Uzhinji hukama huri kutanga hutsinye kana hutsinye, uye hukama hukama hwepedyo hahuzombotambudzi zvachose, asi zvinosuruvarisa vazhinji vanoita.
Pane imwe nzira yekuudza pakutanga kwehukama kana imwe nguva ingashandura zvechisimba? Pane zviratidzo zvinogona kufanotaura kana ukama hunotanga hunoita sehunofara uye hutano hunova hune hutsinye uye hunotyisa here?
Kwemakore, vatsvakurudzi vakaedza kutsvaga zvikonzero zvipi uye maitiro akaratidzwa pakutanga kwehukama angave ari zviratidzo zvekutambudzika munguva yemberi. Zvidzidzo zvakasiyana-siyana zvakaratidza zvimwe zvehukama hwehukama hunofanirwa kufanotaura kushungurudzwa kwemazuva anotevera kana chisimba.
Uye hongu, zvinoshanduka, doro uye kushandisa zvinodhaka zvinogona kuita basa kana ukama huchitendeuka kana kuti kwete.
Doro uye Chisimba Chisoro
Chimwe chidzidzo chekutanga, chinozivikanwa seBuffalo Newlywed Study, chakanyatsogadzirisa ukama huri pakati pemhirizhonga yemurume, nharo dzepabonde, uye kuwirirana kwevakadzi vaviri mumakore matatu ekutanga ewanano.
Yakarongedzwa naDr. Brian M. Quigley weDare Rekutsvaga paDhairiro, chidzidzo chakaongorora 414 vakaroorana vasati varoorana panguva yekuroora uye vakabvunzurudzwa pamusoro pekushandisa doro uye chiitiko nechisimba vasati varoorana, gore rimwe mushure mokuroorwa, uye makore matatu mushure mokuroorana.
"Tinoda kuona kana kunwa pamatambo ekutanga kunofanotaura nezvechisimba mberi. Tinoziva kuti kunwa kunoshandiswa senzira yekukunda nayo manzwiro kana kuora mwoyo kunobatanidza nechisimba, asi haisi nyaya yose," akadaro Quigley.
Vakaroorana Vanopopotedzana Mugore Rokutanga
Vakaroorana vanopikisa zvizhinji panguva yavo yekutanga yewanano vangave vachiita zvechisimba mumakore akazotevera kana murume akadhakwa uye mudzimai asiri, vatsvakurudzi vakapedzisa.
"Sezvazvakazoitika, vakaroorana umo murume uyu akanga anwe doro uye mudzimai wacho akanga asiri pangozi yekurwisana," akadaro Quigley. "Izvozvo zvingaguma nekukakavara pamusoro pemari inoshandiswa, mari inoshandiswa pane doro, matambudziko emutemo, kana kusava neukama hwepedyo," akadaro.
Vatsvakurudzi vakaona kuti chisimba chiri mugore rokutanga rekuroorana chakafanotaura kana huzhinji hwechisimba hwaizoitika mumakore maviri anotevera.
Kuitirana Nharo Pamusoro Pokunwa
Kunyange kana pasina chisimba chakaitika mugore rokutanga, zvakadini ivo vakaroorana vakagara vafanotaura nezvehuwandu hwechisimba mumakore anotevera. Chisimba chakanga chichidawo kuitika pamusoro pechato chemuchato apo vakaroorana vaitisana nharo.
Zvakawanda zvakadini murume anonwa asati aita zvewanano zvakagadzirisawo kana chisimba chikaitika mugore rokutanga rowanano, asi mari iyo yose murume nomudzimai vakanwa mukati megore rokutanga vakafanotaura zvechisimba mugore rechipiri nerechitatu.
Kurwisana muHurano
"Zvinonzwisisika kuti izvi zvisingabvumirwi kunwa zvinokonzera kukakavara mumuchato. Mhirizhonga inogona kunge iri pamusoro pekunwa pachayo kana pamusoro pematambudziko anokonzerwa nekunwa, somuenzaniso, hangover, kurasika kwemabasa, matambudziko emutemo," akadaro Quigley.
Asi vakaroorana avo vaisambokakavadzana kana kuti vakapikisana nemashoko mugore rokutanga rowanano, vakanga vasingakwanisi kuita zvechisimba mumakore apfuura, kana murume ari kunwa kana kuti kwete.
