Ichashanda Here?
Kana imba yenyu iine matambudziko, zvirokwazvo haufaniri kumirira kwenguva yakareba kuti utsvake rubatsiro rwezvenyanzvi. Zvinogona kunge zvakaoma kuwana mupi wezano rakanaka neunyanzvi hwekubatsira ukama hwako, asi ivo vari kunze uye vanoda kuzvibatsira. Kune nzira dzekuwana mupi anopa mazano anonyanya kukoshesa muchato kana mazano ekurapa. Iwe unogona kusangana nevanopfuura imwe kuti uwane zvakakodzera.
Panewo dzimwe nzira dzekuziva kana kupiwa mazano kuchazoshanda zvechato chako. Nenzira yakanaka, tine ruzivo pamusoro pemhando dzevakaroorana vanowana zvakanyanya, uye zvishoma, kubva pakupa mazano ekuroorana.
Heano mimwe mibvunzo yekufungisisa:
- Wakawana here mudiki?
- Hauna kudzidza kubva kuchikoro chesekondari here?
- Iwe uri mubhakoni yakaderera mari shoma here?
- Iwe uri muukama hwekutenda pamwe chete here?
- Vabereki vako vakarambana here?
- Iwe unowanzoshorana here?
- Pane mune zvakawanda zvidziviriro mumhuri yako here?
- Unowanzoita here kubva kune mumwe?
- Iwe unonzwa kuzvidzwa uye kutsamwa kune mumwe nemumwe here?
- Unotenda here kuti kukurukurirana kwako kune urombo?
- Pane hupo hwekusatendeseka, kusvuta, kana kushungurudzwa mumhuri yako here?
Kana wakapindura "hongu" kumibvunzo yakawanda yemibvunzo iyi, iwe uri nhamba yepamusoro yengozi yekurambana. Izvo hazvirevi kuti kurambana hakudziviriki, zvinogona kureva kuti unofanira kushanda zvakaoma kuti uchengetedze ukama hwako munzira.
Vaya vakaroorana vane zvavanotarisirwa kune mumwe nemumwe nemukaro wavo, kutaura zvakanaka, kushandisa unyanzvi hwokugadzirisa kusawirirana, uye vanobatana nevamwe havasi pangozi yekurambana.
Kubudirira kweMukaro Kupa mazano
Sayenzi pamusoro pekubudirira kwekupa mazano ekuroorana iri kuverengwa zvakanyatsonaka mumazuva ano.
Nhoroondo kubva kune zvidzidzo dzimwe nguva yakave yakakanganiswa. Imwe tsvakurudzo yakaratidza kuti kuroora mazano hakusi kushanda sezvinofunga vanhu, kuti vakadzi vanoita sevanowana zvakawanda kubva kune iyo kupfuura varume uye kuti zvingasava nemigumisiro yenguva dzose pamuchato wevakaroorana. Pasinei neizvi, tinofunga kuti kugamuchira rubatsiro rwemhizha matambudziko asati asvika pachikamu chakakosha inobatsira zvikuru kuroorana.
Nzira yakanyatsodzidza, uye inobudirira yehutano, inofungidzira-inotarisana nemadzimai ekurapa (EFT) yakagadzirwa naDkt. Sue Johnson. Migumisiro inoratidza zvakare kuti kurapwa uku kunogara kwenguva refu uye kunobatsira kune avo vemarudzi akasiyana uye tsika dzakasiyana. Uyezve, chidzidzo cheAmerican Association for Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT) chakaratidza kuti kazhinji, mhuri dzinoda kurapwa uye inzvimbo yakakosha zvikuru pane zvakaitika.
Ndeupi Wechikwata Unowana Mukana Wakawanda Wokuroorana Mazano?
- Vakomana vaduku
- Vasina-sexist uye vakaroorana vanofananidzira
- Vakaroorana avo vachiri kudanana
- Vakaroorana vanovhura kurapwa uye kuchinja
- Vashandi vanoda kuzviona ivo pachavo uye zvikanganiso zvavo
Ndeupi Mhando Yevamwe Vakaroorana Vanowana Murairo kubva kuNhaurirano Kurairirwa?
- Vakaroorana vanomirira kwenguva refu vasati vatsva rubatsiro
- Kuroorana nemumwe kana mumwe mumwe wako kunotanga kurambana
- Vanhu vakaroorana avo vakavharwa kune chero mazano anogona kuchengetedza muchato
- Kuroorana nemumwe mudiwa kunodhakwa nedoro, zvinodhaka kana zvinonyadzisira
- Kuroorana nemumwe musikana ari kuratidza kusvika pane zvidzidzo asi haasi kuiswa mubasa
Mhinduro Dzokudzidza Kubva Kune Vakaroorana Vakanaka
Tsvakurudzo yaJohn Gottman inotarisa vakaroorana vanofara kuti vawane mhinduro. Akaona kuti kunyange zvazvo vakaroorana vose vanoona kupesana muwanano yavo, vakaroorana vanofara vanoziva kuti vangagadzirisa sei kusawirirana kwavo nekuda kwesheyo rudo uye ushamwari. Vakaroorana vasina kufara havana unyanzvi hunoiswa. Kazhinji, vakaroorana uye vakaroorana vatsvakurudzo vanoratidza kuti chinangwa chekurapa kwechikwata chinofanira kuva chekuchinja mararamiro ekubatana, kushamwaridzana mupfungwa, nekukurukurirana pakati pevakaroorana.
Usamirira Kuti Uwane Rubatsiro
Kana iwe uchifunga kuti imba yako iri mumatambudziko, usamira. Tsvaka rubatsiro nokukurumidza sezvazvinogona. Ronga kugadzirisa mari uye nguva mune izvi kurapwa. Kana iwe uchimirira kwenguva refu, zvakaoma zvichave kuti uwane ukama hwako kumashure. Iva nechokwadi chekuwana unyanzvi hwokupa mazano ekupa mazano kana kuti kupinda kuchato chechichato kana kuti vhiki yevhiki yekuziva iwe pakarepo apo zviratidzo zvinonyevera zvinoonekwa.