Rudo rukuru rwakawanda, asi runogona kuva nemigumisiro mikuru
Rudo rukuru ndedzwi rinowanzoshandiswa kurondedzera chero mufambiro wakasimba, dzimwe nguva kunotonhora, nzira yekubata zvakaitwa nemumwe munhu. Icho chinokakavadzana, kunyanya kana chinoshandiswa mukurapa kwezvimwe zvinetso, zvakadai sekunyadziswa kwezvinodhaka kana zvimwe zvinokanganisa maitiro.
Chii Chinonzi Rudo Rwakawanda?
Rudo rukuru ndirwo ruzivo rwakazoziviswa kuvanhu vose nemunyori Bill Milliken mubhuku rake, Tough Love , yakabudiswa muna 1968.
Kune nzira dzakasiyana-siyana dzinoshandiswa rudo rwakaoma mumutauro wezuva nezuva. Kazhinji kazhinji, inoshandiswa kurondedzera chero rudzi rwekurera vana umo mwana anonzwa mamwe mafungiro asina kunaka sechikamu chekudzidza. Izvi zvinogona kutarisa kubva kune hutano hwakanaka hwemiganhu yakasimba, inowanikwa mumitemo yevabereki vane kodzero, kuvhiringidza maitiro ekurera vana umo kunyadziswa, kunyorera kana kumanikidzwa kwemuviri kunoshandiswa kudzora mwana.
Somuenzaniso, mubereki angashandisa rudo rwakasimba kumwana wavo mukuru asina kuwana basa. Vabereki vane ruzivo rwakasimba vanozorega kubhadhara zvikwereti uye vangabvumira mwana kutarisana nemigumisiro, yakadai sekubhadhara kwekanguva kana kubhadhara mari, panzvimbo pokutsvaga uye kugadzirisa dambudziko racho. Izwi iri rave rakakurumbira kwazvo, asi harigoni kushandiswa zvinobudirira mumamiriro ese ezvinhu, kusanganisira kusvuta.
Mumuenzaniso unokuvadza werudo rukuru, mubereki angaderedza kana kumukuvadza mwana nekusakwanisa kuwana bhidhii yakanaka kana kupedza mabasa epamba.
Kuva nemigumisiro kunogona kuchinja maitiro, asi ichi chiitiko chakanyanya chinogona kuva nemigumisiro yakaipa kwenguva refu.
Rudo rwakakomba runogona kureva nzira yakanaka yekurera vana iyo mwana anodzidza zvidzidzo zvinokosha, asi haatamburi nemigumisiro yekushungurudzwa, nokuti haitambudzi, uye inochengetedza rukudzo rwemwana.
Iyo inogona kushandiswa zvakaenzana nekushungurudza kwakaoma kumubereki umo kuzvidzora kwemwana kuchikanganiswa, uye ivo vanozviisa pasi pomuviri, mupfungwa kana kunyadziswa kwepabonde . Mukuremekedza iyo, rudo rwakasimba runenge rwusingarevi chimwe chinhu chisingatauri kunze kwekutaura zvimwe kusagadzikana pane chikamu chemucheche, uye hachigoni kushandiswa kupa kana chinangwa kana kubvumirana kwemaitiro emubereki ekuranga.
Tough Love
Kunyanya, rudo rwakashata rwakave ruchizvidzwa sechinhu chakaipa mukubata vechidiki kana vanhu vakuru vanorwisana nemishonga yekudhakwa, yakadai sevaya vanoita zvinodhaka. Mimwe mishonga yehutano inoshandisa izwi rakasimba rudo kuratidza nzira inorwadza iyo inoputsa kuda kwomunhu wacho. Kunyange zvazvo zvingaratidzika seinobudirira munguva shomanana, zvinogona kuwedzera kuipa mamiriro ezvinhu uye zvinotungamirira pakudzoka kune ngozi gare gare.
Rudo rukuru runogona kuva nenzvimbo yaro mukurapa zvinodhaka, asi hazvifanirwi kubatanidzwa pasina rupo kubva kunechiremba kana chiremba. Kana uine mwana kana kuti iwe unoda kurwisana nemishonga yekutsvaga, tsvaga mushonga wepindwa muropa nehutano pamusoro pekuti ungabatsira sei mudiwa wako. Muongorori wako anogona kukupa mazano pamusoro penzira dzakanakisisa uye nemiganhu yekubatsira mwana wako kuti adzoke nenzira yakasimba.
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