Mitemo 12 Yezvinwiwa Zvinodhaka Anonymous uye Al-Anon
Paunenge uchitaura nevanhau, tsika dzezvikamu gumi nezviviri zvinokumbira kuti nhengo dzirambe dzichinyatsozivikanwa , kwete kunyanya kudzivirira kwavo, asi dzakanaka zvekuyanana seyakazara.
Mutsika 11 weAlcoholic Anonymous (AA) inoti, "Sangano rehukama hwedu hwevanhu hunoenderana nekukwezva panzvimbo yekusimudzirwa; tinoda nguva dzose kuchengetedza kusazikanwa pahuwandu hwemashoko, redhiyo, uye mafirimu." Al-Anon inosanganisira kuwedzera, "Tinofanira kuchengetedza nekunyatsotarisirwa kutadza kuzivikanwa kwese nhengo dzeAA."
Kwete kushandisa Mazita Akakwana kana Kutumidza Mazita
Pavanenge vachikurukura nezvekudzikinura kwavo nevanoshambadzira, nhengo dzinozivikanwa nemazita avo akazara-akadai kune avo vakatozivikanwa mune zvenhau-havafaniriwo kuzivisa zita rezita ravo rechipiri chekudzorera. Kana nhengo dzinoda kutaura nezvekubatsira kwehutungamiri mune rimwe boka rechitanhatu-rakafanana, seAl-Anon kana Alcoholics Anonymous, ivo havafaniri kuziva ivo kunze kwezita rekutanga chete.
Somuenzaniso, kana John Doe anoshandisa zita rake rakazara mubvunzurudzo, haafaniri kutumidza boka rake rekudzorera. Anogona kungoti iye ari mu "boka rekudzorera." Kana achida kukurukura Al-Anon kana AA nezita, iye anofanira kuzviratidza iyechete saJohn D.
Izvi zvisingazivikanwi ndezvakanaka zvekudyidzana panzvimbo yekudzivirira huzivi hwemuteveri. Muenzaniso wacho unopiwa nemutambo akakurumbira kana terevhizheni-muenzaniso wevechidiki-uyo anowana mukurarama uye anozivisa kunyika yose kuti AA akaponesa hupenyu hwake.
Chii chinoitika kana munhu uyo akadzokazve? Vana vaifunga kuti AA haina maturo uye haashoma kuitsvaga kana vachida kutsvaga.
Asi Tsika 11 yakagadziridzwawo nevatangi vezvirongwa gumi nezviviri kuitira kuti vadzivise zvimwe zvinogona kukuvadza mamiriro ezvinhu.
Kukurudzira Isingadiwi
Nhengo yeAA Alethea inotaura kuti kukurudzira kunobvumira kunze kuti vashandure shoko, zvakanyanya kuitira kuti vanogara vari kunzwa zvino rumwe ruzivo.
Mharidzo yekutanga yekuti "tinova nani" yava "zvinhu zviri nani." Kunze kwezvikwata zvinotaura kuti hazvibatsiri chirongwa chipi chegumi-diki chamunoenda kune avo vose. Asi rubatsiro rwechirwere chemishonga inogona kuwana pamusangano weAA kubva kune vakadhakwa hazvina kufanana neanozowana pane imwe nhoroondo yeNarcotics Anonymous nevamwe vanodhakwa.
Chiitiko, kwete Kukurudzira
Chinangwa chemapoka gumi nematanhatu ndechokuti nhengo imwechete ibatsire mumwe uye kuva nemhosva yekukwezva purogiramu. Nhengo haibvumiri mutoro uyu kune mutauri kana mushandirapamwe wokusimudzira.
Althea anoti, "Nokuchinja chitarisiko chedu, kutaurirana kwatinoita, kupfeka, uye kuzvibata isu uye kubva mumakamuri eAA-icho chikamu chekutakura shoko, zvakare, kuti vanhu vaone kusiyana kwekugadzirwa kwehupenyu hwatakapiwa yakashanda muhupenyu hwedu.Vanhu pavanoona kuchinja kwehupenyu hwedu-mupfungwa, mupfungwa, mumuviri, uye mune zvemweya-vanokweverwa.Havanoda kukurudzirwa Iyi ndiyo purogiramu yevanhu vanoifarira. Ngatisarege vamwe vachititaurira izvo zvavanofunga kuti tiri pamusoro pedu, ngationei takagadzirira apo dambudziko rekudhakwa rakagadzirira kuzarura musuo nekuratidza izvo zvatiri. "
Kudzivirira Kuzivikanwa kweAA Members
Al-Anon nhengo Lin inotaura kuti kusazivikanwa ndiko kunoita kuti vanhu vanzwe vakasununguka kutaura zviri mumoyo yavo uye mupfungwa dzavo.
"Chokwadi chokuti chakavakirwa pakukwezva kwandiri chinoreva kuti vanhu vanogona kuona kuchinja kwekunze kwewe nekuda kwekuchinja kwemukati mauri." Anokoshesa chikamu chakawedzerwa kune Al-Anon tsika yekudzivirira kusingazivikanwi kwemutevedzeri weAA. "Kana iwe uchiziva kuti mumwe munhu anonwa nekuti hama yavo iri pamusangano iwe haufaniri kuudza. Ndicho chikonzero kusazivikanwa kunoshanda."