Zvaunofanira Kuita Kana Technology Ndiyo Shoni Yekusarudza
Kudanana kunofanirwa kunge kunofadza uye kufadza. Asi pane dzimwe nguva apo kushungurudzwa kunogona kupindira uye kufambidzana kunongoerekana kwasviba uye kunotyisa. Kana izvi zvikaitika, hazvisi izvo zvinonakidza. Pane kudaro, izere negodo, kutonga, kushandura, kunyadziswa, nekutyisidzirwa. Uye zvakawandisa kupfuura iwe unogona kufunga. Kutaura zvazviri, vadzidzi vanosvika mamiriyoni mashanu vekusekondari munyika yose vanotambudzwa kubva kune waanodanana naye munguva yegore.
Apo vanhu vazhinji vanofunga nezvekushungurudzwa kwepabonde, vanofungidzira mukomana ari mumuviri kana kutaura nemhirizhonga. Asi munguva yeInternet, teknolojia yakakurumidza kuve chimbo chekusarudza kune vamwe vanonyadzisa. Kutaura zvazviri, vazhinji vanodzvinyirirwa kudzivirira vatsigiri vari kutaurira kuwedzera kukuru kwehuwandu hwevasikana vechidiki vachirondedzera kushandiswa kwepambani yekudanana muhukama hwavo.
Kuziva Kudanana KwechiDhidhii
Dhidhiro kudanana kushandiswa kunoitika kana mumwe munhu ane utsinye achishandisa teknolojia, yakadai se-smartphone, social media, chirongwa chekutevera kana imwe nzira yekambanikiti, kutyisidzira, kushungurudza nekutyisidzira shamwari yepambidzani. Dzimwe nzira dzakawanda dzinowanzoitwa idzi dzinosanganisira kutumira magwaro akawandisa kana mharidzo, kutaurirana nemubatsiri mune zvemagariro evanhu, kana kukumbira mudiwa kuti aite sexting.
Maererano nekumwe kuongorora, mumwe mumakore gumi nemasere anopfuura makumi mapfumbamwe nemakore ane makore makumi maviri nemasere akawana imwe nzira yehuwandu hwepambani kushandiswa.
Rudzi rwakanyanya kunyanya kushungurudzwa riri kunyanya kunonyadzisa paIndaneti nemunhu iyeye kana waimbova shamwari. Zvakare, vose vakomana nevanasikana vanogona kuwana ruvara rwekudyidzana nedhigiriji. Hazvirevi kuvasikana chete.
Uyezve, vazhinji vekuchikoro chesekondari vakatsanangura kuti kana vasingatauri kutumira mameseji nokukurumidza vanowanzosangana nemigumisiro sechisimba chemuviri, kushungurudzwa mupfungwa, kudana mazita kana kushungurudza mashoko.
Munguva iyi, vechidiki vakarondedzera kuti mukomana kana kuti vasikana vavo vakagadzira zvinyorwa zvemajeri ezvehupfumi kuitira kuti vaone kana kuti havasi kubatana nevakomana vakasiyana-siyana paIndaneti. Uye vamwe vakatotaurira kuti mukomana wavo vanovada kuti vape purogiramu yekutsvaga GPS kuitira kuti vazive kuti vari kupi nguva dzose. Hapana chimwe cheizvi chakave chiine hutano kana chikamu chehukama hwechirikadzi hunowanikwa. Uye kana zviri kuitika muukama hwako, kana iwe ukacherechedza zvimwe zviratidzo zvekudanana, iwe unofunga kufunga nezvekugumisa hukama usati hwashungurudzwa huchiwedzera. Iwe unogona kunge wakabatwa nedhigiriji yekudanana kushandiswa kana shamwari yako:
- Anokutumira huwandu hwemashoko emafoni kunyange iwe uri kuchikoro, kubasa kana kurara uye zvino unotsamwa kana iwe usingaiti pakarepo
- Anotarisira kuti iwe uwane maawa ose ezuva kana akaverenga kana kudana; anotyisidzira kukukuvadza neimwe nzira kana iwe usipo
- Zvinokutumira iwe zvisina kunaka, kutuka, kutya kana kutyisidzira, magwaro epaIndaneti kana voicemails
- Zvishandiso nzvimbo dzakadai sechina, Facebook, Instagram, Twitter uye dzimwe nzvimbo paunogona "kutarisa" senzira yekuchengetedza ma tab
- Inoda iwe kuti uise purogiramu yekutsvaga GPS pafoni yako kana kuti inokurudzira kuti iwe "ugovere nzvimbo yako" kana iwe mose mune iPhones
- Inoisa spyware pa smartphone yako, tablet, kana kombiyuta usingazivi nezvazvo
- Inokuudza iwe unogona uye haugoni kuva shamwari neshamwari dzekugara
- Inoisa up fake makambani ehupfenyuro evanhu senzira yekusazivikanwa kusarura iwe paIndaneti
- Anokufananidza iwe paIndaneti nekunyengedza mu-akhawunti yako yehupfumi uye kuisa zvinhu zvinokurudzira iwe
