Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) ichinguva chiduku (8 - 20 masangano) uye nzira yakarongeka kune vakaroorana 'chirwere chakagadzirwa naDr. Sue Johnson uye Les Greenberg muma1980. Inogadziriswa mukutsvakurudza asi ichinyanya kuisa pfungwa dzisina kunaka uye rudo sechibatanidza chisungo .
Attachment Theory
"Kubatanidza" pakati pevanhu kazhinji kunopa nzvimbo yakachengeteka: kudzoka kubva munyika uye nzira yekuwana nyaradzo, kuchengeteka uye chigadzirisa kupesana.
Zvinyorwa zvinopawo nzvimbo yakachengeteka, zvichiita kuti iwe unzwe wakachengeteka paunenge uchiongorora nyika uye udzidze ruzivo rutsva. Kuumbwa kwaro kunotanga muhuduku nemunhu anotarisira, semubereki. Vaya vekare, vanogadzira mapurogiramu vanoenderera mberi vachienda kune vanhu vakuru. "Munhu anochengetedza asina kuwanikwa" anoita dambudziko mumucheche zvakananga kune "shamwari isingawanikwi" kusika kutambudzika mumunhu mukuru. Zvinyorwa zvinyorwa zvinopa mutevedzeri wemanzwiro ane "mapaundi emugwagwa" kumutambo wekutambudzika, manzwiro uye zvinoda pakati pevashandi.
Akavakirwa muScience
Maererano newebsite yakatsaurirwa EFT, www.ICEEFT.com, boka guru rekutsvakurudza rinotsanangura kubudirira kwehutano uhwu huripo. Iko zvino inofungidzirwa kuti ndiyo yeiyo yakanyanya (kana isiri iyo yakanyanya) yemhando dzakagadziridzwa dzehutano hwehutano. Ongororo dzekutsvakurudza dzakawana kuti 70-75% yevakaroorana vari kutarisana neEFT vanobudirira kubva pakutambudzika kusvika pakuvandudza, uye inenge 90% inoratidza kuchinja kukuru.
Uku kugadzirisa zvakare kwakanyatsogadzikana uye kunogara kwenguva refu, isina uchapupu hushoma hwekudzoka zvakare mukutambudzika.
EFT iri kushandiswa nemhando dzakasiyana-siyana dzehutano mumusangano wega, yunivhesiti yekudzidzisa zvikoro, uye makiriniki echipatara. Iyo inobatsira zvikuru nemapoka emarudzi akasiyana-siyana munyika yose.
Vakaroorana vanoshungurudzika avo vanogona kubatsirwa neEFT vanosanganisira iyo iyo mumwe kana vashandi pamwe chete vanotambura nekuora mwoyo, kushaya zvinodhaka, kunetseka kwepfungwa kunetseka uye chirwere chisingaperi, pakati pezvimwe zvinetso. EFT yakaratidza kuva nzira yakasimba yevakaroorana vanotarisana nekusatendeka kana zvimwe zviitiko zvinotyisa, zvose zviripo uye zvekare.
Neuroscience inobatanidzawo zvinyorwa zvinyorwa uye EFT. Ichangobva kubudiswa zvidzidzo zveMRI zvinoratidza kukosha kwekuchengetedzwa kwakachengetedzwa. Zvisungo zvedu zvine simba, uye ubongo hwedu hunoritora se "kuchengeteka." Maererano neshoko rinotaura nezveEFT mu Social Work Nhasi , chero rutivi rwakaonekwa kana kuparadzana muhukama hwedu hwepedyo hunoshandurwa sedambudziko. Kurasikirwa kwehukama kune waunoda kunopisa pfungwa yedu yekuchengeteka. "Kutya kunotyisa" kunopera, uye kunogadzirisa inzwa mune imwe yeuropi yedu inonzi i, inozivikanwawo sekutya nzvimbo. Kamwe amygdala inoshandiswa, inokonzera kupindura kwedu -kana-ndege . Kana ruzivo rwekupinda ruzivikanwa, amygdala inodzikama. Zvisinei, nokukurumidza apo amygdala inosangana nekutyisidzira kana kusingazivi, inowedzera hutano hwehuropi uye inoisa pfungwa pfungwa pamusoro pemamiriro ezvinhu pakarepo. Vanhu vanopinda mukuzvichengetedza maitiro, kazhinji vachiita zvavakaita kuti "vapone" kana kuti vararame muhuduku.
