Izvo ndezvokubatsira kwako, saka iwe unogona kuwana zvakanakisisa kubva pakusarudzwa kwako.
Kana iwe wakambotanga kurapwa , iwe pamwe wakaona kuti mushonga wako anobvunza mibvunzo yakajeka yakajeka . Kutaura zvazviri, izvi zvakatova nyanzvi yekuseka mune pop chimiro. Mubvunzo waBob Newhart wakakurumbira, "Izvi zvakaita kuti unzwe sei? Sei vanachiremba vachiita izvi? Pane kunyanya kukosha pakusava pachena here?
Kusiyana Pakati Pemibvunzo Yakasununguka-Yakagadzirirwa uye Yakavharwa
Nyanzvi dzakawanda dzinodzidziswa kubvunza mibvunzo yakasununguka. Mibvunzo isingagumi ndeye inokubvumira kuti upe chero huwandu hwemashoko aunoda, pane kungopindura "hongu" kana "kwete." Mibvunzo inogadziriswa inokukurudzira kuti ugovere mashoko akakodzera pamusoro pehupenyu hwako, nzira yako yekufunga, uye zvaunotenda.
Chimbofunga mitsara inotevera:
1. Une ukama hwakanaka nevabereki vako here?
2. Ndiudze nezvehukama hwako nevabereki vako.
Zvinyorwa zvakafukidzwa zvakafanana, asi mhinduro dzinogona kunge dzakasiyana chaizvo. Mubvunzo wekutanga mubvunzo wakavharwa. Mhinduro inotarisirwa ndeyekuti "hongu" kana "kwete." Kana murapi anobvunza mubvunzo iwoyo uye akawana rimwe remhinduro idzi, bhora rinodzokera muruvanze rwechiremba kukurudzira mhinduro yakazara. Nemubvunzo wakanyatsogadziriswa, muteresi angasarudza kutaura zvakawanda, asi kazhinji havaiti.
Kune imwezve kusiyana kwakakosha pakati pemitauro miviri iyi. Nhamba imwe ndeye mubvunzo unotungamirira. Inotanga pfungwa ye "zvakanaka" mukati memutengi wekuziva. Uyu hausi muenzaniso unonyanya kukuvadza wemubvunzo unotungamirira, asi funga mubvunzo wakadai, "Baba vako vakakubatai zvepabonde here?" Pamusana pekuti mubvunzo uyu unogona kutora mhinduro, vadzidzisi havawanzobvunzi vakadaro.
Pfungwa yekukumbira mibvunzo yakasununguka pamibvunzo yakavharidzirwa inogona kushandiswa nemunhu wese ari kuedza kukurukura. Somuenzaniso, kana uri kutaura nemunhu wausingazivi zvakanaka, vabvunze mibvunzo yakasununguka. Zvechokwadi, kana iwe uchifunga nezvebvunzo ne "hongu kana kwete" mhinduro, ona kana iwe uchikwanisa kuchinjeka kuti ive yevhidhiyo yakazaruka uye bvunza kuti panzvimbo. Iyo hurukuro inogona kuenderera mberi nyore nyore, uye iwe uchasvika pakuziva munhu iyeye pakadzika.
Mibvunzo Vanachirapa Vanogona Kubvunza Pakutanga Kwenyu Kokutanga
Nyanzvi dzose dzakasiyana dzakasiyana, sezvinoitwa nzira dzavanogona kushandisa. Zvisinei, izvi ndezvimwe mibvunzo inowanzoitwa nevarapi vanogona kukumbira pamusangano wako wokutanga. Izvi zvinosanganisira:
- Chii chinokuunza iwe nhasi?
- Wati wamboona mazano / mutano / mupfungwa wepfungwa kare?
- Chii chaunoona sechinetso chikuru?
- Dambudziko iroro rinokuita kuti unzwe sei?
- Chii chinoita kuti dambudziko racho rive nani?
- Ndezvipi zviitiko zvakanaka zvaungada kuona zvichiitika muupenyu hwako?
- Muzhinji, iwe ungati sei mafungiro ako?
- Ndezvipi zvinhu zvauri kutarisira kubva kuchipatara?
- Ndezvipi zvezvinhu zvingatora kuti iwe ufare kana kuti zvimwe zvorugare?
Yeuka, Murapi Wenyu Aripo Kuti Akubatsire
Mibvunzo isina kugadziriswa haisati yashandurwa kuva isina kujeka, evasive, kana kuvhiringidza.
Pane kudaro, iyo ndiyo nzira yako yekurapa kukuziva iwe, sezvinoita kuti uite, iwe unofunga, chii chinokonzera iwe, zvauri kuda, uye kuti iye kana kuti anogona kukubatsira sei.
Kunobva:
O'Grady, D. (February 2014). Mibvunzo Mazano Vanokumbira.