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Icho chiri chirevo muzvirongwa gumi-12 zvinotora kuti kugadziriswa inzira, kwete chiitiko. Izvo zvinogona kutaurwa neChitatu 4 - zvizhinji zvichazozarurwa.
Nhanho 4
Takaongorora uye tisingatyi maitiro edu pachedu.
Kunyangwe tichiuya nemasuo eAlcoholic Anonymous kana Al-Anon Family Groups mikana tinouya neupenyu hwe "kufunga kunonwisa" nesu.
Kutaura chokwadi, zvinotora nguva shoma kuti "fog" itange kusimuka, kuitira kuti tive nokuzviona isu nenyika inotitenderedza zvakajeka.
Kana takazadzisa nemwoyo wose matanho matatu okutanga uye takaita zvechokwadi kushandura kuda kwedu uye hupenyu hwedu pane kutarisira kwaMwari sezvatakanzwisisa, zvino ndiyo nguva yekuisa chirevo ichocho mukuita. Tinofanira kuwana ushingi hwekutarisa tisingatyi isu uye tigove takagadzirira kuchenesa marara atinowana.
Kuti tifambe, tinofanirwa kuziva matambudziko uye tinowana mufananidzo wakajeka wekuti mufambiro wedu wakazviita sei isu nevamwe kune vakatipoteredza. Mufananidzo iwoyo hausi wekutarisa kune vatsva munguva yekutanga, asi sezvatinoenderera mberi takamira pamakamuri, tichiteerera nekudzidza kubva kune vamwe, uye tichichengeta pfungwa dzakasununguka, tinowana zvimwe zvikamu zve "onion" zvichisarudzwa.
Kwete Kupedza Dhipatimendi
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Asi kana tikaramba tichitora, kutakura shoko kune vamwe, uye kuteerera zvavanofanira kugovana, tinogona kuramba tichikura uye tichifambira mberi mumweya. Ndicho chikonzero ivo vanoti, "Ramba Udzoka!"
Zvishandiso Zvinobatsira Nekuzvidzivirira Kwako
Iko kune zvishandiso zviripo zvekubatsira mu 4th step process. Pane 4th Step Guide inowanika paIndaneti kune vose nhengo gumi nematanhatu.
Iri reInternet 4th Guideline rinosanganisira nhepfenyuro yakakwana yekutsanangurira kuti mutungamiri anoshanda sei uye chiyeuchidzo chokuti nhamba ndeye urongwa: "Ndapota ramba uchifunga kuti Chechina yechina haisi kutarisana nekuchinja chero chinhu. , inongorongedza zvinhu. Nhamba yako ndeye nyaya yemanzwiro ako uye zvawakaita kubvira pakutanga kusvikira zvino. "
Nhungamiro yepaIndaneti inopa mibvunzo nemazano ekubatsira nehuwandu hwehuwandu hwehuduku, huduku hwekuyaruka uye hukuru, nechokupedzisira chikamu chikamu che "pano uye zvino."
Iyo iri paIndaneti 4th Guideline ndeyechokwadi kungofanana nhungamiro yakarongwa iyo inofanirwa kubatsira kune avo vanoita zvinyorwa. Izvo hazvifananidzi kugoverana nemumwe munhu, ndezve "maziso ako chete," maererano nemitemo.
Mukuwedzera kune mutungamiri wepaIndaneti, Al-Anon Family Groups ine Gwaro rayo rekufambira mberi: Bhuku rebhuku raAin -Anth Step Inventory rinogona kurairwa paIndaneti.
Asi rubatsiro rwakakosha ruwanikidzwa mukuita Chikamu chechina chinowanikwa kubva kune simba guru kupfuura isu, sevashanyi kuhofisi yemashoko pano panzvimbo yeAlcoholism vakaratidzira mune zvikamu zvavo pane danho iri, sezvo kudzidza kwedu kweTsika 12 uye 12 Zviito zvinopfuurira:
Nhanho 4: Daily Inventory
Sezvo vazhinji venyu munoziva kubva pakugovana kwangu musi weChina manheru gumi nemisangano, zvakanditora nguva yakareba kuti nditange kusvika kushanda pamatanho gumi nemaviri.
