Maitiro ose anowanzomiririra BDSM (kusungwa, kurangwa, kutonga, kuzviisa pasi, uye sadomasochism) sevasingaregi, vane ngozi, uye vasina kunaka. Tora makumi mashanu shades eGrey, somuenzaniso, chiKristu chine zvikonzero zvekunakidzwa kink stem kubva mukushungurudzwa kwevana vake. Terevhizheni mitambo yeupombwe inowanzoratidzira vana vanoita zvekuita sevana, mbeu dzisiri dzemutemo. Haisi kungova nhepfenyuro yemapuranga BDSM nenzira iyi. Kusati kwasunungurwa yechishanu bhuku reDaagnostic uye Statistical Manual yeMental Disorders muna 2013, kubatanidzwa muku fetishism uye sadomasochism kwaitoonekwa sechirwere chepfungwa nevehutano.
1 - BDSM Haisi Idzva Rokuita Zvepabonde
Maonero pamusoro pekinky zvepabonde akachinja. Pamusana pokufarirwa kwenhau dzakadai seFifty Shades yeGrey, BDSM yakagamuchirwa zvikuru. Pop tsika haina kuita kink fad yakapfuura, zvisinei. Vanhu vave vaine nguva yekugara pabonde. A 2005 Durex Global Sex Survey yakawana 36% yevanhu vakuru vakabvumirwa kushandisa imwe rudzi rweuranda munguva yekuda rudo. Kunyange kumashure muna 1956, Kinsey Institute Study yakaratidza 50% yevarume uye 55% yevakadzi vaifarira kushungurudza. Tingave tisingambove nekinky zvepabonde zvakanyanya kudarika zvatiinazvo nguva dzose, asi isu tiri kunyatsotaura nezvayo.
Zvidzidzo zvenguva pfupi dzakapiwa mukunzwisisa BDSM nemigumisiro yayo pamuviri yakaratidza migumisiro inoshamisa. Haisi ivo chete vanotsvakurudza vasingakwanisi kuwana uchapupu hwekukuvadza BDSM hunoita, ivo vari kuona kuti chaizvoizvo kune zvishoma zvoutano hunobatsira.
2 - Kuvandudza Utano Hwepfungwa
Muna 2013, International Society for Sexual Medicine yakabudisa chidzidzo chePsychological Characteristics yeBDSM Practitioners. Chinangwa chacho ndechokuyera kufungisisa kwepfungwa dzekinksters nekuongorora hutsika hweunhu hunhu hwakadai sekubatanidza kwavo maitiro muhukama, hukama hwakanaka, uye kuti vanoita sei kuti vatsorwe kana vachienzaniswa nevari muboka rinodzora. Vatsvakurudzi havana kungoona kuti kinksters dzakanga dzisingakanganisi mupfungwa asi dzaive pamwero wepamusoro zvakanyatsogadziriswa kudarika vamwe vavo vanilla.
Kakawanda, shanduro yeBDSM yakanzwa yakachengeteka muhukama hwavo uye yakawedzera pfungwa yehupenyu. Vaive vanonyanya kuchenjerera kune vamwe, kunyanya kufungidzirwa, kunyanya kuzarurirwa kuedza zvitsva zvitsva, zvakaderedza kushungurudzika, uye vakanga vasingafungi vamwe kunzwisisa. Zvinofadza kuti ivo vainyanya kuziva zvekuda kwavo zvepabonde asi vashoma vanobvumirana. Zvinhu izvi zvinowedzera-mu-ruoko nekwanisi yekukwanisa kuratidza miganhu uye zvido.
Zvose izvi zvinogona kuva zviratidzo zvebasa rakawanda repfungwa rinowanikwa nevanorarama neBDSM iyo inobatsira chaizvo hutano hwepfungwa. Basa iri pamwe nehukuru hwavo hwekuzviziva hunoita kuti hukama hwehukama huri mukati uye kunze kwekamuri yekutakura hunoita kuti kuwedzere kufara.
