Vamwe vanhu vane chirwere chinokonzera kushungurudzika kwevanhu (SAD) vane pfungwa: "Ndinoshuva kuti dai ndaigona kusingaonekwi."
Iwe unombofunga saizvozvo here? Vanhu vazhinji vane SAD vanoedza kuzviita vasingaoneki. Havatauri saka havazozviti ivo pachavo. Vanotarisa pasi kuitira kuti varege kutarisa maziso. Vanodzivisa mamiriro ezvinhu kuitira kuti vasazofanira kusangana nevanhu.
Kunyange zvazvo chido chako chekusingaoneki chingave chakasimba, ingadai ichigadzirisa zvachose here?
Chii chaungarasikirwa nacho nekusaonekwa?
- Hapana munhu aizoziva kuti iwe uripo.
- Iwe haungave nemukana wekuita ushamwari uye kuva noukama.
- Zvose zvese zvaunoda, zvido, uye zvido zvinenge zvichiregererwa.
- Maonero ako haazombokunzwiki.
- Vanhu vaizorasikirwa nekukuzivai.
Kana iwe uine SAD, zvichida iwe unenge usati usingaonekwi, uye zvinhu izvi zvatoitika zvechokwadi.
Ndezvipi zvinopesana nekusaonekwa? Kuonekwa? Inzwa? Iwe unogona kuzvibata here?
Zvichida kwete pakarepo, kana iwe usina kumboonekwa kwenguva refu. Asi zvishoma nezvishoma uye zvishoma nezvishoma, unogona kumira kusaoneki uye kutarisana nekutya kwako.
Unofungei? Iwe ucharamba usingaoneki here kana iwe unoda mamwe?
Tsvakurudzo paKusingaoneki
Mune chimwe chidzidzo chinonakidza, vatsvakurudzi vakashandisa chokwadi chaicho kuti vaedze kuitika kwekuona muviri wako kuti usingaoneki. Zvavakawana zvaifadza-mhinduro dzemagariro evanhu kumira pamberi pevateereri zvakaderedzwa apo muiti wacho akaona muviri wavo kuti usingaonekwi.
Vanyori vekuongorora vakaratidza kuti kutanga maitiro chaiwo echokwadi ehutachiona nemuviri usingaoneki kunogona kubvumira avo vane chirwere chekushushikana kwevanhu vevanhu kuti vakurire zvishoma nezvishoma kutya kwavo.
Kunze kwekushandiswa kwekurapa, chidzidzo ichi chingatiudza chii? Fungidzira kwekanguva kuti iwe wakamira pamberi pevateereri asi iwe usingaoneki.
Ko mwoyo wako ungadai uchimhanya here? Waizonzwa uchinetseka uye unotya here? Kutya kwako kunobva kune vateereri vachikuona, kana kuti kuripo here nekuda kwekuona vateereri?
Kubva pane zvakawanikwa kubva muchidzidzo ichi, tinogona kugumisa kuti haisi kungovapo kwevateereri, asi pfungwa yokuti vari kutarisa iwe inokonzera kushushikana. Zvechokwadi, tinoziva kuti avo vane SAD vanowanzova ne " maziso ekuona ," umo maunofunga kuti maziso ose ari pauri, kunyange kana asiri.
Zvisingaoneki Kupfuura Zvaunofunga
Kunyange iwe usingakwanise kugadzirisa mamiriro ezvinhu chaiwo muhupenyu hwako kuti udzidze kuva usingaonekwi, iwe unogona kunge uine zvimwe zvedzidzo zvekuita kuti uongorore kuti vamwe vanhu vanoona sei zvauri kuita. Mune mamwe mazwi, ita zvinyararire pane chinangwa kuti uone kuti unonzwa sei.
Kana iwe uchida kuwana zvakanyanyisa zvakadzama, kuparidzirwa kwehutachiona inzira inoshandiswa neverapist sechikamu chekufungisisa-behavioral therapy (CBT). Nenzira yakajeka, inosanganisira izvo chete-kutarisana nekutya kwako zvishoma nezvishoma nekudzidza kuti iwe unogona kuva mumamiriro ezvinhu anoita kuti unetseke. Pakupedzisira, kuzvidya mwoyo kwako kuchapera kana ukagara kwenguva yakakwana.
Kunyange zvazvo kurapwa kwechirwere kuchiwanzoitwa nechiremba , zvinogonawo kuitika iwe pachako sekuzvibatsira-kubatsira.
Pasi apa uchawana zvakasiyana-siyana zve "how-to" mazano pamusoro pokuti ungashandisa sei kurapa kurapa iwe pachako.
Kunobva:
Guterstam A, Abdulkarim Z, Ehrsson HH. Muridzi wezvinyorwa zvemuviri usingaoneki unoderedza kuzvidzora uye kuzvidzora kwehupfumi hwemagariro evanhu. Scientific Reports 2015; 5: 9831.