Kana iwe uchida kuti zvigumbuso zvako zvive pachena kubva kune vanhu vazhinji, funga kuti unozvipa nenzira dzakasiyana. Kumburudza kunounzwa nenzira dzisingaoneki kuchayeukwa, uye kuratidzira kukwanisa kwako kwekufunga zvakasikwa. Izvi zvingave zvakakosha zvakanyanya kana iwe uchirarama nehutano hwehupfumi hwevanhu (SAD), sezvo unyanzvi hwako hwemagariro hungave huripo.
1. Sarudza Mashoko Akasiyana
Vanhu vanowanzotora mashoko mamwechete emashoko kana vachipa rumbidzo.
Bvumira mharidzo yako kuti iite pachena nekusarudza mazwi akasiyana siyana ausinganzwi zuva nezuva. Mienzaniso inogona kusanganisira kuti murume wako anotarisa "dapper" kana iwe musikana muchengeti "phenomenal". Ingova nechokwadi chekuti mazwi ako ndeechokwadi: kunze kwekunge kukurudzira kwako kunogona kuonekwa se-over-the-top uye kwete kutendeseka.
2. Shandisa Mashoko Kubva Mutauro Wakasiyana
Chii chingava chinonakidza kupfuura kudzidza mazwi mashomanana mumutauro mutsva kuitira kuti ugone kuvashandisa mukurumbidza? Mazano echimwe mimwe mitauro anonyanya kubatsira. Somuenzaniso, "guapo" zvinoreva zvakanaka muSpain. Kana munhu waunenge achitaura naye ane rurimi rwomutauro kunze kweChirungu, kusarudza rumbidzo mumutauro iwoyo kuchakukunda iwe huwandu hukuru, zvose zvepakutanga uye kufunga. Pakupedzisira, kana rurimi rwekunze rwunoita sekunotyisa, zvakadini nekuedza ruoko rwako mururimi rwemashoko? Tsvaga vhidhiyo tutorial pa Youtube, uyegovera zvawakadzidza neshamwari nemhuri kuitira kuti vazonzwisisa zvauri kunyora.
3. Tongedza Mazano Ako
Ita rumbidzo kune mumwe munhu, uchishandisa mukati majee ayo chete iwe vaviri uchanzwisisa. Semuenzaniso, kana wadzidza mataurirwo emutauro wemasaini, shandisa iwo kupa rumbidzo kune nhengo dzemhuri izvo chete zvavanonzwisisa. Vachazonzwa vachikosha kuziva kuti zvinorumbidzwa zvakagadzirirwa ivo chete.
4. Ita Unofanirwa Kuenzanisa
Kana iwe uine chido chakakurumbira, funga kuudza chimwe chinhu chakakosha zvimwe kuti zvinonakidza sei kupfuura iyeye. Somuenzaniso, udza murume wako kuti "ari nani kutarisa kupfuura Tom Cruise" kana "funnier kupfuura Adam Sandler." Mune mamiriro ezvinhu aya, zvakakodzera kutambanudza chokwadi zvishoma-mukomana wako acharamba achionga kuziva unhu huri maari hunoona huchifadza.
5. Ipa Companyorwa Akanyorwa
Haasi munhu wese anonzwa akasununguka kugovera kukurudzira mumunhu-kunyanya avo vanotambura nehurombo hwevanhu. Usafunga kuti iwe haugoni kugoverana nekubvunzurudza kwako kana iwe uchitya. Pane kudaro, tora nguva yekutumira chinyorwa chinyorwa (panguva yakakodzera) kumunhu waunoda kurumbidza. Nyora nyora kuna tete vako vamuudza kuti wakanakidzwa sei nekushanya kwako kwokupedzisira. Tumira email kune waunoshanda naye kurumbidza basa rakanaka rakaitwa pahofisi. Tumira kadhi uchionga munhu akakupa chipo. Kubvumirana kunopiwa kuburikidza nekunyora kunowedzera-uye kakawanda.
6. Kuburikidza Kushandisa Meso Ako
Nguva yakareba ndeyekuvigwa kwakavanzika. Aya mavara anotarisa ari nani kana iwe uri kunze kwezuva. Muchidimbu, uri kutaurirana pfungwa yokuti haugone kutora maziso ako kune mumwe munhu.
Iva nechokwadi chekuti iwe unoshandisa rudzi rwekucherechedza rwekurumbidza kana zvichifanira, zvakadai sekuti iwe uripi nemumwe waunoziva uye akakwezva kwauri.
7. Kuburikidza neMagwaro
Unogona here kurumbidza nemagwaro? Ehe saizvozvo. Ingozvichengetedza zvishoma, uye usapedza kushandisa kwemavara kutaura. Ngwarira kuti havasi vose vanoongorora foni yavo nguva dzose, saka usanzwa usiri kana usingawani mhinduro pakarepo. Yeuka mutemo wegoridhe wekukurumbidza-hausi kupiwa kugamuchira chero chinhu chipi zvacho, kuitira kuti mumwe munhu afare.
8. Kugadzirirwa Kwakagadzirirwa
Iwe uri kusangana nekuoma kwemakongero mumba mako here? Ita kuti zvive nyore kune wese wese nekugadzirirwa kwakagadzirirwa vanhu kuti vabate uye vagoverane.
Gadzira pepa rinoparadzirwa-rinokurudzira rinogona kugoverana. Kana, tanga chirongo chinokurumbidza, nemafungiro akaita seokuti "Iwe unoshamisa," "Unokurudzira," kana kuti "Unofadza." Ita zvigadzirire ivo nemhuri yako uye iwe uchava nenguva inofadza kugovera zvinyorwa zvawakaronga pamwe chete.
9. Technology kuburikidza neZvimbiso
Iko kune kunyange mapurogiramu ekupa rumbidzo! I "App Kindr" inokubvumira kugoverana kukurumbidzwa nevamwe vashandisi ve app. Kana, iwe unogona kugovera kugoverana pamasayire ezveshamwari. Kana iwe ukaisa rumbidzo pamadziro epa Facebook shamwari, shamwari dzake dzose dzichazviona, dzichipa icho icho chakawanda zvikuru.
10. Kumbira Mumwe Munhu Kuti Akubatsire seKurumbidzwa
Imwe yenzira dzakanyanyisa uye dzinobatsira zvikuru dzekupa rumbidzo ndekukumbira mumwe munhu kuti akubatsire kuita chimwe chinhu. Muchidimbu, uri kutaurira munhu wacho kuti unokoshesa unyanzvi hwavo uye unyanzvi hwavo, pasina kuudza zvakananga. Kumbira pfungwa, rubatsiro nekombiyuta, kana mazano pamusoro pemamiriro ezvinhu anotambudza. Mumwe munhu achafadzwa kuti iwe unofunga kumubvunza.
Shoko Rinobva
Kana iwe uchirarama nehutano hwehupfumi hwevanhu, ungawana zvakaoma kupa zvipo. Tanga zvishoma nekupa rumbidzo nyore kune mumwe waunoziva zvakanaka. Shandisa nzira yako kubva ipapo uende kune dzimwe dzakaoma dzakawanda dzemakumbirano. Nokufamba kwenguva, uchaona kuti chiito chekupa rumbidzo chinokura nyore uye zvinowanzoitika.
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Psychology Nhasi. Unyanzvi hweKurumbidzwa.
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