Ndakataurirwa neMubatsiri wangu kuti zvose zvandakafanira kuita ndishandise danho rokutanga kune iro rakakwana, ramba uchipinda misangano, ita izvo zvandakaudzwa, uye vamwe vose vachauya munguva. Neni ndichiita izvi ndakanga ndiri mune imwe nzira ndishanda pakutora matanho gumi nemaviri, uye zvakapfuura gore ndisati ndambosangana musangano.
Ikoko pakupedzisira yakauya nguva apo pandakaziva kuti zviri nani kuti ndiende pamatanho gumi nemaviri, neni ndichienda kumisangano yakawanda yandaiziva kuti ini ndaida kundibatsira nematanho. Iyi shamwari yangu yakanaka kwazvo yakarongedza misangano yakawanda yezvikamu 12, (makirasi) yandakatanga kupinda. Ndakapfuurira mberi zvakanaka kusvikira ndasvika pane danho rechina uye ini ndakarova rusvingo.
Ndakanzwa zvakashata zvakanyanya nezvinhu zvakawanda zvandakanga ndaita muupenyu hwangu, zvokuti zvaiita sokuti hazvigoneki kuwana zvose izvi zvinyorwa pasi zvakanaka. Pakupedzisira, rimwe zuva ndakanga ndichigovera izvi nemudzidzisi wangu uye akanyemwerera uye akandibvunza kuti ndaienda kupi. Akandiudza kuti ndiite zvakanakisisa zvandinokwanisa panguva ino uye ndichava nenguva yakawanda yekuita zvese. Akandiudza kuti ndisazvirove pamusoro pangu, (ramba uri nyore) uye izvi ndizvo zvandaita.
Zvakaita kuti zvive nyore kwazvo uye kuburikidza nenguva ndakakwanisa kuona zviri nani zvekutora maitiro angu ehutsika. Kana tikatora matanho aya hazvirevi kuti takaitwa, uye hazvirevi kuti tinofanira kugara tichiita matanho gumi nemaviri. Ndinofanira kutora maitiro ekuzvibata ini zuva rega rehupenyu hwangu. Ndinofanira kutarisa kumashure uye kuve nechokwadi kuti ndinoda izvo Ruka akaitwa.
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Nhanho 4: Kuvimbika
Pano ini ndichiri pamatanho 4. Ndive pano kwemavhiki nemavhiki zvichatora kupedzisa. Chinhu chete chandinogona kutaura icho chakanyatsobatsira chaiva kuwana mibvunzo kune danho pa internet.
Panofanira kuva nemibvunzo 100 ipapo uye ini ndichiri mumucheche. Icho chinhu chakaoma kwandiri kuti ndiite asi ndinofanira kuita izvi. Kuva mumakore angu makumi mana ndakabvunza mibvunzo, sei Mwari anodiwa? Sei uchidzokera kumashure, iko kunorwadza kwakapfuura. Zvekare zvaenda, nhasi ari pano mangwana, tariro yangu.
Ndinoona zvino nei ndichifanira kuita izvi uye ndinoramba ndichidaro. Amai vangu vaiva doro uye vakafa pa19, munun'una wangu aiva doro uye akafa pa48. makumi mana-manomwe ari kuuya kwandiri uye ini handiendi. Kutarisa mune zvakaitika kare kwakaita kuti ndinzwisise iye zvino kupfuura kare kose nei ndakaroora doro.
Iyi danho rakaoma - danho iri rinogona kurwadzisa - asi ndinongokumbira kuti uite. Rimwe awa zuva haisi nguva yakawanda uye nyora mhinduro dzacho uye uve wakatendeseka iwe pachako uye uyeuke kuti Mwari anewe kana kurwadziwa uku kuchipinda mumwoyo mako. Uye zvakare yeuka isu tose tiri pano kune mumwe nemumwe.
