Unyanzvi hwehutano kuzvibatsira mabhuku chinhu chakanaka kune avo vane chirwere chinokonzera kushungurudzika (SAD) vanoda kuvandudza kushanda kwavo. Aya mabhuku anofukidza nyaya dzakasiyana-siyana dzinosanganisira mutauro wemuviri , kutaura kwakanaka uye ruzivo rwevanhu. Kungofanana nemabhuku ekubatsira-kubatsira kuzvidya mwoyo, iyo yehutano hwevanhu vanofanirwa inofanira kusarudzwa zvakanaka.
Mune chidzidzo che2008, chakanga chakagadzirirwa kuti mabhuku akazvimirira oga anobatsira ane maitiro akafanana. Izvi zvinosanganisira kugadziriswa musayenzi (izvo zvatinoshevedza "uchapupu-hwakatendwa"), zvichinyatsoenderana maererano nezvakavimbiswa (hazvifaniri kupikira "mushonga"), zvakanyatsoratidzwa muhutungamiri hunopiwa, uye kwete kupa chero chakaipa kana chenhema ruzivo (zvinonzi "kusaita zvinokuvadza").
1 - Kutaurirana sei kune umwe: 92 Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships
Munyori weLeil Lowndes akazvitsaurira hupenyu hwake kudzidzisa unyanzvi hwokukurukurirana kubudirira. Mune Nzira Yokutaura Naani , anopa mikana 92 ​​yekubudirira mukubata nevanhu nenzira inokwezva vamwe kwauri.
Mazano anobata nyaya dzakadai sokutanga maonero, zviduku, hurukuro yemuviri, uye hukama. Lowndes anonyora nenzira inofadza uye yakananga, kunyange kumupa mazano mazita anobata kuitira kuti uuyeuke, zvakadai se "Rubberneck mumba."
2 - VanhuSarudza: Kuvandudza Unhu Hwako Hwevanhu
VanhuStart ndiyo nzira inobatsira yekuvandudza hutano hwako hunoenderana nehukama hwehutano uye hwehukama. Bhuku rino rinopa chirongwa chechikamu chechina chekuvandudza unyanzvi hupfumi hunokosha hwehutano huchishandisa mienzaniso, zvishandiso, uye maitiro.
3 - Nzira Yokushamwaridzana Pamwe Chete Newe Munhu
Mune Nzira Yokukurumidza Kubatana naIye Mumwe , Leil Lowndes anorondedzera nzira yekubatanidza simba rekuziva kunozivikanwa sehuporofita hwekubudirira mune zvebhizimisi uye hukama hwehukama. Nzira dzekutsvakurudza dzakagadzirirwa dzinobatsira kukubatsira kuti uite pfungwa uye uremekedze ruremekedzo munzvimbo dzose dzehupenyu hwako.
4 - Kukurukura Nekutaura
Kukurukura Nekutaura neAlan Garner inopa mazano ekuvandudza unyanzvi hwako hwekutaura uye kuderedza kushungurudzika kwevanhu . Zano rinofukidza nzvimbo dzakadai semhando dzakasiyana dzemibvunzo yaunogona kubvunza panguva yekukurukurirana, kuti ungateerera zvakanaka sei, uye kuti ungagamuchira sei kuvongerwa.
5 - Hurukuro Yakanakisisa yeShoko Guru
Iyo Inyanzvi Yakanakisisa Yokukurukurirana Inopa mazano kubva kune vekukurukurirana nyanzvi Debra Fine pamusoro pekuita hurukuro shoma shoma. Inosanganisira mazano nemaitiro ekukubatsira kuti usanyanya kunzwa marara, kuvandudza mano ako ekuteerera , uye kutanga kutaurirana. Kunyange zvazvo bhuku iri rinosvika munharaunda yepamusoro, rinenge richiri kubatsira kune avo vanotambura nekunetseka kwevanhu.
6 - Unyanzvi hwevanhu: Ungazvidzivirira sei, Teerera Vamwe uye Kugadzirisa Kurwisana
Vanhu Unyanzvi naRobert Bolton inzira yekukurukurirana bhuku rinotungamirirwa kukubatsira iwe kufamba mararamiro kubudirira.
Munyori anotsvaga zvipingamupinyi gumi nezviviri zvinowanzobatanidza zvekukurukurirana zvinokanganisa ukama uye kuti ungakunda sei. Nzira dzakapiwa nzvimbo dzakadai sehutano hwokuteerera, kugutsikana, kugadzirisa kusawirirana, uye nzira yekushandisa kunyarara zvakajeka (hongu, pane dzimwe nguva chigadzirwa kwete pane chikonzero chekuzvidya mwoyo).
7 - Definitive Book of Body Language
Bhuku rinonzi Definitive Book of Body Language rinotungamirira kunzwisisa nekudzidza nzira yekuvandudza zviri nani maitiro ekukurukurirana . Zvinosanganisira mazano ekuverenga kwaunoita manzwiro nemamwe pfungwa kuburikidza nemitauro yavo uye kuti unoziva sei kuti uri kutumira zviratidzo zvakanaka nemutauro wako. Sezvo zvizhinji zvezvaunotaura zvinopfurikidza kuburikidza nemuviri wako uye inzwi rezwi, kunyatsoziva unyanzvi hwemutauro wemuviri kunofanira kuva pamusoro pekunyoresa paunenge uchishanda paunyanzvi hwevanhu.
8 - Dale Carnegie's Lifetime Plan for Success
Iri bhuku rinobatanidza vaviri vevanyori vanokurudzira mabhuku aDale Carnegie anotengesa zvakanyanya: Maitiro Okukunda Shamwari uye Kukurudzira Vanhu uye Nzira Yokurega Kunetseka uye Kutanga Kurarama . Kana uri kuenda kunotenga chero mabhuku pamusoro pehurukuro iyi, mabasa aCarnegie ave akaedza nguva uye zvakakodzera kuverenga.
Zvaungaita Kuti Uwane Shamwari Nekukurudzira Vanhu vanotonga misoro yakadai sekubata nevanhu, kuva mukurukuri nani, nekukwezva shamwari.
Nzira Yokurega Kushushikana uye Kutanga Kurarama kunotsvaga nzira yekudzivisa kushungurudzika mupfungwa uye kuderedza kushushikana muupenyu hwako. Kunyange yakanyorwa makore anopfuura makumi matanhatu adarika, mabhuku ose ari maviri anokosha nhasi.
> Kwakabva:
> Redding, RE, Herbert, JD, Forman, EM, & Gaudiano, BA (2008). Mavara ekuzvidzivirira mabhuku ekuda kufunganya, kuora mwoyo, uye kushungurudzika: Zvakasikwa sei nesayenzi uye zvinobatsira? Professional Psychology: Research and Practice, 39 (5), 537-545.