Zvinofanira kutevedzera Kuzvidya Mwoyo Kusununguka
Imba yose inopesana pane imwe nguva panguva, sezvo vakaroorana vanoedza kubata zvisarudzo zvinokosha uye vanofamba kuburikidza nehupenyu. Nzira yatinoita nayo kupopotedzana uku kunogona kurondedzera ukama, uye inoita kuti iwedzere kufara kana kuti kudzvinyirira zvakanyanya. Vakaroorana vanoshandisa kusawirirana kuti vanzwisisane zviri nani vanogona kuswedera pedo, asi avo vanodonha pasi panguva yekukakavadzana kunowanzova nehuwandu hwakawanda uye kushungurudzika muhukama hwavo.
Takaziva izvi kwenguva yakati, asi tsvakurudzo inoratidzira mamwe mashoko pamusoro pehuwandu hwevanhu vari mumhirizhonga-yakaroorana, uye hukama hupi hunobatanidzwa nehukuru hwekuwanana uye hupenyu husingaperi.
Maitiro Aunoita Nezvinhu Zvokukakavadzana Mhuri Yako
Vatsvakurudzi vePennsylvania University vakatsvaga mashoko kubva kuhutano hwe1000 uye vakaona kuwedzera kwehukama hwavo pamusoro pemakore makumi maviri. Munguva yekutsvakurudza uku, vakawana mamwe maitiro anofadza. Vakayera maonero ehutano hwemhuri yekufara / kugutsikana uye kukakavadzana, kuvanyorera se "akakwirira," "pakati" (pedyo neanoreve), uye "pasi" pazvikamu zvose zviri zviviri, uye akanyora nguva yechato (nemitengo ye kurambana) pamwe chete. Chimwe chinhu chavakawana ndechokuti nzira iyo vakaroorana nayo kusabvumirana kwavo kunowanzova mumapoka mana, ayo akafamba-famba nemaoko uye kufara uye kugadzikana kwemichato yaifanirwa kuva.
Imba inofadza uye yakasingaperi yakaitwa nevatsvakurudzi vanonzi "validator" vakaroorana, iyo yakanga yakatarwa nekugadzirisa kusarudzwa. Iyi yembairo, iyo yakave yakawanda kwazvo yemichato-54%-yakavhara pakati kusvika kumusoro kwemafaro, uye pakati nepasi pfupi maitiro emakakatanwa.
"Mhirizhonga inowanzoonekwa seyakanaka nokuti vakaroorana vanobatana uye vanofara. Takawana kuti mumitambo iyi, mumwe nemumwe akagoverana pakuita zvisarudzo uye mumabasa epamba, "Claire Kamp Dush, mumwe wevatsvakurudzi, akataura muhurukuro. Iyi imba yakawanzova yakanyanya kuitika.
Kusagadziriswa Kusangana Kunowedzera Kushungurudzika
Rimwe boka rakasara-raifara rakanzi "rakashata," uye rakarongedzwa nekukwirira kwekukakavadzana uye kukwirira-kusvika-pakati mafaro emufaro. 20% yevatori vechikamu vaibatanidzwa mumhuri dzisina kukwana, uye izvi zvaisati zvisinganyatsogadzikane pane dzimba dzevashandi.
Kunyangwe kufara kwakange kune boka re "utsinye", iro rakaumbawo 20% yehutano uye yakave nehukama hwakakakavhirana. Zvisinganzwisisiki, boka iri ndiro rainyanya kurambana. Imwe tsvakurudzo inoratidza kuti kukakavara kunogona kuunza kushungurudzika kukuru nemamwe matambudziko pamwe chete, saka boka iri raizove rakanyanya kudiwa nzira itsva dzekutarisana nekusawirirana kwavo.
Chechina cheboka, mhuri dze "Avo" dzisingatauri, dzakataurirana zvishoma, asi dzaifara uye dziine hukama husingaperi kune dzakashata kana dzevamwe vaviri. Vaya vakaroorana vaiva nemichato yakawanda iyo varume vakanga vasingabatanidzi mumabasa epamba uye umo vatori vechikamu vakatenda muwanano hupenyu hwose.
"Vakaroorana ava vaitenda mabasa echikadzi," anotsanangura Dush, "uye angave akadzivisa kukakavara nekuda kwezvavanotenda muupenyu hwemazuva ose. Ava vakaroorana vaisakwanisawo kurambana. "
Sezvakaita mumhuri yakashandura, mhuri dzekudzivisa dzinenge dzichikwanisa kupesana, asi dzakanzi dzisina utano hwakakwana. "Kudzivisa kukakavara kunogona kutungamirira vakaroorana kuti varege dzimwe mhando dzekuita nemumwe wavo," akadaro Dush. "Imba yakagadzikana inofanirwa kuti vaviri vakaroorana vabatanidzwe uye vashandise muhukama."
Kana imba yako isiri iyo iwe waunoda kuti ive, pane mashoko akanaka. Kunyangwe chidzidzo chekutsvakurudza ichi chakanga chisingarevi kupindira kwakananga, dzimwe nzira dzekutaurirana dzakabatana nemufaro mukuru uye kusagadzikana kwakanyanya, uye maitiro aya anogona kugadzirwa.
Nokucherechedza, tsika, uye nguva, unyanzvi hwekukurukurirana hwakanaka hunogona kusimbiswa , uye hukama hukuru hunogutsa hunogona kuwanikwa.
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