Ndinoda murume wangu, uye nenzira dzakawanda, tine hukama hwakakura. Isu tose tinonakidzwa kunwa pakupera kwevhiki, asi rimwe Mugovera manheru, murume wangu akandirova. Ndaifunga kuti hazvingazoitikizve, saka ndinozvirega, asi kubva panguva iyoyo, zvinhu zvingangoita zvishoma nezvishoma uye tinorwisana. Kazhinji uye kakawanda, murume wangu anondirova paanenge akadhakwa. Ndichamuka musi weSvondo nemavhutu pachiso changu nomuviri. Murume wangu anonakidza zvikuru nguva iyo saka handidi kumusiya. Ndinoda rubatsiro here?
Kana chimwe chezvinhu izvi chikanzwika, chengetedza.
Iwe Hausi Woga
Vakadzi vazhinji nevarume vari kurwisana nehondo imwe chete yauri. Kutsvakurudza kune dzimwe nyika uye tsika dzakaratidza hukama hwakasimba pakati pekudhakwa uye kurwisana kune vakaroorana navo, vangave vakaroorana, vanogara pamwe chete, vanoita zvepabonde, kana kuti vanowanzosangana navo, uye kana avo vanobatana vanoita zvepabonde, vanoita zvepabonde, vanoita zvepabonde, kana vanoita zvepabonde. Vose varume nevakadzi vanogona kuva varosi kana vanoita zvakaipa, asi huzhinji hwekurwa uye kuurayiwa kunoitwa nevarume kune vakadzi.
Kufanana nevanhu vose vane vashandi vanoita zvechisimba, hausi mhosva yezvinoitika kwauri, asi iwe haunzwisisi kuwana rubatsiro kunze kwekuti iwe uzviite iwe pachako kuti usadzivirire kushandiswa. Iwe chete iwe unogona kusarudza zvaunofanira kuita mumamiriro ezvinhu aya, asi iwe unonyatsokurudzirwa kutsvaka rubatsiro rwemhizha nekukurumidza.
Kubatana pakati pekunwa uye kufambidzana nehukama hwepabonde
Kunwa doro kunobatanidza nekuve ari mutadzi uye munhu anotambudzwa pakati pevakaroorana.
Funga nezvehuwandu hwezvinwiwa zvaunenge uine kana iwe wako nemumwe wako-iyo iwe unowedzera kunwa, pamwe chete nemudiwa wako, zvinowedzera dambudziko kuti iye achava nechisimba kwauri.
Doro inowanzobatanidzwa mune zviitiko zvakanyanya zvakanyanya zvechisimba kune vashandi. Ukama huri pakati pezvinodhakwa uye hukama hwepedyo hwemhirizhonga hwakafanana mumitambo yakasiyana-siyana uye kunwa maitiro.
Kunyange iwe ungangodaro uchitambura nematambudziko kusvikira pano, vakawanda vanobatana, kunyanya vakadzi, vari muchipatara uye vanofa gore roga roga nekuda kwechisimba kubva kune wakadhakwa naye, saka zvakakosha kuti utarise izvi zvino.
Kutsvakurudza kunoratidzawo kuti kune kuwirirana kusinganzwisisiki pakati pehuwandu hwezvinwiwa zvinoshandiswa pane imwe nguva uye kuita zvechisimba pamwe chete, zvichiratidza kuti kunwa doro kudhakwa pane kungoshandisa doro chete izvo zvinoita mamiriro ezvinhu apo chisimba chinoitika. Chimwe chezvinhu zvekutanga zvaunogona kuita ndechokutonga kunwa kwako nekuisa muganhu wehuwandu iwe newaunofambidzani wako unwe-kana zvachose. Zvishanu zvinonwiwa kana kupfuura zvinonyanya kusachengeteka pakuwedzera kukanganisa kwemhirizhonga, saka chikamu chematatu kusvika mana chinodha chinofanira kuva chakanyanya.
Kunyange kana iwe usingadi kukurukura kunwa kwewawakaroorana naye naye, unogona kudzora kunwa kwako pakarepo, izvo zvinoderedza dambudziko rekuti iwe unorohwa zvakare mune imwe nzvimbo.
Hungu, Iwe Unoda Rubatsiro-Uye Saizvozvowo Mudiwa Wako
Iwe unogona kuda mumwe wako uye angave ane mutsa nguva yakawanda yenguva. Zvisinei, iri kunyatsoyambuka rwonzi rwokurova kana kurwisa chero ani zvake. Kana zvichibvira, edza kutaura newawakaroorana naye kana iwe usati uri pasi pesimba uye ona kana iwe unogona kuuya neurongwa pamwe chete nezvekuwana rubatsiro.
Zvose iwe nemumwe wako munoda rubatsiro rwekunze mune izvi. Kunyange zvazvo vamwe vanhu vanoita zvechisimba kune vavakaroorana navo vanogona kudzidza nzira dzakanakisisa dzekugadzirisa, kana dzisiyiwa dzisingabvumirwi, unogona kuzviwana uri kurarama mukutya, pakupedzisira uchitambura nekukuvadzwa kana kuipa. Zvakanaka, kana wako wako achida kuuya kuzokupa mazano, iwe unofanirwa kuwana mazano ekuroorana kuti atarise matambudziko ari muhukama hwako. Iwe unofanirwawo kuwana mazano pamusoro pekunwa kwako (kunze kwekuti iwe mose muri vaviri muchida uye muchikwanisa kusiya, uye musanwa nguva zhinji), uye mumwe wako anofanirwa kuwana rubatsiro rwakawedzerwa kurarama nemararamiro ake.
Zvimwe Zvinyorwa Zvekubatsira
Kana mumwe wako achiita zvechisimba zvakare, unogona kudana 911 uye kumbira mapurisa uye ambulense kana uchida kurapwa. Mapurisa anogona kubatsira kukubatanidza nemasangano munharaunda yako kune vakaroorana vanoshungurudzwa. Iwe unogonawo kuwana rubatsiro urwu kuburikidza nedunhu remuzinda wako wepakati kana chipatara.
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