Mazano ekuvandudza ukama hwako hwehukama
Kuita shamwari nekuchengetedza ushamwari kunogona kuva hondo kuvanhu vakuru vane ADHD . Cynthia Hammer, MSW uye mudzidzisi weAdHD, anopa ruzivo rwehukama hwehukama neAdHD .
Chikonzero Nei Zvakaoma Kuita Shamwari Kana Uine ADHD
Munguva pfupi yapfuura, musoro wehurukuro pane imwe nhepfenyuro yezvenhau yakaronga nzira shanu dzakanakisisa dzekufara muupenyu . Chinhu chokutanga chakanyorwa ndechekufungisisa zvakanyanya zvinodikanwa neshamwari.
Kana uine ADHD, iwe unotoziva kare kuti iwe unogara uchinyora mapoka maduku munzvimbo ino. Tinobatwa mukati medu mararamiro edu, tichipomerwa nekuedza kuedza zvose zviri kuitika, kuitira kuti tinowanzokundikana kufunga pamusoro pevamwe uye zvatingavaitira, "anodaro Hammer.
Unhu hwehukama neAdHD
Heano zvimwe zvikonzero izvo Hammer anoti ADHD inogona kukonzera dambudziko kuchengeta shamwari:
Kunzwa kuora mwoyo. Apo patinotambudzika, kunyange kufunga nezvekuita chimwe chinhu chimwe chinhu chinhu chimwe chakawanda. Kana iyi "chinhu chimwe chete" kune mumwe munhu, haigone kuitisa muRadar skrini yedu.
Kufunga kuti hazvikoshi. Tinozviudza isu zvinhu zvakadai, "Hazvisi izvo zvinokosha," "Havazocherechedzi kuti handitumi chinyorwa chinyorwa ... kutumira kadhi rekuzvarwa ... vadana navo kuti muvakurudze ivo kubudirira kwezvino. .whatever. " Mukana wokuratidza shamwari kuti tinova nehanya navo uye kuti ivo vakakosha kwatiri unouya ... uye unoenda .... uye tatozviita zvakare, kana kuti kwete HERE takaita zvakare. Shamwari dzisinganzwi kuti dzinobvumwa uye dzinokosheswa nguva dzose dzinogona kuwira munzira iyo dzichizvibvunza, "Chii chiripo muhukama uhwu kwandiri?"
Kuita zvinotyisa. Mumwe munhu achangobva kundiudza akandiudza kuti anofarira kuva neshamwari asi kazhinji anowanzovavhiringidza navo, achifunga kudiwa kwekuputsa. Anozviona zvakaoma kuva nekugara nguva dzose mukufambidzana neshamwari yavo, kugara vachivapa hanya, nekuvapa zvakanaka.
Kusarudza kufarira vanhu. Izvo zvinodiwa, pane dzimwe nguva, inobvumira chimwe chinhu kuti chiitwe mberi pane zvaanoshandisa nguva yake. Anosarudza kudzidza kushandisa kakombiyuta yake itsva, sezvo izvi zvinomuda kupfuura kungoenda kune rimwe firimu neshamwari yake.
Mamiriro asina kunaka. Maitiro asina kukanganisa, mafungiro, akadai sekuita seunoda kuva nemumwe zuva asi asi asingadi kuvaona zvakare kwemwedzi inoverengeka haisi iyo nzira yekubata ushamwari . Munhu ari pamagumo ekugamuchirwa kweuyu ushamwari anganzwa achigadziriswa uye anofunga kuti unongoonana naye kana iwe usina chakanaka chekuita.
Zvakaipa kukuyeuka. Rimwe dambudziko kune vakawanda vane ADHD nderokurangarira kusakanganiswa. Ndeapi mazita evana venyu vatatu vepamwoyo? Ndiani anokwana kuva nemwana? Kutaurirwa idzi marudzi ehupenyu uye kwete kureva kwavari mune zvekukurukurirana mune ramangwana zvinokonzera chigumbuso chikuru pakuumba hukama hwemazuva mazhinji. Vanhu vanoda kunzwa kuti vanokosha, kuti mabasa avo uye kubudirira uye kukundikana zvakagoverwa uye vanokoshesa neshamwari dzavo. Shamwari dzinogara dzichiti, "Handifungi kuti" kana kuti "Ndakakanganwa iwe wandiudza kuti" kupa pfungwa yokuti havana hanya nazvo kuti vayeuke.
Kudzivisa nyaya dzinokosha kune shamwari dzako. Kana iwe ukadzivisa dzimwe nyaya nokuti haurangariri mashoko makuru, uchawana zvakaoma kuvaka ukama hurefu. Paunenge usingakwanisi kugovera zviyeuchidzo uye tsanangudzo yenguva yako pamwe chete, iwe unopa pfungwa yokuti haufariri zvechokwadi shamwari dzako uye hauna kukoshesa ushamwari hwavo.
Nzira dzekuvandudza hukama hwehukama
Maererano naHammer, izvi zviito zvaunogona kutora kuti uwedzere ushamwari hwako:
- Ngwarira. Nhanho yekutanga yekuvandudza kushamwaridzana kwevanhu ndeyekuziva izvo zvauri kuita zvinokuvadza. Zvitarise iwe pachako. Uri kunyatsoteerera here kana iwe uri kumirira kusvikira iwe uchigona kuisa mumatare ako maviri anokosha? Kana zvakadaro, itai kuzvipira, kuti mumwedzi unotevera, iwe uchatarisa zvakakwana pakuva munyatsoteereri-iwe uchanonoka pane izvi. Kana iwe uchitaura chinhu zvachose, zvinongova kungobvunza mubvunzo wakajeka, pfupi kuti ujekese kana kuwedzera izvo mukurukuri ari kutaura.
