Zviri nyore kuti tibviswe mumafungiro akaipa uye kuzvizvidza . Pane imwe nguva yakanamatira mumuenzaniso uyu, zvingava zvakaoma kusunungura. Paunenge uchiita zvinhu zvose zvinoseka iwe wati pamusoro pako kana vamwe vakataura kwauri, kuzvidzora kunotambudza kana kunenge kusipo. Kana mafungiro ako asina kunaka ari kudarika pfungwa dzako dzakanaka, inguva yekufunga nezvekunzwa zviri nani pamusoro pako.
Kuziva
Tanga nechitsauko chakajeka chokuziva. Zvichengete iwe pachako paunotanga kuva nemafungiro aya akaipa. Uri kutora mu "stinkin 'thinkin' here?" - izwi rinoshandiswa mubhuku, Iwe Mean Ive Haasi Wakasviba, Benzi kana Crazy ?! , nevanyori Kate Kelly naPeggy Ramundo, vanobvunza vaverengi kuti vaone mafungiro aya asina kunaka sevanhu vemuviri vanotikwevera pasi. Kuziva pfungwa idzi ndiyo danho rokutanga rokutonga zviri nani kwavari.
Self Talk
Isu tose tine chimiro chemukati chedu. Dzimwe nguva zvinenge zvisina mhosva sekuti, "Ndinofanira kutora mukaka kubva muchitoro." Kunyange dzimwe nguva zvingava nemafungiro asina kunaka, "Ndiri kurema, handingambosimudzirwi." Paunowedzera unopinda mukutaura kwakashata, iwe unotanga kuzvideredza iwe uye unyanzvi hwako. Kuti uchinje urongwa uhwu, mumwe munhu anofanira kushingaira kuzviita zvakanaka-kutaura.
Iva Mucherecheri Asingaoneki
Dzimwe nguva zviri nyore kune avo vari panze vachitarisa mukunyatsoongorora mamiriro ezvinhu.
Edza kuve iwe wekucherechedza zvematongerwo enyika iwe pachako. Uri kutora mukutaura kwakashata nokuti iwe uri kufunga nezvemhosva yakawanda yezviitiko zvakashata here? Iwe unongozvipa mhosva pachako kana zvinhu zvisingakanganisi here? Iwe unowedzera kuderedza kana kusava nehanya nezvinhu zvaunoita uye kukurudzira zvisiri izvo here? Taura neshamwari yako yaunovimba kuti uite izvi kunze kwekuona kana iwe uchiona zvakaoma iwe kuti uite izvi iwe pachako.
Dzokorora
Kana iwe uine kufunga kwakaipa, edza kuzvidzorera nenzira yakajeka. Kana iwe uri kuzvitaurira iwe - "Handina hanya nazvo, handigone kusvika pamusangano nenguva" - shandisa pfungwa yacho. Bvisa kururamisira kwakashata uye kururamisa pfungwa nenzira inobereka - "Ndakanga ndanonoka kumusangano. Ndingaitei kuti ndive nenguva inotevera? "
Bvisa mazamu
Kana iwe ukazviwana iwe uchishandisa mazwi akadai "Ini nguva dzose ..." kana kuti " Handimbofi ..." pamwe nemafungiro asina kunaka, shanda nesimba kuti ubvise zvitsanangudzo zvachose. "Nguva dzose" kana "haamboiti" inoreva kuti iwe haugone kuita zvinhu zvakasiyana uye mhedziso yakadaro inogona kutakura zvisiri izvo.
Iva Nomutsa Iwe pachako
Zviri nyore kupindira muchimiro chekuve iwe kutsoropodza kwakanyanya. Iwe unogona kutaura zvinhu zvisina kunaka pamusoro pako pachako kuti haungambofungi kutaura kune mumwe munhu nokuti zvinenge zvichikuvadza. Zvishande iwe nemutsa wakafanana. Usazvitaurira pachako kuti iwe haungazoti kune mumwe munhu.
Sources:
Kate Kelly naPeggy Ramundo. Iwe Unoreva Kuti Handisi Wakasviba, Benzi kana Crazy ?! . Scribner. 2006.
Mayo Foundation yeChirapa Dzidzo uye Ongororo. Kufunga Kwakanaka: Unyanzvi hweKunetseka Kwepfungwa . May 31, 2007.