1 - Kuwana Kuenzanisa - Kunokosha Kwevakadzi (uye Varume!)
Sezvo iwe uchitarisa kuti unopedza sei mari yako, zvakakosha kuyeuka kuti kubhadharira kunokosha kana ukasarudza kushandisa nguva yako zvakare. Izvi zvingaita sokuti hazvirevi, asi vazhinji vedu tine dambudziko rekuti 'kwete' apo mumwe munhu akatikumbira kuti tiite nguva yedu kune chikonzero chakanaka. Zvose izvi zvinokodzera kuzvipira zvinogona kuwedzera kushayikwa kwepfungwa uye kudzvinyirira zvakanyanya kwevakadzi. Zvinogona kunyanya kuoma kurega kwete kuzvipira zvinobatsira vamwe, izvo zvinotaura nechinangwa chedu, kana izvo zvingatiendesa kune dzimwe nzvimbo. Zvechokwadi, iyo inowanzova zvipupuriro zvatinofanira kutaura kuti hongu kune, asi zvizhinji zvezvipikirwa izvi zvinogona kukonzera kudarika kwekutambudzika. Iyi inotevera dzimwe nzira dzingashandiswa nevakadzi kuwana huyero, kupedza pasi purogiramu dzavo, uye kugadzirisa kushushikana kwezuva nezuva . (Cherechedzai: Nyaya iyi inowedzera zvakanyanya kuvakadzi nokuti vanowanzoita basa rakawanda, asi varume vanogona kuwana ichi chinobatsira zvakare.)
2 - De-Futanya Upenyu Hwako
Wakamboona iyo mishonga yekugadzira musha inoratidza here kuti inobvisa kunze kwei-clutter yose muimba, uye zvakare kugadzirisazve nzvimbo yacho kuburikidza nekudzoka chete izvo zvinhu zvinokosha kune mufaro weimba yeimba? Unogona kushandisa nzira imwe chete yekugadzirisa hupenyu hwako zvakare. Mupfungwa dzako, sarudza ma-clutter kubva purogiramu yako uye fungidzira ichi isina chinhu. Zvadaro dzokai chete zvinhu zvinokosha pakupona kwako - basa rako uye kurara, somuenzaniso. Zvadaro taurira zvimwe zvinhu zvakare muzvirongwa zvako muhutano hwavo hwekukosha, kuwedzera zvinhu zvitsva izvo zvinokosha zvakare (sekuita nguva yekuita muviri ), nekusiya zvinhu zviri kukunaya kana kukumanikidzira, sezvisungo zvaunoda kuti urege kuchengeta . Ichi chiito chinogona kukupa pfungwa huru yezvinhu zvipi muupenyu hwako zviri kukupa iwe, uye zvinhu zvipi zvaungada kubvisa. (Cherechedza: Zvimwe zvidimbu zvakakurumbira zve 'purogiramu yekunamata' zvinosanganisira zviratidzo zvemaTV, nguva inoshandiswa nevanhu vanokudonha, nguva inoshandiswa kuita mabasa anogona kuenzaniswa.)
3 - Yeuka Mafambisiro
Kazhinji apo patinenge taudzwa nezvikumbiro panguva yedu, tinofunga nezvekuti tinogona kukodzera basa iri idzva mumarongwa edu atove akazara, uye kana kwete. Izvi zvinowanzotungamirira kune imwe nguva purogiramu yakazara. Kana paine chisarudzo chokutaura hongu uye kwete, ndinoona zvichibatsira zvakanyanya kuyeuka kuti 'kwete' ose 'hongu' hongu kune 'chimwe chinhu, uye pamwe chete. Kana iwe uchiti hungu kumira panzvimbo yePTA, izvi zvinoreva nguva shomanana yekurovedza muviri , kufungisisa , nguva nevana vako, kana chimwe chinhu chakakoshawo. Zvichida zvakakosha, zvichida hazvisi, kana kuti zvichida iwe unoda kupedza chimwe chinhu pane purogiramu yako. Asi, kutarisa kune umwe neumwe kuzvipira kune chimwe chinhu chinoda kuregererwa (kunyangwe chimwe chinhu chingafungidzirwa) chinogona kuita kuti kuwanika kuve nyore nyore.
4 - Delegate Like Pro
Vatungamiri vakanaka vanoziva kukosha kwekugovera mutoro nekubatanidza vanhu vane mabasa avo vanogona kuita zvakanaka, kuwedzera kukurudzira, uye kurega kuenda. Vakadzi vazhinji, zvisinei, vanobatwa mukati mokuti 'Kana ndichida kuti zviitike zvakanaka, ndinofanira kuzviita ini' musungo ndozviwana kuita zvose . Usakanganwa kuti vamwe vanhu vari muhofisi vangakwanisa kubata (kana kubatsira ne) mamwe emapurogiramu mauri kuita, uye vangada chaizvo kuita saizvozvo. Vana vanogona kuva vakakwanisa zvikuru kuita mabasa epamba kupfuura iwe uri kupa chikwereti nekuda, uye vanogona kuwana manzwiro ekudada mukukwanisa kuita mabasa akadaro kana vakakurudzirwa zvakanaka. Kunyange varume vakawanda vanogona kushandiswa zvakajeka kupfuura zvavanowanzo. (Chimwe chidzidzo chakawana kuti mutsauko mukuru pakati pebaba vaibatanidzwa nechecheche uye avo vakanga vasiri ivo vaiva maonero aamai. Kukurudzira amai vakazviwana ivo vakaparadzana nevabereki vanobatsira!) Kunyora basa - varindi veimba, varimi, vanobatsira uye yakafanana-inofanirwa sekutumirwa, uye inogona kubatsira zvikuru uye inokodzera mari. Nguva inotevera iwe uchinzwa kuti uri kuita zvakawanda, tarisa uchitarisa uye ona kana iwe unogona kuwana rubatsiro.
