Fungisisa nekutaura kusinganzwisisiki nekugadzirira mberi, kushandira pane unyanzvi hwako hwemagariro evanhu, uye kuziva nguva yekushandisa kumwe kuseka. Kunyange nhaurirano dzisinganzwisisiki dzingaita sedambudziko, dzinogona kuva mikana yakanaka yekudzidzira kugadzira hurukuro shoma nekugadzirisa kukakavara-kunyanya kune avo vane chirwere chekushungurudzika kwevanhu munzanga (SAD).
- Kunzwisisa kusava nehanya. Gadzirisa mamiriro acho ezvinhu nekuita kuti unzwisise pamusana pekuda kwako. Zvichida pane zvakawanda zvemaseri akareba kana zvichida mumwe munhu ane maonero akasimba akasiyana newe. Ziva chikonzero chekusava nehanya, uye iwe uchava nhanho imwe pedyo yekuwana mhinduro. Kana mumwe munhu achangobva kukanda mabhomba, zvakanaka kuti ataure chimwe chinhu, "Ndiri kungofunga pamusoro pezvawataura," kuzvipa nguva yekuchera mashoko.
- Chengetedza hurukuro ichiyerera. Pane chikonzero nei marimi akawanda anogona kuita kuti unzwe usina kunetseka. Bhuku ra2010 rinobva kuYunivhesiti yeGroningen, The Netherlands, rakanzi "Kuvhiringidza kuyerera: Kusuruvara kwechidimbu muhurukuro yeboka kunobata zvido zvevanhu," yakabudiswa mu Journal of Experimental Social Psychology Research yakaratidza kuti kukurukurirana kwakanaka kunoita kuti munhu anzwe kuzvidzora, kushandiswa kwevanhu, uye kuva veboka. Ita zvose zvaunogona kuti uite kuti hurukuro iende, uye iwe neyekukurukurirana wako unonzwa uchinzwa wakasununguka.
- Tsvaga kuseka. Kana hurukuro yave yakanetsa, funga kuita chimwe chinhu kuti uwedzere mafungiro. Iwe unogona kuita izvi nekuudza joko kana nhau, kuseka iwe pachako, kana kuwana kuseka mumamiriro ako ezvinhu.
Kuchengeta chiedza chepfungwa kunobatsira kuputsa mazaya uye kutungamira hurukuro mberi. Kana iwe wakanamatira kwekutanga kukurukura iwe unogona kushandisa kunyange joko kuti uzvizive iwe pachako, zvakadai se "Ko ibhira rinorema rinorema zvakadini? Zvaringana kuputsa ice."
- Bvumirana kurambidza. Dzimwe nguva kukurukurirana kunosema nemhaka yekusawirirana. Mune mamiriro ezvinhu aya, edzai nguva dzose kuti muwane kugadzirisa. Iva nemanzwiro kune mumwe munhu, uye edza kunzwisisa kuti anoona sei mamiriro akasiyana pane iwe. Kuita izvi kunogona kukubvumira kubvuma maonero ake pasina kuchinja iwe pachako.
- Teerera uye ngorora. Kana iwe usingazivi zvokutaura muhurukuro, edza kungofungidzira zvese zvaunonzwa kune mumwe munhu. Kana shamwari itsva yekuchikoro inogumbura pamusoro pekirasi rakashata pane rimwe basa, taura chimwe chinhu chakadai "Zvinonzwika kana iwe uri kutsamwa zvikuru pamusoro pekirasi yako pachirongwa ichocho." Kazhinji vanhu vanoda kungoziva kuti manzwiro avo anobvumirwa pane kupa mhinduro dzematambudziko avo. Kuita saizvozvo kunoderedzawo iwe wekumanikidzirwa kwekuedza kufunga pamusoro pekutaura zvakatevera.
Shandisa nguva yakawanda kuteerera uye kufunga pamusoro pezvinenge zvataurwa, pane kugadzirira zvaunenge uchataura. Bvunza vamwe pfungwa dzavo panzvimbo yekufunga kuti munhu wese anonzwa zvakafanana newe, uye kurumidza kurega kutaura pamusoro pechinhu kana iwe uchiona zvichiita kuti vamwe vasanetseka. - Bvunza mubvunzo. Zvichida iwe uri muhurukuro iyo isinganzwisisi nokuti iwe hauzive chinhu pamusoro pomumwe munhu. Mune mamiriro ezvinhu aya, zvakanakisisa kubvunza mibvunzo kuedza nekuwana zvido zvevamwe zvinogona kuchinja.
Kana iwe uchiziva kuti iwe uchava mumamiriro ezvinhu apo iwe uchange uchitaura nevasingazivi, edza kuronga zvishoma nhatu mibvunzo "yekuenda kune" yakazaruka (inotanga ne "sei" kana kuti "chii") yaunogona kushandisa kana iwe unopinda mumamiriro akaoma. Somuenzaniso, kana iwe ukazviwana uri pedyo ne punchbowl uchitaura nababamunini iwe usati waona mumakore anoverengeka, bvunza chimwe chinhu se "Chii chinoita kuti ugare wakabatikana mumazuva ano?"
