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Oo, iwe webhutakiti yakanamatira yakavharwa sei sezvo huwandu hwevakadzi vakaroora nevarume vanopinda mumakamuri ekukurukurirana eIndaneti kuti vaite zvepabonde kana zvepabonde, Yunivhesiti yeFlorida inodzidza inowanikwa.
"Kubvira kare nyika isati yakambove yakagadziriswa nevarume nevakadzi vakaroora vachitsvaga kutarisa," akadaro Beatriz Avila Mileham, uyo akaita ruzivo rwekutsvaga kwake kudhipatimendi mumudzidzisi wefundo paUF.
"Neye-cybersex, hapasisina chero chikonzero chekufamba pakavanzika kuvhara motels." Kubatana kwepamusoro paIndaneti kunogona kuitikawo muimba imwe chete nemumwe wako. "
Mumashoko omumwe murume ane makore makumi mana nemana makumi maviri nemana anodzidza, "Zvose zvandinofanira kuita ndezvekutendera kombiyuta yangu, uye ndine zviuru zvemadzimai angasarudza kubva. (Izvo) haagoni kuwana chero nyore kupfuura iyo." Mazano ekupa mazano anopa mharidzo dzekukurukurirana ndiyo inokurumidza-inokonzera kukonzera kuparara kwehukama, uye dambudziko rinongoramba richiwedzera kukura sezvo vanhu vemazuva ano vashandisi veIndaneti vari kuramba vachikura, Mileham akati.
"IInternet ichakurumidza kuva inonyanya kufanana nekusatendeseka, kana isati yatoitika," akadaro. Kusiyana nezvimwe zvinokanganisa zvinotyisa, kubhurwa nyore nyore kwebhodhi rekugumira kunosangana-kana munhu wacho achida kuuputsa-pasina tsanangudzo kana kukumbira ruregerero, akadaro.
Mileham yakarongedza zvakadzama paIndaneti nevarume makumi manomwe nemasere, vane makore 25 kusvika ku66, vakashandisa Yahoo ya "Vakaroora uye Flirting" kana Microsoft "Vakaroorana Asi Kuita Flirting," Makomba ekukurukura paIndaneti akagadzirirwa vanhu vakaroorana.
Vadzidzi vekudzidza, avo vaimiririra hurumende dzose, vaisanganisira vakadzi vanogara-pamusha, vashandi vekuvaka, injinjini, vanamukoti nevatungamiri vemakambani makuru.
Vamwe vakashanda paIndaneti kuti vakurumidza "kurongedza zvepabonde," asi vamwe vakagadzira humwe hune humwe hune hukama hwakakosha apo vaitaura nezvezvinetso zvemunhu uye nyaya dzekuroorana, Mileham akati.
Vamwe vaitarisira kuva nehupenyu hwechokwadi. Vamwewo vaida kuita zvepabonde paIndaneti, kuchinjana kufungidzira zvepabonde kune mumwe munhu panguva yekuita bonhora, akadaro.
Vazhinji vati vanoti vaida avo vakaroorana asi vakatsvaga kusangana nekutarisana pamusana pekutengesa, kusakosha kwevamwe vavo zvepabonde kana kudiwa kwekusiyana uye kunakidza, Mileham akati. "Handisi kuzonyengedza," akanyora mumwe murume akaroorwa. "Ndiri kungotora dzimwe dzemafirimu atinonzwa patinenge tiri vaduku uye kutanga kutamba uye kufambidzana."
"Kunyunyuta kwaNo. 1 kubva kuvanhu kwaiva kupererwa kwepabonde muwanano," akadaro Mileham. "Vakawanda vavo vakati mudzimai wavo aibatanidzwa mukurera vana zvokuti akanga asingadi kuita zvepabonde." Nemhaka yekuti hapana kuora kunobatanidzwa muInternet chat conversations, vanhu vakaroorana vanowanzofungidzira maitiro avo sekunakidza kusina kunaka, Mileham akati. Vane makumi masere nevatatu muzana vevadzidzi vacho vakati havana kuzviona sevari kubiridzira, uye vakasara 17 kubva muzana vakazviona se "utera" hwekusatenda kwaive nyore kururamisa, akadaro.