5 - Ita Jobho Zvakakwana
Dzimwe nguva zvinhu zvinoda kuitwa nenzira yakarurama uye yakakwana, asi kakawanda, hazviiti. Kunyange zvazvo Marita Stewart maitiro angakurumidza kurondedzera kuti zvinhu zvakakosha ndezvipi paunenge uchienda kune imwe nzvimbo, uye sei kufungisisa kwemashoko kunokonzera musiyano wose, rudzi urwu rwekufunga runogonawo kutungamirira pakugadzirisa, kushungurudzika, uye kusava nekuenzanisa. Kana iwe ukazviwana watove wakabatikana zvakanyanya, iwe unogona kunyatsobatsirwa nekupa iwe kupumha. Tora zvishoma, kana mugumisiro wekupedzisira uchiri wakakwana. (Vashanyi vako vachagutsikana here kana iwe wakashandisa zvipfeko zvepanyama pasi, kana zvakakurumidza kuenda pamusoro payo ne Swiffer? Hazvingaiti here kutengesa-kutengwa makatekiti zvichiri kufara kune fesheni yehofisi kana kuti pikiniki yekirasi?) Rarama ne 80- 20 kutonga, kwaunoona iyo 20% yebasa rinobereka 80% yemigumisiro, uye inonyanya kukoshesa zvakakosha, kurega kuti zororo ripere kana zvichidikanwa. Yeuka, dzimwe nguva kutarisa kukwana hakuna kukosha sekutarisa kumhanyi, kunyanya apo uri kutsvaga kuenzanisa mune purogiramu yako.
6 - Urarame Mune Ikozvino, Asi Ramba Uchifunga Nezveramangwana
Iwe une hurongwa yenguva yemberi here? Mazhinji emabhizinesi ane chirongwa chegore rimwe chete, chirongwa chegore re5, uye urongwa hwemakore gumi, uye kuronga mabasa avo ezuva nezuva nezvinangwa pane imwe nzvimbo mupfungwa. Izvi zvinogona kubatsira kune vakadzi, zvakare. Handisi kureva kuti zvinhu zvose zvaunoita zvinoda kuva chikamu cherongwa hukuru hwemararamiro ehupenyu hwakanaka, asi rudzi urwu rwekufunga kukuru kunogona kubatsira kuchengetedza maonero uye maonero. Semuenzaniso, pakusarudza kana uchitevedza muviri kana kutarisa terevhizheni, kufunga nezvekugara kwenguva refu kunobatsira kunobva kune imwe neimwe kunoita kuti zvive nyore kutamba kuratidza kunakidza kwekuratidza mukuda kufamba. Zvinhu zvose izvi zvinogona kuderedza kushungurudzika, asi imwe inobatsira chirongwa chehutano hwehutano hwakanaka, asi imwe haiti. Ona kuti unogona kushandisa sei chirevo ichi pane zvaunosarudza uye uwane huwandu huzhinji muupenyu hwako.
7 - Ramba Wakarongeka
Kuve wakarongeka kunokosha pakuwana muganhu muupenyu. Kana iwe uine purogiramu iyo zvinhu zvose zvinoenderana, iwe uchange uine hutano nenguva yako. Uye iwe uchakwanisa kusununguka kwete chete muzivo kuti iwe uchawana zvinhu asiwo mune izvo zvauri kushanda pane imwe nguva iyo iwe unofanirwa kunge uchishanda. Usakanganwa kukosha kwekutsvaga nguva yekushandisa nguva yekushandisa muIndaneti, PDAs, uye dzimwe nguva nguva yekushandisa. Asi zvakare gara uchifunga kuti chirongwa chakanaka uye bhajeti rakajeka yenguva yako inokosha mukuchengetedza hutano muhupenyu hwako.
8 - Bvunza Mwana Wako Womukati
Yeuka pawakanga uri mwana, uye iwe waifunga kuti upenyu hwako huchange hwakaita sei pawakakura? Zvichida wakazvifungidzira iwe uchiita zvinhu zvinonakidza, kwete zvimwe zve minutia iwe unogona kunge wakagadzirirwa pasi iye zvino. Kunyangwe zvisinganzwisisiki kungoita zvinhu zvinofadza (dzimwe nguva tinoda kutora kubva pakudenga uye kuenda pamapato kuti tiite zvinhu zvishomanana zvezvokudya nemabiko emabiko ezuva rinotevera), zvinogona kubatsira kukuyeuka edza kuchengeta zvinhu zvinonakidza muhupenyu hwako nezvinhu zvinotambudza kubva mazviri.
> Kwakabva:
Schoppe-Sullivan, et al. Gedhi reMamernal-Kuchengetedza, Co-Parenting Quality uye Kubata Maitiro Mumhuri Nevana. Nyaya yeMhuri Psychology , June 2008.