- Dzokorora zvakare. Kana iwe uchiteerera mumwe munhu mumwe chete, kazhinji kamukumbira kana iwe ukakwanisa kudzokorora zvakare zvawakanzwa iye achitaura, uye zvino ingozviita, zvishoma uye pfupi. Usawedzera chero chinhu. Mumupe mukana wokukutaurira kana iwe wakanyatsonzwisisa zvaakataura ndokubva warega achienderera mberi paunodzokera kunzvimbo yako somuteereri akanaka. Dzidzira, ita, ita maitiro aya.
- Usapindira. Uri kukanganisa vamwe here? Zvakare, kuziva ndicho chinhu chinokosha. Iva nehanya newe pachako pakubatana kwako. Kana iwe uchivhiringidza, tora matanho ekumisa. Paunonzwa kunzwa kuchiuya, tora mvura, nyora, tora kufema kwakanyanya uye uibate kwechipiri, kana kufunga, "zorora." Usapindira, uye kana iwe ukadaro, pakarepo unozviona, kukumbira ruregerero nekuputsa, uye kukurudzira mutauri kuti aende mberi.
- Bata pane zvinyorwa zviripo. Kana uine chido chekuchinja nyaya yacho uye uchienda pane imwe nguva isinganzwisisiki, ziva uye uzvidzire. Vanhu havazvikoshese uye havazokuoni nemutsa.
- Sarudza kuti unokoshesa sei ushamwari hwako. Nokuda kwematambudziko makuru - kwete kubhadhara zvakakwana nekuchengetedza kushamwaridzana neshamwari dzako - fungisisa kuti unoda kuvandudza hukama hwako hwakadii. Iwe unokoshesa sei kuva neshamwari dzakanaka uye iwe unoda kuitei kuti uwane uye uzvichengete? Ushamwari hwakanaka hahungoiti. Vanotora kuchengeta uye kutarisira. Iwe unoda here kuita izvo zvinodiwa? Iwe uchaita ushamwari hwakanaka uye hukama hunokosha here? Paunenge uine sarudzo pakati pekudzidza nezvekombiyuta yako itsva uye kuenda kune rimwe firimu neshamwari, iwe uchaisa kukosha kwekuenda kune firimu nekuda kwekubhadhara kwenguva refu? Sarudzo ndeyako.
- Isa zvidimbu munzvimbo kuti uwane hukama hwako. Paunenge uchitaura neshamwari, ita zvirongwa zvako panguva inotevera apo iwe uchasangana pamwe chete, ita chibvumirano chakasimba, uye ugozviwana pamakendendari yako. Dzidza kushandisa kombiyuta-based program iyo ichakuyeuchidzai mazuva anokosha akadai sekuberekwa, zviyeuchidzo, nezvimwe. Tsvaga ruzivo rwemumwe nomumwe wevadzidzi vako rwakanyorwa. Tenga makadhi akabatanidzwa uye matampu kuti uve nechokuita kuitira kuti ugone kuyeuka zuva rekuberekwa nemhemberero. Paunenge uchitenga, tora zvinhu zvakanaka zvaungashandisa sezvipo zvisingafungirwi zvevamwe shamwari dzako. Tenga matikiti kune rimwe basa uye uvakumbire kuti vaende newe.
- Ita shamwari dzako kuziva kuti dzinorevei kwauri. Chinangwa chekutaurira kuti unokoshesa sei ushamwari hwavo, kuti unofarira zvakadini nguva yaunopedza pamwe chete, kuti unotarisira zvakadini zvimwe zviitiko zvauchazoenda pamwe chete munguva yemberi. Usarega nguva yakawandisa ichienda kunze usingabatanidzi nevaya vane ushamwari hwaunokoshesa.
Kutarisana Nekusakanganwa Kwepfungwa
Zvinosuruvarisa, kusakanganwa zvakanaka hakusi kuenda, anodaro Hammer. Heano maitiro ake ekuderedza kushanda:
- Ita zvinyorwa pane shamwari dzako - zvavanofarira uye zvavasingadi, zvido zvavo, hukama hwavo hunokosha nemabasa - uye vadzorere ivo vasati vaungana.
- Bhalisa kune rimwe basa rinozotumira makadhi ekuzvarwa, nezvimwewo kwauri. Iwe unogona kuzvigadzirira kwegore rose panguva imwechete.
- Apo iwe unodzidza mazita evakidzani vatsva, nyora pasi uye uongorore navo nguva nenguva.
- Gadzirira usati wasangana nemunhu wausina kumboona kwenguva pfupi. Bvunza pamusoro pezvaunoziva zvakakosha kune avo uye zviri kuitika muupenyu hwavo. Ratidza kuti unorangarira zvinhu zvinokosha zvezvinhu zvavakakuudza.
Yeuka, Une Zuva Kupa
Vanhu vane ADHD vane zvizhinji zvekuita kuti hukama huvepo - kushingaira kwako, unyanzvi hwako, simba rako, kuseka kwako. Usarega chiedza chako chichivanza pasi pebasa kana vamwe vasingazvipi mukana wekuziva iwe zviri nani. Nokudzidza nekuita nzira dzakajeka dzekushandirana kwehutano hwakanaka, iwe uchava munzira yako kuenda kune hukama hwakanaka hwehukama hwakanaka uye kugara wakagadzirira ushamwari hune chinangwa.
> Kwakabva:
> Cynthia Hammer, MSW. Kubvunzurudzwa kwevanhu pachavo / tsamba. March 25, 2008.