Mibvunzo inogonawo kukumbirwa kutsvaga zvakadzama muhurukuro yakambokurukurwa kare muhurukuro, kurondedzera kusanzwisisana, uye kuratidza kuti uri kunyatsoteerera kune mumwe munhu. Ingwarira kuti urege kubvunza mibvunzo yakawanda mutsara, kana iwe ungasangana semubvunzurudzo.
- Ipa hurukuro itsva. Nhaurirano nhaurirano nyaya dziri dzakakwana pakuvhiringidza kukurukurirana. Iva nemamwe mashomanana aya akakodzera uye akagadzirira kuunza nguva inotevera apo iwe uone kuti hakuna munhu ane chimwe chinhu chaanotaura. Mimwe mienzaniso yenyaya inosanganisira zvirongwa zveterevhizheni zvakakurumbira, chimwe chinhu chamunenge mava pamwe chete (zvakadai sechiitiko chinotevera kuchikoro), uye zviitiko zvino. Iva nechokwadi chokuti hurukuro yaunotaurira ichinhu chichange chichifambisa shamwari dzako dzekukurukurirana.
Misoro mitsva inokwanawo hurukuro duku nevasingazivi. Kunyange zvinhu zvisina kuitika zvakadai semamiriro ekunze zvinogona kuva nzira yakanakisisa yekuputsa iri. Kana iwe uchiziva kuti iwe uchava mumamiriro ezvinhu apo iwe uchatofanira kukurukura nevasingazivi, iwe ungatotanga kufunga kuita imwe detective basa kuti uone kuti ndiani waunosangana uye kugadzirira mimwe mibvunzo yakagadzirirwa kune zvavanoda. Kupa rumbidzo yezvokwadi (pamusoro pezvokugadzira zvinhu kana gadziro, somuenzaniso) zvakare inzira yakanaka yekutaura pamusoro pechinhu chitsva.
- Iva nesimba. Kana iwe ukazviwana iwe mukukurukurirana nemunhu asina unyengeri, ndiani akakubvunza chimwe chinhu chisina kukodzera, kana kuti chakuita kuti urege kunetseka, zvinokosha kuti uzvimire iwe pachako. Tora kutonga nokutaura chimwe chinhu chinokurudzira, sekuti "Ndinoda kuti ndisataure izvozvo."
Kana iwe ukazviwana iwe chinangwa cheumwe munhu akaoma, ita kuti kukurukurirana uende kune imwe nhauriro uye munhu mutsva. Ngwarira kuti usachengeta manzwiro asina kunaka kune iwe pachako-kana iwe unogona kuisa pangozi yekugumisa kutsamwa uye kunorwadza kwenguva refu. - Nyarara. Haasi mamiriro ezvinhu ose anodaidza kukurukurirana. Kunyange zvazvo ichokwadi kuti kutaura kwakanaka pakati pevamwe shamwari kunowedzera kuwirirana, kana iwe ukazviwana uri panzvimbo dzevanhu nevasingazivi, kutaura hakusi nguva dzose kunokosha. Wakagara naye pabhasi kana ndege angasave nehanya mukuita hurukuro huru zvese rwendo-uye rwakanyatsonaka. Kana mumwe munhu achipa mhinduro dzakawanda-shoko rimwe chete, uye akaisa maoko ake kana kusendamira kure, izvo zvinoratidza kuti angasarudza kungoramba akanyarara.
- Bata nekunetsa misoro. Shandisa mazano ekugadzirisa mamiriro ezvinhu asina kunaka nekuda kwezvave zvataurwa. Ita hurukuro mune imwe nzira yakadaro nokutaura chimwe chinhu chakadai, "O, zvinofadza. Unoziva chii chandakanzwa rimwe zuva?" uye ramba uchitaura pamusoro pehurukuro isinganzwisisiki.
Kana mumwe munhu akanganisa mashoko asina kunaka pakati pehurukuro inoramba ichienderera mberi, funga kumbomira kunyarara kwenguva pfupi, uye nekuenderera mberi kwezera rekukurukurirana, panzvimbo pokutaura zvakataurwa (zvinozivikanwawo se "kuponesa chiso" kune munhu akaita misstep).
Mimwe nzira dzokubata nayo zvinyorwa zvisinganzwisisiki ndeyekuti urambe wakanyarara kana uri mberi kuti iwe unonzwa usina kunetseka. Taura chimwe chinhu chakadai, "Ini handiri mumwe wekunyomba, zvinondiita kuti ndinzwe ndakasuruvara nokuti handidi kuti vamwe vataure pamusoro pangu saizvozvi. Zvinotyisa zvidzidzo dzimwe nguva zvinogona kuva izvo zvasara zvisina kubatwa.