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Danho 4: Rwendo
Nhano yechina yakatanga kwandiri sechinhu chinotyisa. "Tsika" inongororwa? Ndakatambura nemibvunzo yemitemo kwehupenyu hwangu hwose. Ndakabva kune imwe nheyo yechitendero iyo yaiva yakasimba, yakachengetedza, uye yakarurama-yakarurama. Uye mutungamiri akazvimirira mumhuri akanga ari mukadzi asina kuvhiringidzwa nevarume, naizvozvo hapana chandaitaura kana kuita, kunyange pazera remakore gumi nemaviri, chakanga chiri pedyo nemiganhu yake yetsika. Saka pandakaudzwa kuti pakupedzisira ndaizotora mitsva yekutsvaga uye isina kutya, ndakanga ndisingatyi.
Iye zvino kuti apinde neChikamu chechina. Mudzidzisi wangu akandikumbira kuti ndiite zvinhu zvakasiyana-siyana semuongorori weChitatu 4. Kutanga, ndaifanira kunyora maitiro gumi ehupenyu pamusoro pangu kuti ndaifarira. Zvadaro ndaifanira kunyora maitiro ane gumi pamusoro pangu kuti ndaifarira. Rimwe rondedzero raiva nevanhu vanenge gumi vaindida. Ndaifanira kuverenga mabhuku aya mangwanani oga oga uye usiku hwega kwevhiki mbiri.
Mutsigiri wangu akaenderera mberi: Tora pepa repamutemo pepaji. Dhirora rwonzi pasi pasi, uye woisa chiratidzo mukati mezera. Iyi yaiva mutsara wehupenyu hwangu, iyo yaiva pakati pehupenyu hwangu (panguva yandakanga ndava nemakore makumi matatu nemaviri, saka chiratidzo chakaratidza makore makumi matanhatu). Akandiudza kuti nditange kugadzira matanho pamutsara unoreva zviitiko zvikuru muupenyu hwangu.
Pane imwe nguva ndakanga ndaita izvi zvose, ndaive ndakagadzirira kuChitatu 4. Mufambisi wangu akandibatsira Hazelden mazano, asi ini ndanga ndisingakwanisi kuzviita. Zvadaro ndakaenda kumusangano musi weChishanu manheru, kunyanya kupinda nevanhu vaipikisa kuti vave vakapedza kudzidza muChicago AA boot camp (iyo inotyisa yekugara). Mumwe mukadzi akapinda mukati, akatsamwa nechimwe chiitiko chakanga changobva kuitika, ndokumuita kuti ataure, izvo zvaisanganisira izvi: "Kana uri kushanda danho rechina, nzira yakanakisisa yekuzviita ndiyo nzira iyo Big Book inotsanangurwa nayo ." Zvino chikonzero nei izvi zvakasimba neni handizivi, asi ndakasarudza kuzviedza. Uye ndakaona kuti hongu zvirokwazvo, iyi ndiyo ndiyo nzira yakanakisisa kwandiri.
Saka ndakatanga rwendo rwangu rwechitanhatu. Ndakanyora uye ndakanyora uye ndakanyora. Ndakapfuurira mberi, asi rimwe zuva ndakanga ndisingagoni kunyora zvakare. Ndaiziva kuti ndakanga ndisati ndapedza, asi nokuda kwechimwe chikonzero ndakanga ndawana rusvingo rwezvidhina uye ndisingagoni kuenderera mberi. Ndakataura nezvayo mumisangano. Ndakataura nemudzidzisi wangu, asi haana kukwanisa kundibatsira.
Ipapo imwe shamwari iri purogiramu yakandikoka kumusangano we ACOA. Ndakaenda kumusangano iwoyo, uye mushure memaminetsi gumi chete bhandi rainge rawira pasi. Ndakatanga zvakare kunyora danho rangu rechina uye ndakapedzisa muvhiki imwe chete. ACOA yakanga yasvinudza meso angu pamusoro pezvinhu zvakawanda zvandakanga ndapedza.
Ndiine nhanho yangu yechina yakapera, ndakanga ndagadzirira (kana kuti saka ndakafunga) kuShato 5.
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