Ukama hukama hunogona kuva chinhu chinokosha chekushungurudzika. Kunyangwe kukakavara kuri pamwe nemudzimai, hama yakaoma, kana shamwari, ukama hwehukama, kunyanya kukakavadzana, kunogona kukonzera dambudziko rekushungurudza rine chinhu chakashata chisingaiti munzira dzakawanda. Izvi ndezvipi zvishoma nzira dzinonyanya kukosha dzinopesana uye ukama hukama hunogona kukukanganisa iwe.
Kukonana Kunogona Kuchinja Utano Hwako
Ukama hukama hunogona kukanganisa utano hwako munzira dzakasiyana siyana. Portland State University Institute in Aging yakadzidza vanhu vanopfuura 650 pamusoro pemakore maviri uye vakawana kuti 'kusagadzikana kwekusawirirana kwevanhu munharaunda' (mune mamwe mashoko, kudzokorora kana kupera kwenguva yakareba) kwakanyatsobatanidzwa nehutano hwakanaka hwehutano hwakanaka, hukuru hwehutano hwakakosha, uye nhamba yakakwirira yehutano mamiriro. Izvi zvinogona kunge zvichiitika pamusana pekukanganisa kunokonzerwa nehutachiona (kushushikana kunogona kuderedza muviri wako wekuzvidzivirira), pamwe nezvimwe zvinhu. Chinhu chinokosha chokuyeuka ndechekuti kurwisana kunoramba kuripo kunogona kutora mararamiro pane hutano hwako.
Mhuri Kurwisana Haisi Yakawanda
Kana iwe uine kukakavara pakati pemhuri yemhuri yako, zvinogona kukunyaradza kuziva kuti hausi wega; Mhirizhonga yemhuri ingave yakawanda kupfuura iwe unofunga. Vakawanda vanosimbiswa pamisangano yemhuri nekuda kwehama dzakaoma.
Nzira yandinoona nayo ndeyokuti hapana kushaikwa kworudo (kana mhuri dzisingatauri panzvimbo yekutanga), asi kune kushaiwa kwekunyaradza mukubata nekupesana pakati pemhuri. Zvingave kukakavhirana pachena pamusoro petafura yekudya kwemanheru kana kunzwa kwekunetseka kwepasi kunoramba kusingazivi, kurwisana kwemhuri zviri pachena kunokonzera kuwandisa kwakanyanya kwevanhu vakawanda.
Kukonana Kunogona Kuva Muviri Wakakanganisika
Zvose iyo nziyo dzenyika pamusoro pekutambudzika kwemoyo wakaputsika kunogona kutsigirwa nesayenzi. Kutsvakurudza nezvekuregererwa kwevanhu kunoratidza kuti kurwadziwa kwekusurukirwa uye kurambwa kwevanhu kunogadziriswa nenzvimbo imwechete yeuropi inobata marwadzo emumuviri. Izvi zvinotsanangura kuti sei kunzwa kunorambwa nemunhu waunoda kunogona kunge kuchirwadza. Kana iwe uine hukama muhukama hunosanganisira kukakavara kwakakosha nekudzokorora manzwiro ekurambwa, zvimwe unenge watoziva kare kuti iwe uri kurwadziwa kwepanyama nguva dzose.
Kusagamuchirwa Kwemhirizhonga Kunogona Kukukuvadza Iwe
Ukama umo vanhu 'vasingamborwi' haisi nguva dzose seinofadza sezvavanoita. Muhupenyu chaihwo, kukakavara hakudzivisiki, uye kugadzirisa kubudirira kunogona kuva nzira yekuwedzera kunzwisisa pakati pevanhu vaviri, vachivaunza pedyo. Ukama huri kutsamwa uye husingatauri nemumwe kana vose vari vaviri vanogona kunge husina kunaka - chaizvoizvo. Tsvakurudzo yakawana kuti mumakaroorana apo mumwe waaigara naye aigara achidzora kutsamwa, vashandi vaida kufa kufa vaduku; vakaroorana muhukama apo vaviri vakaroorana vakaramba kutsamwa vaitora nguva yakaipisisa.
Kusaruramisa Kutarisana Nharo Kunobatsira Mukurwisana Kakawanda
Kuziva kuti kurwisana kusagadziriswa kune ngozi dzakadaro kunogona kuita kuti tiedze kutaura chero kutsamwa kwatinoona, chero zvakadaro tinoda, asi haisi nguva dzose nzira yakarurama, kana.
Nzira yaunogadzirisa nayo kupesana muhukama hwako inogona kuita kana kuvadzora, zvichikusiya nehupenyu hwekusurukirwa, kana munhu akapfuma ane rubatsiro rwevanhu uye rudo. Unyanzvi hwokugadzirisa hukama hunogona kukubatsira kuti uite ukama huri kurwisana nenzira ine utano kuitira kuti iwe uwane zvakanakisisa kubva paukama hwako, usingabvumiri kuti vakuye. Uye mumamiriro ekurwisana akaipisisa, mazano ekuroorana kana kuti psychotherapy mumwe nomumwe anogona kushamisa zvinoshamisa.
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