Apo patinotaura pamusoro pekufara muupenyu hwemazuva ano, tinowanzoreva nezvekunzwa kwatinowana mushure mekutanga kwechigunzva chemukananisi ice cream cone kana kana kupedza masikati neshamwari dzakanaka. Iyi nzira yekufunga nezvekufara sezvinofadza zvinoratidza kuti ihwo hunozviisa pasi, hune humwe humwe hunoita, hunoita kuti tive nechiitiko chechinguva-nenguva-chatinacho.
Kunyangwe kunzwa zvakanaka ndiko chikamu chemufaro , zvikoro zvakawanda zvekare zvepfungwa zvakatsanangurwa mufaro kupfuura zvakazara. Kunyanya, Aristotle aifunga kuti chinangwa chekupedzisira chehupenyu hwevanhu chaiva chiGiriki chekare chinonzi Eudaimonia , chinowanzoshandurwa se "mufaro" asi zvinoreva kuti "kubudirira kwevanhu" kana "hupenyu hwakanaka". Panzvimbo pane manzwiro kana manzwiro anoita shanduko, eudaimonia inonyatsoongororwa nokuzvibvunza isu, "Chii chandinofanira kurangarirwa nokuti kana hupenyu hwangu hwapfuura?" Chirevo cheAristotle chekurarama hupenyu hwakanaka ndechokuita zvakanaka. Kuva nomutsa, kuzvininipisa, kuchenjera, uye kutendeseka nguva dzose muzviito zvedu. Kuva munhu akanaka, mune mamwe mazwi, ndiyo nzira yeupenyu hunofadza.
Mafungiro emazuva ano akagamuchira pfungwa yaAristotle pamwe nekuvandudzirwa kwechigadziro che Character Strengths uye Virtues. Kwemakore gumi apfuura, vanapfungwa dzepfungwa Christopher Peterson naMartin Seligman vakaongorora tsika dzevanhu vemitambo mumarudzi evanhu uye vakaona mavhesi makumi maviri namasere emasikirwo ese kana masimba.
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Nhengo huru yekutsvakurudza ikozvino inotsigira kuti kukura nekushandisa simba rehutano kunoita kuti kuwedzere mufaro.
Tinoisa sei uchenjeri hwekare hwekuda kushanda kwatiri? Hezvino 4 yezvakanaka Aristotle akakurudzira vadzidzi vake kuti vakure mavari.
Kushivirira
Zviri pachena kuti kutsamwa kwemigwagwa kwaiwanzoonekwa muGreece yekare. Chido chekugadzirisa nguva pfupi - kunyanya mukutsanya kwedu, nyika inotenderera mberi-inogona kutsamwisa nyore nyore kutsamwa. Kuedza kushivirira zvinoreva kudzora hasha dzedu maererano nemamiriro ezvinhu. Kana iwe uchizvibata iwe uchibata tsoka yako uye uchitarisa nguva yako yakamirira mumutsara pabhangi, tanga uongorora kana kwete iwe kutsamwa kwako kuri kubatsira mamiriro acho ezvinhu. Kana zvisina kudaro, zvingava zviri nani kuti uende. Uye kana kusashivirira kwako kwakananga kune mumwe munhu, shanda kukudziridza tsitsi uye uzviise muzvishongo zvavo. Kana mumwe munhu achikuchera mumugwagwa, funga kuti chii chingave chiri kuitika kwavari uye chinangwa chavo.
Ushingi
Maererano naAristotle, kushivirira kukuru, zvisinei, kunogona kukuita iwe kuva pushover. Kuva noushingi, zvikurukuru mukutarisana nekusaruramisira, kwakanaka. Zvakakosha kunzwisisa kuti ushingi hahusi kushayikwa kwekutya, asi pane kukodzera kwakakwana kwekutya uye kuvimba. Iwe unowanzova nechivimbo chakanyanyisa here kana kunyanya kutya? Kana iwe uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchinge uchitya, tora mikana yekuita zvisinei nekutya kwako nekuita hurukuro yakaoma kana kuzvipinganisa kuti uite hongu kana wakokwa kune chimwe chinhu chinokutyisidzira
Kana iwe ukawana iwe uri kunyanya kurudzirwa, tarisa pamusoro pekutya iwe uri kunzwa (zvichida uchibvuma kuti basa idzva rauri kutora rinoreva zvakawanda kwauri uye iwe haugoni kutakura kuona kuti rakakundikana) uye kuvabvuma iyo inopa simba kana iwe uchifambira mberi.
Temperance
Yeuka kuti chikamu chechipiri chechipiri chawakanga uchichiitira usiku huno? Wakanyatsoda izvozvo here? Kunyengedzera kuri pamusoro pekuenzanisa kana zvichiuya kune kuzvidzora. Nenzira dzose, isu tinofanira kuva nechikamu che pie uye tichichidya. Asi zvizhinji zvechinhu chipi nechipi chakanaka chichagadzirisa mufaro, kunyanya seine mhosva uye kuzvidzora kunouisa. Dzidzira kuzvidzora kwakakodzera nenzira mbiri.
Imwe, kana ukasarudza kufara uye kufara mune chimwe chinhu, zvibvumira kuva wakakwana uye ufare nazvo. Zvitatu, sarudza zviyero zvakakodzera iwe pachako uye unamatire kwavari. Iva nepurogiramu mberi kwenguva uye uzive kuti iwe uchawedzera mufaro wako zvakanyanya nekunamatira kumuganhu wako kupfuura nekuchivhuna uye kuzvipira.
Ushamwari
Mukuona kwenyika yaAristotle, ushamwari hwakanga huri humwe hwakanakisisa hwakanaka. Akabvuma kuti ushamwari huzhinji huripo nokuda kwezvikonzero zvingashandisika, sekushamwari iwe unotaurira kune waunoshanda naye. Asi hukama hwechokwadi ndehwekubatana pakati pevanhu vaviri vanoyemirana uye vanokurudzirana kuti vasvike pakugona kwavo. Ushamwari hwakadaro hushoma. Aya haasi mazana ehukama hwaunayo pane Facebook kana LinkedIn. Ava ndivo vanhu vamunodana pakati peusiku apo iwe unoda mumwe munhu kuti avepo kwauri. Kuisa mari uye kugadzirisa ukama uhwu inheyo yekutsigira mufaro wedu. Ziva kuti ndiani ava vanhu muhupenyu hwako uye uvazivise kuti unozvifarira zvakadini. Kukurukurirana ihwohwo mufaro unokunda-kukunda.