Zvitanhatu zveAA uye Al-Anon
Ikupedzisira yezviito gumi nemaviri ndeyekutakura shoko kune vamwe uye kuisa mazano emitambo yacho mumabasa ose ehupenyu hwako. Kune avo vari mumapurogiramu ekudzosa, kuita chiito chegumi 12 "kungoita sei," sevatangi vekudyidzana vakazviwanira ivo pachavo mumazuva iwayo okutanga.
Nhanho 12
Sezvo tive nekumutswa kwemweya semugumisiro weMatanho aya, takaedza kutakura shoko iri kune vanodhakwa, uye kuti tishandise mitemo iyi mune zvese zvedu.
Sezvo nhoroondo yeAlcoholics Anonymous inoratidza zvakajeka, yakanga iri kushanda nevamwe vakanga vachiri kutambura zvakachengetedza Bill W. naDob Bob sober. Izvochetezvo ndezvechokwadi kune nhengo dzose dzemapoka gumi maviri: "kuti uchengete iwe unofanirwa kuipa."
MuAinon , nhanho inowanikwa inoedza kutakura shoko kune "vamwe" uye muAlcoholics Anonymous inoti "kune doro." Nheyo yacho yakafanana. Kuti uite zvose zvitanhatu zvematanho, unofanira kuedza kubatsira vamwe.
Kutakura shoko kune vamwe, nekugovana ruzivo, simba, uye tariro zvinotsigira pfungwa yezvokunamata yematanho gumi nemaviri ari mumunhu ari 12-akafamba pamwe chete naiye ari kugovana. Kana pasina munhu ari kuita chero basa rechitanhatu, purogiramu yaizongopedzisira yavapo. Pasina basa rebasa reavo vakauya kare, hapana nhengo dzaizova pano ikozvino.
Asi Nhanho 12 inokurudzirawo nhengo kuisa kukura mune zvekunamata kwavakawana kushanda kwete mukati mekudyidzana asi zvose zvikamu zvehupenyu hwavo-kuita mazano aya munyaya dzako dzose.
Izvozvi iri kuita danho re 12 "basa" uye inoita kuti purogiramu ishande semumwe wekukwezva uye kwete kukusimudzira. Kune vakawanda muhutano hwechikamu chegumi nematanhatu, kushanda danho rechipiri nderekuti rinoshanda sei.
Kurarama Izvo Kuti Uzvipe Kure
Enda pasi akanyora kuti apo paakaita kudana kuAA, vakanga vari pasuo rake mumaminitsi gumi nemashanu. Sezvo ari mutsva, aizenge ari muchikwata cheAA apo foni inoridza uye nhengo dzaizokwidza kuti dzipindure uye dzichimhanya kuti dzifambe pafoni yechitanhatu.
Mushure mokunge achinetseka kwenguva pfupi mutsigiri wake aizomutora pamatanho gumi nematanhatu.
Apo paakatanga kutora nhanho yegumi nembiri akadana oga, akawana kuti akanga achibatanidzwa zvikuru uye hapana munhu waaishumira akanga achinyanyisa. Akatsigira aine hurukuro refu naye kuti atsanangure kuti akanga achiedza kuponesa nyika uye kuti aifanira kuyeuka kutakura shoko, kwete mutumbi. Akadzidza kuti aisagona kukanganisa nyika yese uye kuti zvose zvaaigona kuita ndezvekuti atakure shoko racho, zvese zvakasvika kumudhakwa.
Akaona kuti kutevedza chikamu chinokosha chefoni yegumi nematanhatu. Kudana munhu wacho mumazuva mashomanana kuti aone kana vangada kuenda kumusangano newe unoratidza kuti uri wechokwadi.
Kuisa Muenzaniso
Sox yakagamuchira kuti basa rechitanhatu chegumi-chegumi harisi kungobuda kunobatsira iye achiri kutambura. Yakaisanganisirawo kuenda kumisangano uye kuonekwa ikoko; kuita kofi; achitaura munguva dzemashoko; achiti "hongu" pavakakumbirwa kuita basa rebasa kana kutaura pamusangano; mupiro wekupa parwendo kune avo vangave vasina kuenda kumusangano; muchidimbu, basa rechigumi nematanhatu rinonyanya kuratidza muenzaniso.
Kudzivisa Kugonesa
Imwe mhirizhonga yeShato 12 ndeyekudzivisa kukanganisa kutakura doro panzvimbo yekutakura shoko.
Muchidimbu, usanunura doro sezvo rinomushungurudza kwenguva refu.
Peji 96 yeBhuku Guru rinoti. "Angave akaputsika uye asina pokugara kana ari iye, unogona kuedza kumubatsira nezvekuwana basa, kana kumupa rubatsiro rwemari zvishoma.Asi iwe haufaniri kurega mhuri yako kana vatengi vemari yavanofanira kunge. kuti utore murume uyu kumba kwako kwemazuva mashomanana asi iva nechokwadi kuti iwe unoshandisa kuchenjera, iva nechokwadi kuti achagamuchirwa nemhuri yako, uye kuti haasi kuedza kukumanikidza nemari, kubatana, kana pokugara. iwe unongomukuvadza chete.Uchave uchiita kuti zvive nyore kuti ave asina chokwadi.
Iwe unogona kunge uri kubatsira mukuparadzwa kwake pane kuti awanezve. "