Kana iwe uchirarama nehutano hwehutano hwevanhu (SAD) , pamwe unenge wakaoma nguva yakaoma kugamuchira nekupa rumbidzo .
Kana mumwe munhu akataura nezvechimwe chinhu chakanaka pamusoro pako, tsika yako ingangodaro isingaregi uye inokanganisa maitiro akanaka. Somuenzaniso, kana mumwe waunoshanda naye akakuudza kuti iwe wakaita basa rakanaka pane purojekiti, unogona kupindura ne "Zvakanaka, chero munhu aigona kuita zvandakaita."
Iyi mhando yemhinduro chete inobatsira kuwedzera kukanganisa kuvimba kwako. Muchidimbu, uri kutaura kuti haukoshese basa rako, maitiro ako, imba yako-kana chimwe chinhu chipi zvacho chaunogamuchira rumbidzo pamusoro.
Nzira Yokupindura Nayo Kupa Mhinduro
Matanho mana ekugamuchirwa mazano anotevera:
- Iti tenda. Ndinokutendai zvakakwana, kunyange kana musingagoni kufunga nezvechinhu chipi zvacho chingareva. Edza kuti usambomira kwenguva yakareba kare usati watenda kana kuti kutendeseka kwako kunogona kubvunzwa.
- Kana iwe uchigona kufunga nezveimwe, wedzera mashoko akanaka , akadai, "Ndinoisa simba rakawanda muurongwa uhwu," kana kuti, "Ndakapedza nguva yakareba ndichisarudza urongwa hwekamuri ino."
- Kana zvichibvira, dzorera kurumbidzwa nemashoko akadai, "Ndinonyatsoziva kuti kubva kwauri nokuti ndinoremekedza maonero ako zvakanyanya."
- Kuti uitore danho rimwe mberi, shandisa hurukuro yekukurukurirana yakadai se "Ndanga ndichireva kukubvunza iwe waizoita sei ..." kana kuti "Ndaida kubvunza maonero ako pamusoro ..."
Sample Scenario
Sarah ari kuenda kune imwe nguva yezororo pahofisi yake itsva. Kuti agadzirire chiitiko chacho, anogadzirira mushumiro webvudzi rebvudzi uye anogutsikana kuedza nzira itsva. Mugumisiro-iye ari kunyatsonzwa akanakisisa pamusoro pokuti anotarisa pasinei nekuzvidya mwoyo kwake pamusoro pekupinda pachiitiko chacho.
Zvisinei, sezvaanopinda muchikwata, mumwe waanoshanda navo anomukwazisa uye pakarepo anoti, "Ndinoda bvudzi rako idzva!" Achinetseka nokucherechedza, Jessica anomira uye pakupedzisira anopindura, "Iwe unofunga kudaro? Handisi chokwadi kana ndikazozvichengeta nenzira iyi"
Kune vanhu vane SAD, zviitiko zvakadai sezviri pamusoro hazvisati zviri kure neicho. Kana iwe uine chido chekupindura zvisina kunaka kurumbidzwa, zvinotora chiito kuti udzidze nzira iri nani yekuita nayo.
Sara aigona kunge akaita sei nenzira yakanakisisa kumubatsiro wemumwe wake? Chimwe chinhu chakafanana neicho chinotevera chaizoratidza nyasha kumunhu anopa rumbidzo uye zvakabatsira kusimbisa kuzvirumbidza kwaSara panguva imwecheteyo:
"Ndinokutendai, ndinoda chaizvo chimiro-ini ndangoita kuti zviitwe. Ndinonyatsokoshesa kurumbidzwa kunobva kwamuri, vhudzi renyu rinogara rakatarisa."
Zvakadini kana iwe uchida kutakura hurukuro kunyanya? Aigona kunge akawedzera chimwe chinhu chinotevera:
"Ndakabva ndaenda kuHwele Station mudhorobha. Iwe unoenda kupi?"
Kuyemura kunogona kuva nzira dzakanaka dzekutanga kukurukurirana. Kana mumwe munhu akakupa rumbidzo, ichi chiratidzo chakanakisisa chokuti iye anoda kuti akuzive zviri nani uye achabvuma kugadzirisa kukurukurirana semuyo wepamusoro.
Kukurudzira uye Kushungurudzika Kwevanhu Munzanga
Kana kushungurudzika kwako kwemagariro arikuwana munzira yekupa kana kugamuchira zvigumbuso, zvingave zvakakosha kutaura nemudzidzisi wehutano hwepfungwa kuti uone kana kushungurudzika kuchikudzivirira kuti usabatanidzwa mubato rino rinokosha rekushandurana.
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