Munyori Bryan Hutchinson anopa nyaya yake yekukura neAdHD
ADD / ADHD inogona kuva nehutano hwakasimba pahukama hwevezera, kunyange kuva munhu mukuru. Dzimwe nguva zvinogona kunge zvakakosha zvikuru zvokuti munhu anonzwa ane pfungwa huru yekuzviparadzanisa. Kana uchinzwa uchinzwa uri woga kana kuti uri woga, zvinogona kuva zvakaoma zvikuru kuungana nevamwe.
Bryan Hutchinson, munyori weMumwe Boy's Struggle: A Memoir - Kurarama Upenyu Nevasingazivikanwi ADD , anogovera zvaanoona uye anopa mazano anobatsira.
Ndezvipi Zvinogadzirisa Kuwedzera Kushandana Nevamwe?
Bryan Hutchinson: Vanhu vane ADHD vanofarira kuzvichengeta ivo pachavo, tine nguva yakaoma kunzwisisa avo varipoteredza uye tinosuwa vazhinji vanogara vachitaurirana. Isu tinowanzovhiringidzika pamusoro pezvinorehwa nevanhu chaizvo, kunyanya pazera remakore. Kuchengetedza ukama huri hwakaoma uye kunoda kuwanda kwekushanda kwatinoita; tinokanganwa nezvevamwe shamwari uye dzimwe nguva tisingabatanidzi kwenguva yakareba, izvo zvinovhiringidza vamwe uye izvi zvinopa pfungwa dzatisingafungi nezvevamwe. Pfungwa yokuti hatina hanya ndeyekufungidzira kwenhema; isu tinova nehanya, asi isu hatisi kuchengetedza ukama nenzira imwechete seye vasina ADHD. Tinowirirana pamwe chete neavo vasina kutonga uye havadi kutarisana nguva dzose.
Ndezvipi Zvawakazviitira Iwe Somwana uye Iye zvino Sevakuru?
Hutchinson: Semwana, ndainzwa kuti ndakanga ndakasiyana uye ndainzwa kunze kwenyika yose.
Somwana, ndakanga ndisingazivi kuti nei ndisingakwanisi kufambidzana nevamwe . Ndaizovhiringidzika uye ndarasikirwa panguva yekukurukurirana. Vamwe vana vaitenda kuti ndaiva ndoga kana mupanduki nokuti handina kushamwaridzana navo. Pandinenge ndava nehana uye dzimwe dzomusango dzakaswededzwa kwandiri uye taizotora zvakawanda, kunyanya kuchikoro, asi izvi zvaizoita kuti ndive mumatambudziko nemigumisiro yakakomba, uye iyi yaiva imwe chikonzero chekutora mukati mangu uye kuramba ndiri ndoga .
Handikwanise kufambidzana uye pandakazoita, ndakapinda mumatambudziko.
Vakawanda vane ADHD vanoberekwa vatungamiri. Vane simba uye vane pfungwa huru. Unyanzvi hwavo hwemagariro hahukwanisi, asi nekuda kwekutya kwavo uye kukwanisa kunzwisisa zvinhu nokukurumidza pasina kunetseka nemashoko akawanda-izvi zvinovapa unhu hwehutungamiri. Zvinosuruvarisa, hutsika huno hutungamiri dzimwe nguva hunogona kuparadzaniswa nevadzidzisi nevabereki nokuti hunovhiringidza. Ndinofunga kuti iko kukanganisa kwakajairika kwevabereki nevadzidzisi kusaziva kuti mwana anogona kunge ari mutungamiri uye anoenderera mberi kuita zvinhu zvikuru nokuti pamucheche achiri muduku ndiko kushungurudzika uye kunoratidzika sechinyararire pane dzimwe nguva. Vana vanogona kunge vari kukura kuti vave vatungamiri vakakura pane kukura nekuramba uye kushushikana zvido.
Sezvo ndakwegura, kushamwaridzana kwevanhu pamwe chete nematambudziko kwakanditevera uye kuchiri nemigumisiro. Ndatova nani pakuchengetedza hukama kuburikidza nekuziva kuti nei ndine matambudziko uye ndakadzidza kuwedzera kuziva kwangu nezvevamwe zvinetso uye zvido. ADDers vanogona kuratidzika sevanozvibatanidza nezvinhu zvakasiyana-siyana uye pfungwa dzomukati; saka zvakakosha kuti chinangwa chive chido chezvimwe zvevanhu. Somuenzaniso, muhukama nevakadzi, ndaisakundikana kubvunza mibvunzo pamusoro pehupenyu hwavo nemhuri.