- Tweets kana zvinyorwa zvisina kunaka, zvinonyadzisa kana zvinonyomba pamusoro pako; inogonawo kuseka newe paIndaneti
- Zvinoda kuve nemapepiswedi pafoni yako uye nhepfenyuro yemagariro evanhu
- Inotarisa kuburikidza nefoni yako, inoverenga mharidzo yako, inoongorora mapikicha ako, kana mipumburu kuburikidza nemitemo yako inofamba senzira yekuongorora basa rako
- Inonyora ma-mail ega ega kana mitambo yekutarisa kunze kwekubvuma kwako
- Zvinokutumira iwe usina kufanirwa mifananidzo kana mavhidhiyo
- Zvinetso zvamunotora uye kutumira mifananidzo yepabonde kana mavhidhiyo; anogonawo kutyisidzira kushandisa mapikicha aya nemavhidhiyo se "kutsiva porn" kana iwe ukaputsa
Nzira Yokugara Nayo Digitally Safe
Pakutanga kweukama, inogona kunzwa inofadza kuti mumwe wako aone zvakawanda zvekufarira iwe nekukutumira mameseji akawanda. Asi hukama hwehutano hwakave nemiganhu. Vanewo vanhu vaviri vane zvido uye ushamwari kunze kwehukama. Kana izvo zvisina kudaro, iwe unoda kutarisa zviratidzo zvekushandura kudanana. Uye kana mumwe wako achiita seanonyanya kudzora nezvekombiki muhupenyu hwako, iva nechokwadi chokuti watora matanho ekuzvidzivirira iwe. Heano dzimwe nzira dzekuti iwe unogona kuzvidzivirira kubva mukushungurudzwa kwepambani yekudanana:
- Usaudza mapepaji ako kune ani zvake.
- Ngwarira nezvekutarisa munzvimbo dzakasiyana; zvinoita kuti zvive nyore zvakare kuti vanhu vakuve iwe.
- Usatarisa kana kutumira shamwari dzako mumifananidzo pasina mvumo yavo nokuti vangada nzvimbo yavo ichichengetwa pachedu.
- Yeuka kuti iwe unorasikirwa nemirairo chero ipi zvayo yemagetsi kana mufananidzo kana iwe warova kutumira; usatumira chero chinhu chako pakombiyuta. Kazhinji, mifananidzo uye mapikicha zvinoshandiswa kunyadzisa kana kunyadzisa mumwe munhu mushure mekunge apera.
- Usaisa foni yako kune mumwe munhu kusanganisira iwe wawakaroorana naye; iyi ndiyo pfuma yega uye iwe haufaniri kugovana nayo.
- Ziva mararamiro ako ega ega uye chengetedza zvigadzirwa zvemagetsi, nhoroondo dzepaIndaneti uye nhepfenyuro yemagariro evanhu sevamwe vakachengeteka sezvazvinogona
- Yeuka kuti iwe une kodzero yekuzvinzwa wakachengeteka uye uchiremekedzwa muhukama.
Muukama hune hutano, mumwe wako acharemekedza mairi ako. Iyewo achakupa nguva uye nguva kure kunze kwekukumbira kuziva kuti uripi pane imwe neimwe yechipiri yezuva. Uye, iye achaziva kuti zvakakodzera kuti iwe ushandure foni yako kana kuti irege kuwanikwa dzimwe nguva. Ani naani asingaremekedzi zvinhu izvi ari kuratidza zviratidzo zvekutonga. Uye, kuda kutonga pamusoro peumwe munhu ndiyo chiratidzo cheukama hunoshungurudza.
Shoko Rinobva
Kana iwe, kana mumwe munhu waunoziva ari kunetsana kudanana kushandiswa kudanana, pane rubatsiro runowanikwa. Iwe hausi woga. Somuenzaniso, Rudo Rusiri Kushushikana runopa hurukuro, mavara, uye zvekukurukurirana zvekutsvaga kune vanhu vanobata nedhigiriji yekudanana. Iwe unogona kutumira tsamba rudois kusvika ku 22522 kana uine mibvunzo uye zvinetseka pamusoro pekudanana kwechidijititi kushandiswa. Uye, kana iwe usinganzwi wakachengeteka uchishandisa chigadziro chako, svika kwavari kwavari uchishandisa chidimbu chekoma kana kuti kombiyuta iri muraibhurari. Iwe unogonawo kudana National Domestic Violence Hotline pa1-800-799-SAFE chero nguva yemasikati kana usiku kuti utaure nemurevereri. Kana, shanyira webhusaiti yavo, www.hotline.org, kuti ugare mutauri.
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> "Kunze kweScreens: Chii Chinonzi Digital Dating Abuse?" Mhirizhonga yeNyika yeHurumende. http://www.thehotline.org/2014/03/18/what-is-digital-abuse/
> "Kudanana Kushungurudza Nhamba." Rudo Harusi Uchisimba. http://www.loveisrespect.org/resources/dating-violence-statistics/