Mazano Okutanga Kutaurirana Paunenge Uine Hanya Nevanhu
Kuziva kutanga kutanga kukurukurirana nemumwe musingazi nyore kune vamwe vanhu. Zvisinei, kana iwe uchitambura nehutano hwehupfumi hwevanhu (SAD) , imwe nzvimbo yakazara nevasingazivi inogona kunge inotyisa zvikuru. Kana mutorwa wamunotarisa kutanga kukurukura naye ane chiremera chechiremera, izvi zvinowedzera kuwedzerwa kuzvidya mwoyo kwako.
Unyanzvi hwokutanga hurukuro inenge iri nyore nyore-tarisa kune mumwe munhu kana kutaura chimwe chinhu chakajeka.
Yeuka kuti chinangwa chako chiri kungoita chirevo chekutanga. Zvaunotaura hazvikoshi sezvinokupa iwe mumwe nomumwe mukana wekutaura chimwe chinhu.
1. Mhinduro pane chimwe chinhu chaunoda
Kazhinji, munhu wauri kuedza kutanga nhaurirano achava nezvimwe zvakasiyana nezvake. Zvichida icho chinhu chezvishongo, shati isina kujairika, kana kuti zvimwe kunyora; chimwe chinhu chakasiyana chinoudza nyaya pamusoro pemunhu. Zvinhu zvakadai sezvizvi zvinokupa kutanga kwekutaura.
Taura chimwe chinhu chakafanana:
- "Wow, iyo inenge yakanyatsonaka, ndeipi rudzi rwebwe iro?" kana
- "Shati yakanaka, saka iwe uri Mufaro Wakafara Wakafa?" kana kunyange,
- "Icho ndicho chinyorwa chaYoda pafudzi rako here?"
Iva nechokwadi chekudzivisa chero chinhu chakanyanya kufanana sechinhu chinotangira kana iwe unogona kunge uchigumbura mumwe munhu. Usabvunze kana iri iro redzidzidzi rwemavara kana kuti iye anogara achiita gym.
Mushure mokunge magamuchira mhinduro, ivai nechimwe chinhu chingareva chichakupai nzvimbo yakafanana iyo yekuvaka hurukuro uye ukama.
Usati watanga, funga nezvenyaya yekutevera. Ichi ndicho chinhu chinokosha pakuvaka hurukuro.
Teerera ne chimwe chinhu chaunenge uri wega unobatanidza nemumwe munhu uye icho chinomuudza chimwe chinhu chinonakidza pamusoro pako:
- "Nzvimbo imwe chete yandakaona chinhu chakadai chakafanana chakanga chava pane imwe nzvimbo muIndia."
- Kana kuti "Baba vangu vaiva chaiye vakafa Musoro, vakanditora kuti ndivaone kana ndaiva mwana."
- Kana kuti "Ndinoda matanho, ndanga ndichifunga nezvekuwana imwe asi ini ndisiri chokwadi chekuwana chii? Wakatora sei paYoda?"
Zvose izvi zvinyorwa zvinobatsira kukubatanidza iwe kumunhu uye kuramba uchikurukura. Yeuka, chinangwa hachisi kureva chinhu chakanaka kana kusvika kune imwe nzira, asi kuti uzarurire mukova wekukurukurirana kukuru.
2. Edza kumira kwekare: "Handina kukuona iwe pane imwe nzvimbo zvisati zvaitika here?"
Zvichipa mamiriro ezvinhu akanaka, kutanga kwekukurukurirana kunogona kushanda. Kana iwe ukati kune mumwe munhu, "Iwe unoratidzika chaizvo, unoziva iwe kubva pane imwe nzvimbo?" zvinoita kuti zvive nyore kwazvo kuunganidza nekupa ruzivo rwakanyanya uye kutanga kutaurirana.
- "Iwe unopinda chikoro chipi chesekondari?"
- "Ndakanga ndiri muboka raifamba, wakamboita chiridzwa here?"
- "Unoshanda kupi?"
- "Ndave ndaenda kune iyo Starbucks."
Sezvaunofamba nemashoko ehupenyu hwemumwe munhu, inzwa wakasununguka kuenda kune dzimwe nguva. Yeuka, iwe hausi kunyatsoda kuziva kana wakambosangana; iwe unoda kusvika pakuziva zvakawanda nezvomumwe munhu.
3. Ita mhinduro inonakidza.
Imwe yenzira dzakanakisisa dzekutanga kukurukura ndeyokuita mazwi anonakidza pamusoro pewakapoteredza.
- "Hei, haasi mudzidzisi wedu anotarisa saHarry Potter?" kana
- "Ndizvo here ini, kana mukomana ari mumutsara wekutanga akarara?"
Yeuka zvakadaro-chinangwa hachisi chokureva-chinokurudzira kana kutonga, saka iva nechokwadi chokuti uchengetedze mazwi ako chiedza-mwoyo.
Zvadaro, edza kukoka mumwe munhu mutsara.
- "Unofunga kuti aripi anochengeta magic ake, muhombodo yake?" kana
- "Unofunga kuti acharara nekirasi yose here?"
Ziva kuti nzira iyi yekutanga hurukuro inogona kuva yengozi. Unhu hwakaoma kune mumwe wausingazivi zvakanaka. Zvisinei, kana ukawana mumwe munhu anogoverana nemanzwiro ako, mikana ndeyokuti ichava kutanga kwehukama hwakanaka. Funga nenguva iyi seye nguva yekuedza mvura, kuwana vanhu vanofunga nenzira imwecheteyo.
Shoko Rinobva
Yeuka kuti chimwe chezviito izvi zvinogona kukanganisa dzimwe nguva. Kana iwe usingagamuchiri mhinduro yakanaka kubva kune mumwe munhu, pane nguva dzose vamwe vanhu vamunogona kusvika.
Kana iwe uchiramba uripo, nekufamba kwenguva zvichava nyore kutaura nevasingazivi. Sezvaunowedzera kuva nechivimbo uye wakasununguka, haufaniri kuvimba netsika kuti utange kukurukurirana.
Kana iwe uchinetseka zvakanyanya mumagariro evanhu , kurapwa kwakakosha, zvakadai sekuziva-kugadzirisa kurapa kana mishonga . Pasina kunyatsoshanda kurapwa, tricks dzakadai sematangiro ekukurukurirana kana mamwe mazano emagariro evanhu haabvumirwe kubudirira. Chidzidzo che 2016 chakaratidzira kuti vanhu vane hurombo hwemagariro evanhu havawanisi kupa zviyero zvakaenzana pakukurukurirana, uye sechikonzero ichi hachina kunaka, saka zvakakosha kushanda pakuzvidya mwoyo kwako kutanga.
> Kwakabva:
> Mein C, Fay N, Page AC. Kukanganiswa kwekugoverana kunotsanangura kuti nei vanhu vane hanya nevevanhu vasingadikanwi zvakanyanya. J Behav Ther Exp Psychiatry . 2016; 50: 147-151.