Ichi ndicho chikonzero chatinenge tichiita sevanhu vakuru muhukama hwedu hwemudanana, mukudzokorora kumwechete (uye kusina kunaka) maitiro kubva kumakore edu okuita. EFT inogona kubatsira kusunungura izvi zvinongomira, zvinopesana zvinobudirira.
Kukurudzira Utano Hwakanaka
EFT inopa mutauro woutano hwakanaka pakati pevashandi pamwe chete uye unotarisa pamakwikwi anokosha uye nguva dzinotsanangura ukama hwehukuru hwehukama. Chinangwa chikuru chemuenzaniso ndechekuwedzera nekugadzirisa zvakare manzwiro ehupenyu hwevanhu vaviri. Kuratidzira kutsva kwekubatana kwekubatana kunoitika uye kunotsiva yekare, maitiro asina kunaka akadai se "kutsvaga-kurega" kana "kutsoropodza-kudzivirira." Izvi zvitsva, maitiro akazotevera zvinova kuzvisimbisa uye kugadzirisa kusingaperi.
Ukama hunova nzvimbo uye nzvimbo yekuporesa yevadzidzi vose.
Kuumba Bondi Yakachengeteka
Izvo zvinoderedza mararamiro evanhu vakaroorana pavanenge vachigadzirisa hukama hwakachengetedzeka hwehukama. Vakaroorana vanodzidza kuratidza manzwiro akadzika, pasi pepfungwa kubva munzvimbo yekutambura uye kukumbira kuti zvido zvavo zviitwe. Vachibatsirana vanotanga kuona maitiro asina kunaka (kureva, kuvhara kana kutsamwa kukura) se "kuratidzira kwekuregererwa." Vakaroorana vanodzidza kuva nemanzwiro anowanikwa, anonzwisisa uye vanobatana, kusimbisa chisungo chekubatana uye nzvimbo yakachengeteka pakati pavo.
EFT ine simba rakakura semuenzaniso werapa. Kutanga, inotsigirwa nekutsvakurudza kwakawanda. Chechipiri, inobatanidza uye inoremekedza vatengi. Icho chinopomera mhosva yevabereki vacho 'matambudziko kune maitiro asina kunaka pakati pavo, panzvimbo yevaroorana ivo (kana vashandi). Pakupedzisira, shanduko iyi yakave yakarongedzwa nenzira yakanyatsorondedzerwa inosvika matanho mapfumbamwe uye zvitatu zvichishandura zviitiko zvinobatsira kutungamira mushonga nekuona kufambira mberi. Kana uri kutsvaga rubatsiro neukama hwakashungurudzika, EFT yakarovedzwa mupfungwa ingadai iri sarudzo yakachenjera.
Kuti uwane mushandi weEFT, enda ku www.ICEEFT.com uye chengeta pane "ona mushonga" tab. Nezvidzidzo zveEFT mapurogiramu evanhu vakaroorana, tora pa "Bata Me Tight" tab.
Purchase kubva kuAmazon: Emotionally Focused Therapial Therapy For Dummies naBrent Bradley & Jamies Furrow, Hold Me Tight: Nhaurirano Nomwe dzeupenyu Hupenyu hwaSue Johnson kana An Emotionally Focused Workbook for Vakaroorana: The Two of Us by Veronica Kallos-Lilly & Jennifer Fitzgeralds