Kuva munhu ane hanya zvikuru (HSP) haisi chinhu chakaipa. Zvinongoreva kuti iwe unowanzoita zvinhu zvakadzama, zvakadai semashoko, manzwiro, uye zvakaitika. Iwe unonyatsoziva zvaunenge uchitarisana uye une chipo chakanaka chekuunganidza pane zvinyengeri mumamiriro ako ezvinhu izvo vamwe vasingazvioni.
Sezvo iwe ungave uchida kutora pamashoko aya akajeka uye kuronga izvo zvakadzama kupfuura vamwe vanhu, hazvisi kushamisika kufunga kuti unganzwa uchinetseka munguva dzezviitiko zvisinga-zvisiri nyore.
Zvinhu zvakadai semanzwi makuru, kushandura kukuru kwekushandura, mapoka evanhu, kana mamiriro ezvinhu anokonzerwa nemanzwiro anogona kukonzera kushushikana nokuti system yako inowedzera kuderedzwa. Iwe unogonawo kuwana kuti une nguva yakaoma kuporesa mushure mezviitiko zvinosanganisira kutengesa, kurasikirwa, kana kurambwa.
Ramba uchifunga kuti kuva HSP inongova nzira yekuve munyika. Vanhu vazhinji vanozivikanwa saHSP vangangodaro vakave nezviitiko muupenyu hwavo hwevamwe vanhu vachivaudza kuti "vane hanya," kana "havagoni kurega zvinhu zvichienda." Izvi zvinogona kuva zvinhu zvinorwadza kuti tinzwe, kunyanya kubva kune avo vatinotarisira, uye kutirega tichinzwa sokuti hatinzwisisiki kana, zvakanyanya, tisina simba kana tisingakwanisi.
Sezvo Elaine Aron, PhD, anotaura zvakajeka mubasa rake nevanhu vane hanya zvikuru, "Hapana chakaipa nehupamhi hwekunzwisisa .. Kushushikana kunobatsira mune zvakawanda mamiriro ezvinhu uye nokuda kwezvinangwa zvizhinji, asi kwete mune dzimwe mamiriro ezvinhu Sekuve nemumwe maziso eziso, hazvisi zvematongerwo enyika, zviito zvakasarudzika zvakagarwa nehuwandu huwandu hwevanhu, kunyange huri huzhinji. " Dr. Aron anofungidzira kuti chiitiko ichi chekunzwisisa kwakanyanya chinowanika mu15-20 muzana yevanhu.
Hazvive nechokwadi kana iwe unganzi uri munhu ane hanya zvikuru? Tora mibvunzo iyi naDkt. Aron kuti udzidze zvakawanda.
Kukumbira Rubatsiro Somunhu Anonzwisisa Zvakanyanya
Sezvo HSP, iwe unogona kunge wakaona mamiriro ezvinhu uye vanhu vakakusiya iwe uchizvibvunza iwe, maonero ako, uye unyanzvi hwako. Iyi haisi kunzwa kwakanaka, uye inogona kukusiya iwe uchinetseka mune imwe nzira.
Tinowanzorega kunyora vanhu mukati, vachitya kutengesa, kurasikirwa, kana kurambwa. Inogona kunzwa iine ngozi kune HSP kukumbira rubatsiro, zvisinei kuti vanonzwa sei vakaomerwa uye vanogona kurwadziwa nebasa, muupenyu hwavo hwega kana muhukama hwavo.
Apo patinenge tine maronda akadzika anoda kurapwa, sekushungurudzwa kana kushungurudzika, zvinogona kukuvadza kufunga kuti tichada kuvimba nemunhu ane nyaya uye zvakaitika kuti atibatsire kuwana kuporesa uye rugare. Izvi zvinotevera mazano ekufambira mberi nekuwana mushonga uyo achanzwisisa kuti angashanda sei nomunhu ane hanya zvikuru.
Kutanga Kutsvaga Kwako
Dr. Aron anorondedzera matanho chaiwo ekuwana mushonga mubhuku rake, "The Highly Sensitive Worker's Bookbook: The Practical Guide kwaVanhu Vakanyanya Kuziva uye HSP Support Groups." Chimwe chekutanga mazano aanoita ndecho "kuonga kuti chisarudzo ichi chichave chakakosha zvikuru muupenyu hwako." Tora chisarudzo pamwoyo uye tora nguva yekutsvakurudza zvisarudzo usati wasarudza. Murapi wako achava mumwe munhu wauri kuisa muhupenyu hwako kwenguva yakati, nguva dzose achikupa nzvimbo yakachengeteka yekugovana zviitiko uye nzira kuburikidza nematambudziko akaoma.
Kuwana Chiremba Anorayirwa
Kunyange zvazvo vanhu vakawanda vachipa rubatsiro sekubatsira rubatsiro , zvakakosha kutarisa vanotarisira vane dzidzo yakakodzera, kudzidziswa, uye mvumo yekuita mumunda wavo.
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Dzokera kunze uye Unganidza Mashoko
Vamwe vanachiremba vanopa hurukuro dzakasununguka, muchidimbu mumunhu kana pamusoro pefoni. Kana iwe ukawana mupiki uyo anoita sekuti angave akafanirwa newe, uye ivo havatauri kuti vanopa pachena kubvunzurudza, usatya kutya. Nyanzvi dzakawanda dzichafara kufedza maminetsi gumi nemashanu pamusoro pefoni, kana kunyange ne email, kupindura mibvunzo pamusoro pekudzidzisa kwavo uye ruzivo. Ramba uchitarira nguva iyi yekubvunzurudza inogona kudiwa kurongerwa mberi, uye vamwe vangada kuti iwe uuye muhofisi yekutaurirana mu-munhu.
Dr. Aron anoratidza kuti HSP inopa pfungwa yekugovana ruzivo rwakakwana panguva yekukurukurirana kwavo kana kuti chirongwa chekutanga chekuunganidza ruzivo rwekuti mushandi anopindura sei muchikamu. Zvinhu zvokufungisisa zvinogona kusanganisira:
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Kunyange zvazvo vamwe vanachiremba vane hanya zvikuru nevanhu pachavo, vamwe havasi. Hazvirevi izvo zvinoda kuti mushandi wako akasarudzwa ave HSP sawe, asi iwe unogona kunge uine zvaunoda. Zvibvumira kuunganidza ruzivo rwakakosha kuti uzive kana iri nzvimbo yakachengeteka, uye kana mushandi anoziva zvipo nezvinetso zveHSPs.
Zvibvumira Nguva Yekusarudza
Mushure mokutaura nevashambadzi vashomanana, tora nguva shomanana yekufamba uye funga nezvezvaunogona kuita. Funga nezvezvinhu zvakadai semafambisirwo avo, uye kunyange nzvimbo yehofisi yavo. Zvinogona kuva nyore kune vanhu vane hanya zvikuru kuti vagozvifungidzire pachavo ivo kana kuti vabvunze maonero avo. Yeuka, iwe une chipo chekuverenga zvinyorwa zvakanaka, saka zvibvumira nguva yekufungisisa nezvemashoko awakaunganidza mukutsva kwako, uye ita chisarudzo chekuti ndiani angave akakodzera iwe.