Kana mumwe munhu achishungurudzika kurasikirwa kana pane kukakavadzana kwemhuri, inogona kuumba pasi pedestered uye kuisa kusava nekutaura mukukurukurirana. Kazhinji nzira dzakanakisisa dzekutarisa mamiriro ezvinhu aya ndekuzvibudisa pachena-nenzira ine mutsa uye ine tsitsi. Taura chimwe chinhu chakadai, "Ndine urombo zvikuru nekurasikirwa kwako. Unofanira kunge uine dambudziko ikozvino." Zvisinei, kana manzwiro achiripo akasimba (zvakadai semakakatanwa emhuri) zvingava zvakanakisisa kuti usapedza nguva yakawanda uchibvuma nyaya yacho, kana iwe unotyisidzira kuzarura matambudziko ekare.
Nyaya dzisinganzwisisiki dzinogonawo kusanganisira iyo iwe une chimwe chinhu chaunokumbira kana nyaya inonetsa yaunoda kuzokurukura. Kana iwe uchiziva kuti iwe uchange uine mamiriro asina kunaka ehupenyu huno, edza kupa mumwe munhu kunyevero kuitira kuti arege kutorwa nechishamiso. Rega munhu iyeye azive kuti une chimwe chinhu chakakosha chokukurukura nekuisa nguva yekuzviita. - Buda zvakanaka. Kana pasina chaicho chakasara kutaura, kana iwe une chimwe chikonzero chekuda kubva muhurukuro, gadzirira uye uronga kuzviita zvakanaka. Nguva dzose rumbidzai mumwe munhu nekutora nguva yekutaura. Kana mumwe munhu ari kunyengedza nguva yako uye asingazokubvumiri kupedzisa hurukuro, shandisa chikonzero chakadai sekuda kuwana imwe yekunwa, sechikonzero chekubuda.
- Iva kunzwisisa. Haasi munhu wose muhomwe wevanhu vanofarira kutaura. Vamwe vanhu vangave vachitambudzika neinyara kana kushungurudzika kwevanhu, uye kutora nguva yakareba kuti vadziyirwe mumamiriro matsva uye nevanhu vatsva. Kana mumwe munhu anonzwa achitya pamusoro pako nokuti haakuzivi iwe, iva nemutsa uye unonzwisisa.
Kana mumwe munhu ane chirwere chekushushikana kwevanhu munzanga, zvinogona kuva kutya kana kutya kunokonzera kusagadzikana pakati pako. Vanhu vane SAD vanotya kunyara pamberi pevamwe, uye zvinoshuvira mararamiro avo ezuva nezuva. Usatonga mumwe munhu anoita seasina kunaka, achitya, kana kutya. Pane kudaro, shingairira, kuratidzira kufarira kwechokwadi kuburikidza kunyatsoteerera, uye kuwana chidzidzo chekubatana, kuitira kuti munhu iyeye anzwe akanyatsofara. - Shandisa urombo hwako hwemagariro evanhu. Kana hurukuro isinganzwisisi nekuda kwekunyara kwako kana kushungurudzika kwevanhu, itai zvose zvamunogona kuti mugadzirise manzwiro aya. Ita unyanzvi hwehutano, verenga mabhuku ezvokubatsira pamusoro pokukunda kukunyara uye kushungurudzika kwevanhu, uye ona mushonga kana kushungurudzika kwako kwakanyanya uye kukanganisa upenyu hwako. Iwe unokweretesa iwe pachako nekukurukurirana kwako mune ramangwana kuti uwane rubatsiro pamanzwiro ako.
- Tsanangura kusagadzikana kwemagumo. Dzimwe nguva kukurukurirana kunopfupiswa. Pane kuregeredza kuti kukurukurirana kwakaguma zvisinganzwisisiki, kukumbira ruregerero kana kubvuma mamiriro acho nguva inotevera kana uchitaura nemunhu iyeye. Tsanangura chikonzero chakaita kuti iwe uende uye kuti chakanga chisina munhu. Kune avo vane kushungurudzika kwevanhu, vachitsanangura kuti dzimwe nguva hukama hwevanhu hungave hukuru hunogona kufamba nenzira yakareba yekuita kuti mumwe munhu ave nyore nyore.
- Kuguma nechidimbu. Zvakakosha kupedzisa hurukuro nechfupiso uye chirongwa chamangwana. Somuenzaniso, unogona kutaura chimwe chinhu chakadai, "Zvaive zvakanaka kukurukura pamusoro pemarathons ose awakabatanidzwa. Zvichida nguva inotevera isu tiri pamwe chete tinokwanisa kuronga kana ini ndichatanga kudzidzira." Rudzi urwu rwakarongeka rwekuguma kune kukurukurirana runobatsira kuunza zvinhu kune zvakasikwa zvepanyama asiwo zvinotungamirira mukukurukurirana kweramangwana.
- Batsira kugadzirisa zvinetso. Batsira mumwe munhu kugadzirisa dambudziko uye kusava nemuviri pakati pako kuchasununguka nyore nyore. Kukumbira shamwari kune mazano ndeimwe nzira yakanakisisa yekuita kuti kukurukurirana kufare uye kuyerera. Kutaura nezvezvinetso nemhinduro zvinogona kutora nguva yakareba-uye kukupa chimwe chinhu kuti uongorore nguva inotevera apo iwe ukaona mumwe munhu.
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