Vamwe Vane Kufunganya Kwemagariro Evanhu Vimbai Nekukurukurirana Kwechisimba Kuti Uzviratidze
Kukurukurirana nehasha kune nzira yekuratidza zvido uye zvishuvo zvisingaiti kuti tive nehanya nekugara kwevamwe. Kukurukurirana zvinokuvadza, kukurukurirana kunorwadza kunogona kupedzisira kuwedzera kuwedzera kushungurudzika kwevanhu mukuita kuti vamwe vakuone iwe zvakanyanya. Nekudaro, izvi zvinogona kuderedza kuzvidzora kwako apo iwe unonetseka iwe uri kutongwa zvisina kunaka neavo vakakupoteredza.
Kana iwe uine hanya nevanhu , ungangodaro wakaderedza zvaunoda kwenguva refu zvokuti iwe unopedzisira uchitaura nehasha. Kudzidza kuve kwakasimba kuchakubatsira kuti uite zviri nani kutarisa manzwiro ako kuitira kuti asasvike pakuita.
Chii Chinonzi Kukurukurirana kweAggressive?
Munguva yekukurukurirana kune utsinye, iwe unomiririra iwe nenzira isina kukodzera uye inogona kuputsa kodzero dzevamwe. Unogona kuwana kuti vanhu vanoratidzika vakaneta, vakavhiringidzika kana vanyengedzwa mushure mokutaura newe kana uri munyika ine utsinye. Vamwe vanhu vanosimbisawo hukuru hwavo kuburikidza nekukurukurirana kwechisimba nekuisa vamwe pasi.
Zviratidzo zvekukurukurirana zvinorwadza zvinosanganisira kunyunyuta, inzwi rinorwadza rezwi uye kuderedza mashoko akadaro
- "Iwe ungafunga sei kuti iyo yaiva pfungwa yakanaka?" kana
- "Usava benzi."
Zvisizvo zvisingatauri zvekukurukurirana zvine utsinye zvinosanganisira
- kupinda mukati memunhu wega wega
- zviratidzo zvinoshungurudza sezvinotsanangura kana kuvhara
- sneering and smirking
Kunyange zvazvo kutaurirana kwekutaura kune chinangwa chekuzadzisa zvido kana vamwe uye iwe pachako, kukurukurirana kunotyisa hakubatsiri chimwe chinhu kunze kwekutengesa kushungurudzika nekukuvadza vamwe. Kana iwe uchikurukura nenzira iyi, hausi kutsvaga mhinduro-pane iwe uri kutendera manzwiro ako kuti awane zvakanakisisa kwauri.
Sei Kutaura Kwechisimba Kunokuvadza?
Munguva iyi, kukurukurirana kunorwadza kunogona kunzwa kunogutsa kwazvo, kunyanya kana iwe uchinetseka uye unoshandiswa kusataura. Iwe unogona kuwana nzira yako nekudzvinyirira vamwe uye zvinogona kukupa pfungwa ye simba uye kutonga. Kana uine urombo uku mune hupenyu hwako, iwe unogona kuwedzererwa nazvo kuburikidza nekukurukura kukuru.
Zvisinei, kutaura kwechisimba kunogona kuunza mukukudzirwa kwevavengi uye kukuvadza ukama nevanoda. Mushure mokukuvadza mumwe munhu waunofarira, unogona kunzwa uchinzwa kana uine mhosva. Izvi zvinogonawo kudzivisa unyanzvi hwako hwemagariro evanhu uye kuita nguva yeruzhinji mamiriro ezvinhu zvakanyanya kukuomera iwe. Nenzira iyi, kutaurirana nehasha kunowanzova kukuvadza kunobva kwausingagoni kupukunyuka.
Ndeipi Nzira Yakanakisisa Yokukurukurirana?
Panzvimbo pane kuvimba nehasha uye kushamwaridzana kwekukurukurirana kune utsinye, vanhu vazhinji vane kushungurudzika kwevanhu munzanga vanoona zvichibatsira kudzidzira unyanzvi hwekukurukurirana unyanzvi .
Mukutaurirana kwakasimba, iwe unoratidza zvido zvako pachena uye nokutendeseka, pasina kukanganisa zvido zvevamwe. Panzvimbo pekutaura kunorwadza uye kushamwaridzana kunotyisa, kutaura kwemashoko ekukurukurirana kwakasimba kunosanganisira
- yakasimba asi inonzwika inzwi
- kushandiswa kwe "I" mazwi akadaro, "Ndakakuvadzwa kana iwe usina hanya neni."
Kukurukurirana kwekutaura kunoremekedza nzvimbo yega uye hazvirevi kushevedzera kana kutya. Iwe uri kutsvaga kuti vamwe vanzwisise zvaunoda kuitira kuti vagone kusangana, pamwe nekudzidza zvezvinodikanwa zvevamwe, kuitira kuti iwe unogona kuvabatsira zvakare.
Munguva yekukurukurirana kwekutaura, unoteerera nekuremekedza kuti unzwe mumwe munhu. Kana iwe uchisimudzira iwe pachako usina kukuvadza vamwe mukugadzirisa, kunyanya kuzviremekedza kwako kuchakura. Nokuzvidya mwoyo kwevanhu, zvakajairika kuti kurega kutsamwa kuwedzere. Asi nekutaura kwakasimba, iwe unotaurira zvinhu zvinyararire panguva iyo kuitira kuti shungu dzisagadzire.
Shoko Rinobva
Kudzidza kufambira mberi kubva pakurukurirana kukuru kune hukama hwekutaura kunogona kuva nzira yakaoma. Vakawanda vane kushungurudzika kwevanhu vanoona kuti chiremba ane unyanzvi ane ruzivo mune zvinetso zvekuzvidya mwoyo zvinogona kuva rubatsiro rukuru.
Mutapi wako wehutano anogona kukubatsira kuona mamiriro ezvinhu aunovimba nacho nehasha uye ichakubatsira iwe kuvaka mazano ekurwisana nechido chekupindura zvechisimba. Pamwe chete, iwe uchashanda pakuvandudza unyanzvi hwekukurukurirana uye huchaita mamiriro akasiyana-siyana kuitira kuti wakagadzirira kuzvigadzirisa zvakakodzera.
Nokufamba kwenguva, iwe uchakwanisa kuzvisimbisa zvakasimba asi zvine musoro, pasina kukuvadza vamwe kuburikidza nekumanikidza kana kutyisidzira. Izvi zvinogona kuva danho guru mukufambira mberi kwako kwehutano hwehutano.
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> University of Kentucky. Zvine Zvinyorwa Zvitsva Zvokukurukurirana .
> University of Iowa. Kufananidza kwekusingaiti, Kutsigira, uye Kutaura kwechisimba.
> University of Minnesota. Kurwisana uye Kukurukurirana pakati pevanhu.