Mufaro: Unobata Utano Hwako Munzira Dzakawanda
Mufaro uye hutano hwakange hwakanyatsobatanidzwa kwenguva yakareba ikozvino- "kuseka ndiyo mushonga wakanaka kwazvo" yave yakangoita 'nokuda kwechikonzero-asi kutsvakurudza kunotsigira izvo vanhu vakawanda vakagara vachinyanya kufunga: mufaro iwoyo uye utano hwakanyatsobatanidzwa, uye iyo yehutano hwemufaro zvechokwadi inogona kukanganisa hutano hwehutano hwako.
Iyi inzvimbo itsva yepfungwa dzakanaka iri kutsvaga zvinhu zvinoita kuti munhu ashushikane mupfungwa , mufaro, uye hutano, pakati pezvimwe zvehupenyu-kusimbisa nyaya, uye izvo zvatinoziva zvino pamusoro pemisoro idzi zvinogona kutibatsira isu tose tirarame hupenyu hwakanaka, hune chinangwa- uye kuderedza kushushikana panguva imwe chete.
"Zviitiko zvinokurudzira mafungiro akanaka zvinokonzera mafungiro akaipa kuti aparadze nokukurumidza. Izvo simba uye kunaka ... zvinoshandiswa kurambidza zvinetso uye zvinopesana nezvinetso zvepfungwa, uye zvinogona kuva chinhu chinokosha pakuvaka kusimba. Vaya vanonyanya kurapwa havaiti kungoporesa kukanganisa; vanobatsira vanhu kuziva nekuvaka simba ravo uye kunaka kwavo, "akanyora kudaro Martin Seligman, aimbova purezidhendi weAmerica Psychological Association uye baba vemunda wepfungwa dzakanaka, mubhuku rake rinonzi Authentic Happiness. Uye tsvakurudzo yakasimba inopfuurira kusvika pakupedzisira, nekutsigira iyi maonero. Heano zvimwe zvidzidzo zvinokosha zvehupenyu uye hutano.
Mufaro uye Murefu
Chidzidzo chakakosha chinosanganisira madhimoni chakakwanisa kupa hutano hwehutano hunouya nemafungiro akanaka. (Nun zvidzidzo zvinoshanda zvakanaka nokuti zvimwe zvakawanda zvinoshandiswa pakuchinja mararamiro zvakafanana, saka kupesana kunorondedzerwa kazhinji kunogona kuderedzwa kune zvishoma zviduku, semunhu uye maonero.) Mukudzidza upenyu uye kufa kwevafundisi, zvakagadziriswa maitiro avo , vatsvakurudzi vakakwanisa kuwanikwa zvakakosha pamusoro pemufaro uye utano-mafungiro akanaka anokonzerwa nekugara kwenguva refu!
Mazana makumi mapfumbamwe ematatu evanhu vaifara zvikuru kubva kune vanamwari vakanga vari vapenyu pazera remakore makumi masere nemashanu, asi 34% chete yechina yaive yakafara yakagara muzera iroro. Saizvozvowo, makumi mashanu kubva kune makumi mashanu kubva kune makumi mana akafara kwazvo aive achiri mupenyu pazera makumi mapfumbamwe nemana, zvichienderana ne11% yekusanyanya kufara.
Mufaro uye Muchato
Sezvo izvo zvisina kukwana, mafungiro akanaka anobatanidzwawo nekutsvakurudza kuti kugutsikana mumhuri.
Mune imwe dzidziso inoshamisa, vatsvakurudzi vakakwanisa kuongorora kufara kwekunyemwerera mumifananidzo yegore revakadzi uye vachifanotaura kuti zvii, pamwero wepamusoro, zvingave zvingave zvakaroorana, kuramba uchiroorana uye uchinzwa hukama hwakanaka hwemunhu pamakore makumi matatu anotevera. (Hint: yaive, zvakare, iyo boka rinofara kwazvo.) Chii chinoshamisa pamusoro peizvi ndechekuti hukama hwakanaka hwakabatanidzwa nehutachiona hwakasimba uye, naizvozvo, hutano huzhinji uye naizvozvo 'kukura kumusoro' inopfuurira. Iyi inzira yakanaka iyo vakaroorana vanogona kuchengetana.
Mufaro uye Kutarisira
Vatsvakurudzi vakawanawo tariro kuti vave nemakore akawanda. Kufungidzira kwakasiyana nemafungiro akanaka, kunyange zvazvo maviri acho akabatanidzwa. Pane kungofara chete, zvisinei, vane tariro vanowanzoona nyika nenzira yakasiyana: kana zviitiko zvakanaka zvikaitika muupenyu hwavo, vanozvipa ivo chikwereti chavo, vanofunga kuti chinokonzerwa nehupenyu husingaperi pasi pekutonga kwavo, uye kuona chimwe chiitiko chakanaka se chiratidzo chokuti zvimwe zviitiko zvakanaka zvichauya. Iyi lense yakananga iyo yavanoona nyika ichivabvumira kuchengetedza huzhinji hwemukati yekudzora (pfungwa yekuzvidzora pane zvinhu), pamwe nekuguma kwehutano hunosimudzira hutano uye hunobatanidza nemitemo yakawanda, kusanganisira nguva refu: imwe yekudzidza vakawana kuti tariro yaiva ne19% yehupenyu hwomunhu oga wega.
Zviri pachena, mufaro uye hutano zvinogona kubatanidzwa nekutarisira.
Mufaro uye 'Kudzivirira Kwakakura'
Chimwe chinhu chakanyatsobatana nemafungiro akanaka uye tariro ndeyekusimba kwesimba inozivikanwa se'kuzvidzivirira kwakasimba '. Izvi zvinhu, zvisingaratidzikwe nemunhu wese, uye zvinopesana pamusoro pehupenyu hwose, kusanganisira altruism , kukwanisa kunonoka kugutsikana, remangwana-pfungwa, uye kuseka . Maererano nekudzidza kweHarvard kwakatevera boka revarume kuburikidza nehupenyu hwavo, kudzivirirwa kwakakura kwakabatana nekufara mukurarama, mari yakawanda uye kukwegura kwakasimba mumarume kubva mumamiriro akasiyana-siyana.
Mufaro uye Utano
Mufaro muongorori Robert Holden akaita sarudzo uye akawana kuti 65 kubva pa100 vanhu vangasarudza kufara pamusoro pehutano, asi izvozvo zvose zvakakosha zvikuru.
Nenzira yakanaka, hatifaniri kusarudza: mufaro uye hutano zvinopindirana. Sezvo Holden akati, "[T] pano haisi utano hwechokwadi pasina mufaro".
Pane humwe humwe uchapupu hwokuti kusagadzikana-kuora mwoyo, kuzvidya mwoyo, uye kushungurudzika , somuenzaniso-zvinobatanidzwawo kune hutano hwehurombo hwehurombo. Izvi zvisingaiti, kana zvisingagoneki , zvinogona kuderedza hutachiona uye kuwedzera kukurumidza mumuviri unoita kuhuwandu hwezvirwere nemamiriro . Nheyo dzehutano hwakanaka hunogona kurwisana nenyaya idzi dzakaipa, zvichiwedzera kuwedzerwa kwehutano hwehutano.
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Holden, R. Ita kufara: kusunungura simba remufaro mauri. Hay House Publications , 2009.
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