Kuberekwa kwehuduku kunogona kukonzera nyaya dzakawanda dzepfungwa. Kuwedzera kwehutano kunogona kunyanya kuoma mukati memakore akasiyana-siyana nekuda kweruzhinji rwemagariro evanhu aya ezera rinotarisana. Hezvino izvo vabereki vanofanira kuziva pamusoro pemigumisiro yepfungwa yehutano hwehuduku, kuitira kuti vabatsire mwana wavo kutarisana nematambudziko nemamwe matambudziko akafanana.
Kuzvidzivirira Kwezvinhu
Kuberekwa kwevana kunopfuura dambudziko remuviri. Tweens dzinowanzove dzisinganzwisisi kuti dzinoenzanisa sei nevamwe, izvo zvinoita kuti vazvirirwe uye vanofunga vari voga. Zvakawanda zvezvienzanisi zvemagariro evanhu zvinosanganisira zvinhu zvisingakoshi, zvakadai sekusarudza zvipfeko, kutarisa kwemaziso uye-hongu-kuwanda. Nokudaro rutsigiro rwakapfurikidza rungave rusinganzwisisiki pakati pevamwe vezera rake. Somugumisiro, vatsvakurudzi vakawana maitiro akaderera ekuzviremekedza muvana vakanyanya uye gumi nevaviri vachienzaniswa nevezera ravo rekureruka. Rimwe boka revanotsvakurudza rakaona kuti vakareruka 9 kusvika kune vane makore gumi nemaviri vaine nyaya dzekuzviremekedza dzakapfuura zvisingakoshi. Mune mamwe mazwi, vanhu vanopfuura makumi maviri vakagara vasingafari navo pachavo nenzira dzakasiyana - kusanganisira dzevanhu - kwete kungofara nemafambiro avo.
Nzvimbo Dzakakwirira Dzokuora Mwoyo
Chikoro chesekondari makore makore akaoma kunyange pasi pekunakidza kwemamiriro ezvinhu, asi zvakadaro kune vana vane uremu hwezvinhu.
Mukuwedzera pakuita kufananidzwa kwakawanda pakati pevamwe nevezera ravo, zviviri zvinowanzogadzirisa kuti vamwe vanhu vanoita sei kwavari. Zvinosuruvarisa, makumi maviri nezviviri zvakawanikwa kuti zvive nehutano hwakawanda hwevamwe kana vachienzanisa nehuwandu hwemasero gumi. Vezera vanoita basa rinowedzera kukosha muupenyu huri pakati, saka kushamwaridzana kwakanaka kwevamwe vanhu kunokosha kune 'gumi' mupfungwa.
Somugumisiro, huwandu hukuru hwekuora mwoyo hwakawanikwa muvana vakanyanya uye gumi nevaviri.
Zvimwe Zvinetso Zvokuita
Vanenge vose vatatu vanozoita pane imwe nguva kana imwe, asi vabereki vane gumi nezviviri vakataura zvinetso zvakawanda zvehutano mumana avo gumi nezviviri vachienzaniswa nevabereki vane mashoma-mashoma gumi nezviviri. Kunyanya, vabereki vakacherechedza kuti vana vavo vakakomba vaiva ne "kuwedzera" matambudziko - matambudziko umo kutsamwa kunotungamirirwa mukati, izvo zvinogona kuratidza sekuora mwoyo, kuzvidya mwoyo kana kudya . Vaivawo ne "kutarisa matambudziko" - matambudziko umo kutsamwa kunotungamirirwa kunze, zvakadai sechisimba, kuzvidza uye kutaura kumashure. Vabereki vakaratidzawo kuwedzera kwevana vavo sevasingakwanisi kuchikoro uye mumagariro evanhu, kuisa kubudirira kwavo mune zvidzidzo uye ushamwari vari pangozi. Mubereki wekuona anogona kuita basa muzviwanikwa izvi, zvisinei, kubva kune avo vakatsvaga kurapwa vakaratidza matambudziko akawanda emitemo kupfuura avo vasina kutsvaga kurapwa. Mune mamwe mazwi, zvingadaro ndezvokuti vabereki vakaona kuneta sechinetso chaidiwa kurapwa vainyanya kushamwaridzana nemamwe maitiro sechinetso zvakare; avo vasina kutsvaga kurapwa vangave vasati vamboona kuneta kana zvimwe zviito sezvinetso zvachose.
Zvose mune zvose, kuneta kunogona kukonzera nyaya dzakasiyana-siyana dzepfungwa panguva yepakati pemakore. Nokudaro, kutora matanho ekugadzirisa nyaya yacho kuburikidza nekushandurwa mune zvinovaka muviri uye kuita zvekuita kunogona kuve kwakakosha mumuviri uye mupfungwa. Kana iwe uchifunga kuti mwana wako ari kutambura nekuda kwehutano hunobata-bata, kutaurirana nevana vako mwana wepachidiki ndechiito chekutanga chekuita kuti mwana wako ave rubatsiro rwaanoda.
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