Maitiro Atinoshungurudzika uye Pakuvhiringidzwa Panyama
Iwe unogona kunge watoziva kuti hukama hwakanaka kune hutano hwako, hupenyu hurefu uye tarisiro yeupenyu. Nenzira yakawanda, iyo ichitaura chechokwadi, kunze kwekuti ukama huri hwakaipa. Chero ani zvake ave achinyanya kurambana, akatarisana nevabereki vakaoma kana vana, kana kuti ane shamwari "yepenzi" achakuudza kuti haisi hukama hwose hwakanaka hutano hwako. Isu tose tine munhu mumwechete muhupenyu hwedu hunoga hunoita sehunoita kuti tisazvidya mwoyo uye matambudziko.
Izvozvo zvinofanira kuva nemamwe mararamiro ehupenyu hwedu, zvakarurama?
Chinotsvakurudza Chinotiudza
Vatsvakurudzi vakakwanisa kuenzanisa hukama hwehukama mune chidzidzo che varume nevakadzi 9 000 muBritish Civil Service. Vatori vechikamu vakaongororwa pamusoro pehukama hwavo uye zvakasiyana siyana zvakashata zviripo muhukama hwepedyo. Vaparidzi vainyatsoongororwawo nezvehutano hwehutano.
Vaya vanorondedzera vachiona zvimwe zvinhu zvisina kunaka muhukama hwepedyo hwaive ne 34% yepamusoro muhutano hwekuita matambudziko emwoyo, kunyange mushure mekurema, kutsigirwa kwevanhu, uye zvimwe zvinhu zvinofungwa. 34 muzana: Iko kuwedzerwa kukuru.
Chimwe chidzidzo chePortland State University Institute paAging yakabvunzwa vanhu vanopfuura 650 vanopfuura makore maviri uye vakaona kuti kurwisana kwenguva yakareba nevamwe vanhu kwakanyatsobatanidzwa nehutano hwakadzika hwehutano uye hutano huzhinji.
Mhando ipi zvayo yekushungurudzika, kana yakakonzerwa neukama hwakanaka nemunhu ane ruzivo kana basa rakaoma, ine simba rinoshamisa pamagetsi ezvidzivirira zvemuviri.
Chii Chinoitika Kana Ukama Hwakanaka Husingatauri
Kunyanyisa manzwiro ako hazvina kunaka, kunyanya kana manzwiro iwayo ari kutsamwa kana kutsamwa.
Imwe tsvakurudzo inoratidza kuti vakaroorana vanofa sekufa vaduku apo mumwe wavo anodzivisa kutsamwa kwavo; hukama huri pakati pavo vaviri vanodzvinyirira kutsamwa kwavo vane hurefu hwakareba.
Mune humwe hukama, munhu mumwe angave asingagutsikana zvachose, asi mumwe munhu haazive zvachose nyaya. Kurwisana kunonyanya kudzivirirwa, asi kugadzirisa zvakanaka kunogona kugadzirisa ukama.
Nzira Yokubata Nayo Uipi Hwakanaka
Kuwirirana neshamwari dzako nemhuri yako chinhu chakanaka. Inowedzera hupenyu hwako kutarisira uye inochengetedza uropi hwako, pamwe nekuwanda kwezvimwe zvikomborero. Asi kuyanana nevamwe venyu vashoma vanodikanwa neshamwari uye nhengo dzemhuri - munoziva kuti ini ndiri kutaura pamusoro -ndezvipi zvingakuita kuti usanyanya kuva noutano hwakanaka.
Ita zvose zvaunokwanisa kuti uwedzere nguva yakawanda yakashandiswa neshamwari nemhuri yako unonakidzwa nekugara uripo, nekuderedza kushamwaridzana kwako nevaya vasina kufadza. Iwe unogona kuita izvozvi nekudzivisa vanhu vanounza negativo muhupenyu hwako. Zvinosuruvarisa, vanhu ava havakwanisi kudzivirirwa, kunyanya kana vari mhuri. Muchiitiko ichocho, shandisa nzira dzekuzorora kuti urege kunetseka mushure mokusangana nevanhu ava uye dzidza kuti ungatevedzera sei kushamwaridzana navo pamwe nekushingaira saka vane zvishoma zvingakonzera hutano hwako uye hupenyu.
Kukonana kungaita sehukama hutsva hwekufa, asi hunogona kuvandudza ukama. Iko ndiko, kana yakagadziriswa zvakanaka . Kurwisana kusingagadziriswi kwakaipa, asi kuedza kunotsvaga kusvika pakugadziriswa kwakaipa. Zvaunosarudza kugadzirisa kusawirirana kuchakanganisa ukama hupi hwaunobatanidzwa nawo.
Aya mazano ekugadzirisa kukakavadzana achakubatsira kugadzirisa kusawirirana iwe pachako nenzira yakakura uye ine utano. Dzimwe nguva kukakavara kwakadzika midzi, mumamiriro ezvinhu sekurambana. Kana uri kutarisana nekupesana kukuru, ungada kutsvaga mazano ekuroorana kana kurapa mumwe munhu.
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