Nyanzvi dzinoverengeka dzinotarisa mukati kana kuti kushandisa shanduro iyi inoshanda.
Kana mumwe wako akakubiridzira, uye iwe uri kuedza kuyananisa uye kuvakirazve kuvimba, uchasangana nematambudziko akaoma avo vakaroorana vanogona kuwana. Imwe nzira inoshandiswa kuvhara kusatendeseka kwekutsvaga ndeyekuti chiratidzo chisina kutendeka chemukaro we "kusavimbika mushure mekunge chibvumirano chekubvumirana," kubvumirana kune imwe mari yakatarwa yebhadharo (kana chimwe chinhu chinokosha chekukosha) kubhadharwa kana vachibiridzira zvakare.
Zvibvumirano zvakadaro, zvakare zvinonzi "mararamiro emararamiro" zvinogona kunyorwa nemagweta emutemo emhuri.
Manhattan-based lawyer gweta Jacqueline Newman anotsanangura zvinowanzoita zvikonzero zvemashure-nuptial zvibvumirano: "zvinowanzoitwa mushure mekunge pane chimwe chinhu chekusatendeseka muwanano. Munhu akatsauka anoedza kuvimbisa mukadzi wake kuti haazoitiki zvakare uye kuratidza kuvimbika kwechipikirwa ichi, anoisa kuisa pepa pamapepa kuratidza kuti iye ane urombo sei. "Anonyevera nezvezvibvumirano izvi nokuti," Kana iwe ukapfuurira-kuita mubhuku kuti uwane mukana wechipiri, iwe unotora mungozi yokuti wako wako achamirira kusvikira iyo inenge yakaoma kudana iye / mudzimai wake muchengeti vemhosva iye zvino zvavanoziva kuti vari kuwana mari yakanaka. "
Ms. Newman anotenda kuti dzimwe nguva postnups inogona kuva izvo zvinodiwa kuti vaviri vacho vafambe mberi. "Nenzira isinganzwisisiki, dzimwe nguva vanogona kushanda nokuti kana mumwe wako akanganisa kuti mudzimai wavo anenge akanganisa aida chaizvoizvo 'kuripa' kwezvivi zvake, zvinoratidza kuti vakazvipira, uye izvi zvingave zvose zvinodiwa kuitira kuti vaviri vacho vadzoke pamugwagwa. "Anoti," Zvisungo zvemashure hazvizivikanwi kupfuura zvinyorwa, asi isu zvechokwadi tine mugove wedu wakanaka muhofisi yangu. "
"Kuvhara mari mari kazhinji hakukwanisi kumisa mupfumi aizodaro-achizoita." ~ Andrew G. Vaughn, gweta uye purofesa
Andrew G. Vaughn, gweta, muridzi weNuVorce, uye Purofesa weDomestic Relations Law paLoyola University Chicago School of Law inoti aya mabhuku ehupenyu anowanzozivikanwa nevakakurumbira vatengi.
Purofesa Vaughn anoti, "Haashandi. Vanhu vakapfuma vane mari yakawanda. Mari inodzivisa mari kazhinji haina kukwana kumisa mupfumi angadai achi-anonyengedza. "Haazvikurudzire uye anonyora kuti ivo havakwanisi. Chaizvoizvo, anotaura kuti zvinenge zvakaoma kunyora zvibvumirano zvakasimba zvakadai sezvi.
Brandy Austin, Arlington Texas-based legal law attorney, anotenda postnups kudzivisa kusatendeseka "chaizvoizvo zvisinganzwisisiki pakati pepakati nepasi kusvika pasi pevanhu vepamusoro. Ivo vakawanda kune vanozivikanwa, vanhu vanoverengeka ... vezvematongerwe enyika. "Asi, mune zvakaitika kwaari zvakare, izvi zvibvumirano mune chero ipi zvayo hazvisi zvakajairika. "Kana ikabatanidzwa sechidziviriro, mukana weumwe munhu achibiridzira anobvumirana kupa zvinhu zvavo zvose varombo." Mukadzi Austin anobvumawo kuti zvibvumirano izvi hazvibatsiri kune vapfumi. "Kana iwe uchitova mukana wekubhadhara, mari haibatsiri zvakafanana uye haigone kudzivisa kusavimbika."
Mune dzimwe nyika "hapana-mhosva" maererano nekurambana, asi mumamiriro ayo eTexas, matare angapa chikwereti chisinganzwisisiki cheimba mune mamwe mamiriro ekusatendeseka anobva pane "kushandiswa kwevanhu vomunharaunda kune mumwe munhu kunze kwewakaroorana naye kana vana - kuparadza nzvimbo yehupfumi. "Anoti Ms.
Austin.