Imwe tsvakurudzo yakaratidza, zvisinei, kuti vazhinji vakaroorana vanonzwa sevanopomerwa, vakatsamwa uye vanokuvadzwa nekusatendeseka kwepakombiyuta sezvavanenge vachida kana chifeve-ganda chifeve chakanga chaitika, iye akati.
Ikutsvakurudza kweUF kwakawana unhu hunokurudzira kune avo vanobatana paIndaneti. Vakawanda vakataura kuti izvo zvakatanga sevasina mhaka, kushamwaridzana kwepedyo zvakakurumidza kufambira mberi kusvika pakasimba zvishuvo zvehukama hwepabonde, akadaro.
Twenty-six of the 86 participants participant went to meet the person they were engaged in online relationships with, and of these, all but two ended up having a real-life affair . Mumwe musikana wemakore makumi matanhatu nemasere ane makore makumi matatu nemanomwe akapedzisira ava nemakore 13 nenzira iyi, akadaro.
Kutsvakurudza kunoratidza kuti vamwe vanhurume kupfuura vakadzi vanoshandisa makamuri ekukurukura, akadaro Mileham, uyo akawana zvakaoma kuwana madzimai kuti apindure pakuongorora kwake. Vakadzi vanowanzoputirwa nemashoko uye vanogona kusarudza uye vanosarudza maitiro avanoita, akadaro. Al Cooper, nyanzvi inotungamira mumunda weIndaneti uye munyori webhuku rinonzi "Sex neIndaneti: A Guidebook for Clinicians," akadaro kuongorora kwaMilham kunokosha mukubatsira kunzwisisa izvi zvinowanzoitika.
"Tiri kunzwa kubva kune vanyori vari munyika yose vachitaura nezvekuita zvepabonde paIndaneti kuti zvive chikonzero chikuru chematambudziko emhuri," Cooper akati. "Tinofanira kujekesa zviri nani zvinokonzera kana tichizokwanisa kunyevera vanhu pamusoro pematope anotsvaira anotanga nekutamba flirting uye nguva zhinji inoguma mukurambana." Kunze kwevadzidzi vaviri vekudzidza, vose vakavanza mabasa avo paIndaneti kubva kune avo vakaroorana, kazhinji "kutaurirana" mushure mokunge varume kana vakadzi vavo vaenda kunorara, Mileham akati. Asi vamwe vakashandisa mukana uyu wekusagadzikana kusingakwanisi kupukunyuka apo mumwe wavo aive mumba, akadaro.
Mumwe munhu akadaro, "Ndiri pakombiyuta mudzimai wangu achingofunga kuti ndiri kunyora mushumo webasa." Mumwe murume akati mudzimai wake, uyo aiziva zvaainge achiita uye asingazvifariri, akatarisa pamapfudzi ake dzimwe nguva paainyora, Mileham akati. Zvakawanda zvekutsvaga kweInternet kune vanhu vakaroorana ndiko kusingazivikanwe kwavanovimbisa, pamwe chete nekusava-kubata, izvo vanoona semvumo yekuita zvepabonde, Mileham akati.
Mumwe anogona kuratidza hukama hwepedyo hwepfungwa uye zvepabonde kune munhu asingaoneki mutorwa chero nguva ipi zvayo masikati kana usiku, akadaro.
Vatori vechikamu vanoverengeka vakaratidza kuti vakataurira zvakawanda pamusoro pavo kune vashandi veIndaneti pane vakadzi vavo kana varume. "Takatanga kutaurirana nezvehupenyu, imba yedu, zvatinoda kudya, zvipi zvepabonde zvatinofarira zvakanakisisa," akanyora mumwe murume kuna Mileham.
"Ndainzwa sokuti ndamuziva mune imwe hupenyu." Mileham anotenda kuti nguva yasvika yokuti Indaneti ive iyo inokosha chikamu chekukurukurirana kusati kwawakaroorana sekuda kana kuti kusava nevana. "Kudzivirira zvinetso zvenguva yemberi, vakaroorana vechidiki, pamwe nevakagara kwenguva yakareba vakaroorana, vanoda kutaura pamusoro pekuita kweInternet muhukama hwavo."
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