3 - Kupera Kunetseka
Kutsvakurudza kwakaratidza vatori vechikamu veBDSM kupinda muhutano hwakachinja hunoenderana nekufungisisa kwenyika yegaga vanosangana nezvakaitika kana marathoner "mumhanyi wepamusoro." Zvinowanzozivikanwa kuti mabasa aya anogona kubatsirwa nehutano kuburikidza nekuderedza maitiro edu ekudzvinyirira hormone cortisol. Izvi zvinotichengetedza kubva pane zvakasiyana-siyana zvehutano zvirwere zvinosanganisira kuwedzera kwehutano hweropa, kubviswa kwehutachiona, uye insulin kudzivisa. Kubatanidzwa muBDSM kunogona kuva nemigumisiro yakafanana.
Tsvakurudzo yezvidzidzo kubva kuNorthern Illinois University yakaratidza uchapupu hwekushandurwa kwehukama hunoenderana neBDSM. Mune imwe shanduro yekudzidzira saliva yakatorwa kubva kune vanozviisa pasi uye inotungamira munguva dzechisaromasochistic. Vachibvumirana navo vakaratidza hutsika hwakaderera hwe cortisol mushure mekunge purogiramu yapera.
Kugona kwemaitiro mushure mekurwadza kweBDSM zvikamu zvaive zvakanyanya kuongorora kwechipiri. Vashandi vanogamuchira kurwadziwa vakaratidza kuderedzwa kwemabasa munzvimbo dzechimbic uye prefrontal nzvimbo dzeuropi. Iyi nharaunda dzinobatanidza nekushanda nekurangarira nekugadzirisa kutonga. Vatsvakurudzi vakapedzisa kuti kuerera kweropa kunzvimbo idzi kwakaderedzwa, zvichikonzera kuchinja kwehupenyu hwekuziva. Vakawanda vari munharaunda yeBDSM vanoshevedza hurumende iyi kuva "kubvumira" kune vanozviisa pasi uye "topspace" kana kuti "kuerera" kwekutonga. Haisi kungofadza chete kune vatori vechikamu asi kunowanzoonekwa sechiitiko chemweya.
4 - Kuvandudzwa kwehukama
MuNorthern Illinois University yekudzidza pamusoro pekuchinja kwemasimoni uye kuwirirana kwevanhu muBDSM, vatsvakurudzi vakaonawo kuti kupinda muzvikamu zvakabudirira zvechisaromasochistic kunowedzera kunzwa kwehukama uye ukama hwepedyo nevashamwari.
Isuwo tinoziva kuti kuita zvinhu zvitsva nevanovhiringidzirana navo, panzvimbo pezvinhu zvakafanana, zvinowedzera hukama hwepedyo. Kuongororwa kwehutano hwevanhu 53 vakaroorana vari pakati-kati vakaroorana vachiudza kugoverana mabasa evanowanzokonzera hutano hwehuropi uye hunoipisa ne dopamine nemamwe makemikari anonzwa-akanaka. Izvi zvakafanana nezvinoitika muuropi panguva dzekutanga dzoukama. Aya ndiwo maikemikari anochengetedza kuseka pazviso zvedu uye mapururu mumakumbo edu apo patinowana rudo rutsva.
Kunyange zvazvo chidzidzo ichi chisina kunyatsosanganisira maitiro eBDSM pakati pezvinhu zvinonakidza uye zvinoshamisa zvekuedza, izvo zvinokodzera. Sezvo iwe unogona kuchinja uropi hwemakemikari kuti huve nani nekushanyira paki yekunakidza, kutora kirasi yehari, kana kutamba mutambo mutsva unofadza nemunhu anodikanwa, unogonawo kukumbira imwechete yemakemikari kuchinja neBDSM. Kuratidza kana kuwedzera zvimwe zvinotyisa, ruzivo rutsva kumabasa ako ekurara rinogonawo kuunza kuwedzerwa manzwiro ekubatana uye pamwe chete mufaro muukama. Kutsvakurudza kwakaratidza kakawanda vakaroorana vane mufaro vane hutano hwakanaka hwepanyama uye hwepfungwa kupfuura vamwe vavo vasina kufara.
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