Izvi zvakaita kuti zviratike sekuti ndakanga ndisingafariri zvikuru kuti ivo vaiva ani. Ndakadzidza nechinangwa kuwedzera kufarira kwangu kune vamwe - vanhu vakawanda vasina ADHD vane chido ichi chevamwe vari muchizvarwa, asi isu neAdHD tinofanira kuisa pfungwa dzedu kuburikidza nekuziva kusiyana kwedu uye tichizviitira nekuda kwechinangwa chokuva nani - kufambidzana nevamwe.
Wakavandudza Sei Ukama?
Hutchinson: Kutanga, ndaifanira kunzwisisa kuti ndaiva nechinetso chokukurukurirana. Ndaida rubatsiro uye kurapwa kwaiva mhinduro yeminyengetero yangu. Zvisinei, ndisati ndarapwa, ndaiva nerombo mukuwana kufarira kwevatungamiri vakandibatsira kuona pandinofanira kuvandudza.
Dai ndakanga ndisati ndava mudzimba wekudzimba ndinofunga kuti hutano hwangu hwekugarisa huchave hwakatora kwenguva yakareba, nokuti mune zvemitambo munhu anofanira kuita - kunyange mumutambo wakadaro sehova. Padziwo inodawo kuwanda kwepfungwa uye izvi zvakandibatsira kudzidza pane zvandinofanira kuvandudza uye zvakare ndakasimbisa matambudziko angu kuisa pfungwa.
Ndeapi mazano anofunga kuti aizobatsira vana kuchikoro?
Hutchinson: Wokutanga uye mukuru vabereki nevadzidzisi vanofanira kunzwisisa kuti vana vane ADHD vakasiyana uye ndezvipi zvipingamupinyi uye chirango zvinowanikwa pavari zvichavabata upenyu hwavo hwose. Tingave tisingaratidzi saiyo, asi isu tinonyanya kutarisa uye tinotora zvinhu pamwoyo nokukurumidza uye tinoyeuka zvinhu zvinokonzera marwadzo zvakanaka, nokuti kurwadziwa uye kutambura zvinokurudzira asi nenzira isina kunaka. Vose vana vanoda chimwe chekurairirwa, asi kune vabereki vane ADHD vana, vanofanirwa kunge vakagadzira uye vanoshandisa mubairo wezvirongwa zvinotsigira maitiro akanaka uye zvisarudzo.
Ndinokurudzira vabereki kuti vatore vana vavo vanobatanidzwa mumitambo kuti vavake ruzivo rwemagariro evanhu. Hazvirevi kuti mitambo yemitambo, asi pane mitambo kana mabasa anoda kuwedzera simba rekufunga. Vana vane ADHD vane zvipo zvekufunga kwechimbichimbi uye izvi zvinogona kuvabatsira kuti vavheneke muhutano hwehutungamiri uye kana vachifarira basa rakakwana vachawana nzira dzekufambidzana zviri nani, pane kurasikirwa nebasa uye ushamwari huripo. Kunyange zvakadaro, kubva pane zvandaive ndichiri muduku, zvakakosha kuti mwana adzidze kubatana nazvo - Ndaigara ndichiedza chaizvo kana ndakataurirwa kune zvinhu zvitsva uye ndaizoedza kurega ndisati ndatanga kutya kurambwa, kukundikana, uye kurangwa.
Ndeapi mazano anobatsira vanhu vakuru?
Hutchinson: Kuti uite zvinangwa, bvunza mibvunzo uye iva nehanya kune vamwe. Vezera rehukama, ndinotenda, ndezvechikonzero chevakuru kuti vashandise zvinhu zvisiri izvo . Kunyanya kunwa kunogona kubatsira kugadzirisa mupfungwa nekuzorora mitsipa, zvichibvumira munhu mukuru neAdHD kuti awedzere kufarira uye naizvozvo hukama, asi izvi hazvina kunaka zvikonzero zvakajeka. Vakuru vane ADHD vanofanira kudzidza kudzimira kuranga ivo voziva kuti kusiyana hakusi kwakaipa, kunongopa zvimwe zvinetso zvingakunda kuburikidza nekudzidza unyanzvi hwekubata.
Kunobva:
Bryan Hutchinson. Kubvunzurudzwa kwevanhu pachavo / tsamba. 17, March 08.
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