Kune rumwe rutivi, Randall M. Kessler, mutemo wemutemo wemhuri, munyori, uye mutemo purofesa wekuchikoro muAtlanta, anorondedzera achiona zvibvumirano izvi kakawanda mukuita kwake, uye anotenda kuti ivo vari kuwedzera kuwanda. "Kwete chete kana mumwe wako asingatauri, asiwo kana hama inoda kupa mumwe mudzimai chivako asi haifariri mumwe wawakaroorana naye saka 'inochengeta chipo mumhuri.'" Anofunga kuti vanoita basa, uye "vanosimbiswa nyika yose kunze kweOhio uye zvavanoita, ndeyokuita kuti vanhu vataure nezvekurambana kwavo. Sei uchienda kudare redzimhosva uye uine pangozi yekuita chibvumirano chekugadziriswa kwemashure mako kana iwe uchikwanisa kutaurirana zvishoma pane zvinodiwa pasi pekupedzisira? "Akatovataurira, somuenzaniso," Kana mumwe munhu achitsamwira mumwe wavo, asi haadi Kurambana. "Asi anonyevera, zvisinei," semhosva chero ipi zvayo yemutemo yemhuri, funga kwenguva yakaoma pamusoro payo nokuti kana nyaya yacho ichisimudzwa kana vamiriri vanobatanidzwa, manzwiro anooma uye anowanzotambudza kuva kurambana kwakakwana. "
Jeffrey A. Landers, CDFA ™, muumbi weChristian Financially, Not Emotionally® yemabhuku uye seminari yakagadzirirwa kudzidzisa, kupa simba uye kutsigira vakadzi vasati vasvika, panguva uye mushure mokurambana zvakanyorwa pamusoro pehurukuro iyi paForbes online. Anotsanangura kuti, "Maitiro emararamiro anotarisa asingatauri nezvemari yemuchato, saiye achaita mabasa epamba, nguva yezororo ..." Ivo "vanowanzoonekwa sevatungamiri vehutano mukati memuchato, uye kunyange vasina kunyanya kufunga nezvezvinhu , pane imwe chete, pane zvikwereti zvemari zvinokonzera kusakwanisa kutevedzera mitemo. "Anotaura kuti zvikamu zvinosanganisira kusavimbika ndizvo zvakanyanya uye zvakakurumbira zvemashoko ehupenyu akadaro. Maererano naVa Mr. Landers, ivo havasi ivo vekatebhu zvakare, kana.
Maererano nepepanhau rePennsylvania yemutemo wemhuri, Jeffrey Kash, nyaya iyi haisati yasvika mukuita kwake, asi zvibvumirano zvinoshandiswa muhurumende yake. Anorayira vatengi "kusimbisa zvibvumirano zvinopomera kusavimbika uye kune dzimwe mvumo mumamiriro ezvinhu apo mumwe wawakaroorana naye asina kuita zvekuroorana uye anoda kugara muwanano." Anopa mazano ekutsvaga kubvumirana uku "apo mumwe mumwe wako ari kunzwa ane mhosva" iyo inobatsira uyo akatengeswa mushure mokupomera mhosva uye kurwisana kunotanga. "Usangogadzirisa mhando idzi dzezvibvumirano zvekusatendeseka nemhengo dzevasikana vakasiyana." Anoratidza zvakare.
VaKash vanotsanangura nyaya yaakabata makore akawanda apfuura, umo murume akayanana nemudzimai wake mushure mokunge mudzimai wacho aine nyaya. Semamiriro ekuyananisa, murume akakumbira kuti mudzimai ave chiratidzo che "post-nuptial chibvumirano chinogona kukonzera mararamiro ake edzimba mumamiriro ezvinhu apo iye akazobatanidzwa mune imwe nyaya yezvemhirizhonga." Unogona kufungidzira zvakazoitika. Mudzimai anobiridzira zvakare uye postnuptial, iyo iyo mudzimai ainge amusiya iye kodzero yemhuri, yakatsigirwa.
Sevadzidzi vehutano, kana mararamiro emararamiro ekusatendeseka anosungirwa, kana kuti anoshandiswa nevarume vaviri kana kwete, kutaura uye kufunga pamusoro pavo kunogona kubatsira. Kana vakanyatsokurukurirana uye vanogona kusimbiswa, vanogona kunyatsogadzirwa kuti vadzivise kubiridzira uye mamwe mabasa akaipa. Inogonawo kushandiswa apo mapato ose anoda kutora matanho kuti achengetedzwe chakavanzika kana zviitiko zvenguva yemberi yakaipa. Vose vezvenzvi vakaita mazano akanaka ekufunga kuti kana kwete here izvi zvingave zvakanaka pakusarudzwa kwako.
Nzira yekukurukurirana "zvikamu zvoupenyu" inogona kuzarura nzira dzekukurukurirana pakati pevakaroorana, uye kubatsira rubatsiro munzira dzisingatarisirwi. Aya magwaro anogona kukurudzira vanhu muhukama hwakazvipira kurukura kuvimbika kwehutano nekutarisira mberi. Manzwiro evanhukadzi uye kusavimbika achajekeswa. Kukurukurirana kwakadaro kunogona kubatsira, kunyange kana chirevo chisati chasungirwa.
Ndezvipi varoorana vanofunga nezvemaitiro ehupenyu vanofanira kunyanya kufunga pamusoro payo mafungiro eaiyepedzera. Kana uyo waainge akanganisa akaita seanenge achida kuita chero chinhu chipi zvacho kuti aponese imba, kusanganisira kusayina kunyorera, iyo inogona kuonekwa senhanho yakanaka mberi. Zvichida, kana munhu akatengesa anofanira kukanganisa mudzimai wavo asina kutendeka muchibvumirano chakadaro, izvo zvinogona kunge zvakasimba kuti tsika yekubiridzira haigone kuchinja.