru pamusoro pekusimbisa muchato kuti iwe unogona kuverenga pamwechete, asi haufaniri kuva bhuku pamusoro pewanano uye hukama. Inogona kuva inova inofadza, biography kana bhuku pamusoro pekuda kufanana. Ichokwadi kuti iwe uri kuverenga pamwe chete uye kutaura kunogona kusimbisa kuvimba nekukurukurirana zvinhu zvehukama hwepedyo.
Tsvaga Kuenzanisa Pakati Pako pachavo uye Vakaroorana
Ukama hwakasimba kune vakaroorana vane vaviri vanobatana. Mumwe nomumwe ane hupfumi hwehupenyu hwega uye vanoisa pamwe chete muukama hwewanano. Kunyanya kudanana kunogona kuva chinhu chakaipa kana kuchikanganisa ukama hwehupfumi huri kutendana. Saka iva nechokwadi chokuti iwe unobatanidzwa mukuzvitarisira kwakanaka semurume nababa, uye bvumira mudzimai wako kuti aite zvakafanana muupenyu hwake hwega. Uye zvino vauya pamwe chete semhuri yakachengeteka uye inovimba.
Isa Pamwe Chete "Nyaya Inofadza"
Mupi wezano Dr. Tony Ferretti anorayira kuti vakaroorana vaungane izvo zvaanodana kuti zvinonakidza rondedzero - urongwa hwezvinhu izvo vaviri vacho vanofarira kuita pamwe chete, uyezve kusika nguva yekuita zvinhu pazorongwa rwekunakidza. Kushandisa nguva mukutsvaka iyo vaviri vari kufara pamwe chete vanogona kuvaka zviyeuchidzo zvakafanana uye zvakaitika uye kusimbisa kushamwaridzana kwehukama. Funga pamusoro pezvinhu zvawakaita pawakanga uchifambidzana kana vachangobva kuchata vakakuita kuti unakidzwe nguva pamwe chete, uye uzviise pamutsara wako unofadza. Zvadaro ita nechokwadi chokuti uri kuita chimwe chinhu pamusangano wekunakidza nguva dzose.
Funga Nekuroorana Kuvandudza Mabasa
Munharaunda dzakawanda, machechi nemasangano ehurumende vanoita zvidzidzo zvekuroorana zvekuroorana kana kudzokera kwechato kune vakaroorana. Vakawanda vakaroorana vakawana kuti rudzi urwu rwekutsvaga muukama hwavo huripa zvikomborero zvikuru. Kupinda muhutano hwakarongeka nevamwe vakaroorana uye vadzidzisi vezviremba kana vafundisi vanogona kubatsira chaizvo kukudziridza ukama hwepabonde hwakasimba uye hwakasimba. Iko rudzi rwekuzvipira kwakasimba pakuvandudza kushamwaridzana kwehukama kune hutsva hukuru, asi hunounza kudzoka kukuru. Uye, kana iwe uchinzwa uhu hukama hwako hwepfungwa huchienda pasi, unogona kufunga kutsvaga rubatsiro kubva kumudzimai ane ruzivo rwechiremba.
Kuva nehukama hwakasimba muhukama hwechato hunokosha uye hunokodzera kuedza. Kutora matanho mune nzira yekusimbisa kushamwaridzana kwehukama mumhuri chinhu chinokosha kuita uye kuratidzira kuzvipira kwako kumhuri yakareba, yakasimba uye inofara. Uye iyo imba yakasimba inokubatsira kuva baba vakanaka uye murume, uyewo kuva murume anoshamisa.