Vatsvakurudza vakaratidza kuti vakadzi vanogona kuva varwi muhukama hwechisimba zvakare uye kuti doro harina "kukonzera" chisimba nokuti kune vazhinji vanoita zvechisimba mumhuri avo vakanyatsogadzikana.
Kuchengetedzwa Kwematevedzeri Maitiro
Nyaya yezvidzidzo zvitatu kuFloran Atlantic University yakaratidza maitiro akashandiswa nevarume kuti varambe vachidzivirira ukama hwavo, izvo zvinonzi "maitiro ekuchengetedza maitiro."
Vatsvakurudzi vakatsvaga varume 1 461 avo vakarondedzera kushandiswa kwavo kwehukama hwekuchengetedza vakadzi, 560 vakadzi avo vakataura maitiro avo vavakaroorana navo, uye 214 vanhu vanovaka 107 vakaroorana avo vose vanotaura kuti vakaroorana vanochengetedza uye vane utsinye.
Zvidzidzo, zvakatungamirirwa naT Todd K. Shackelford, vakaona kuti mamwe emitemo iyoyo ingangodaro ichingova chiitiko chekukuvadza uye inoratidza chiratidzo chekuita zvechisimba munguva yemberi.
Anopfuura-Akasvinura, Anonyengera, uye Anopisa
Chidzidzo chacho chakawana kuti kuzvibata kunogona kutungamirira kumhirizhonga yeramangwana kwaisanganisira:
- Kuchenjerera pamusoro pemunharaunda yaanoenda naye
- Kushungurudzika mupfungwa
- Kudonha nekusatarisira kutarisa kune mumwe wako
- Kushevedza kuti ave nechokwadi chokuti mudiwa wacho paanotaura kuti aizova
- Monopolization yenguva yemudiwa
- Kutyisidzira kutsiva kwekusatenda
Zvimwe Zvinoratidza Ngozi Njodzi
"Maitiro ekuchengetedza maitiro akagadzirirwa kugadzirisa zvinetso zvakasiyana-siyana, zvakadai sokudzivisa kusavimbika komumwe wako uye kudzivirira kukanganisa kubva pakubatana," Shackelford akanyora. "Kuchenjerera pamusoro pemumwe waakaroorana naye kwaive nzira yakakwirira yekufananidzira chisimba," akadaro.
"Pakati pemaitiro anobatsira, zvigumisiro zvezviongorori izvi zvinogona kushandiswa kuzivisa vakadzi nevarume, shamwari neshamwari, zvezviratidzo zvengozi-zviito zvakananga uye mazano ekuchengetedza mararamiro anoratidza kukanganisa kwechisimba munguva yemberi muhukama kuitira kuti hudzivirire zvisati zvaitwa, "Shackelford akati.
Ukama Hwakatsauka Kufa
Zvinosuruvarisa, apo hukama hunoshandura chisimba, kuti chisimba chinogona kuwedzera uye kuwedzera kuva nengozi. Sezvo ukama hwacho huchiwedzera kuva nechisimba, inowanzove yakakonzerwa nemhirizhonga inogona kuedza kupukunyuka ukama, uye ndiyo apo mamiriro ezvinhu anova akaipisisa.
Ndiyo apo inogona kuuraya.
Mune chidzidzo chiduku chekufa kwevanhu makumi maviri nematatu emhuri mumhuri yeHamilton County, Ohio, yakatungamirirwa neYunivhesiti yeCincinnati School of Social Work, vatsvakurudzo vakatungamirirwa naGary Dick vakawana kuti 83 muzana yematambudziko akaparadzaniswa kana kuti anenge apedza kubvisa ukama.
Chidzidzo cheCincinnati chaive chekutanga chekupa svondo chekudavira kwekutenda kwenguva refu kuti nguva yakaipisisa kune avo vanobatanidzwa muhukama hwekushungurudzika apo pavanoedza kusiya.
Mirayiridzo Yekudzivirirwa Haisi Himbiso Kudzvinyirira
Pamusoro pevanhu makumi maviri nematatu vanouraya mhirizhonga:
- 91 muzana avo vakafa vaiva vakadzi
- 16 muzana vakanga vane chirongwa chekuchengetedza
- 36 aiva nevana varipo
Predictors of Death
Muna 96 muzana yematambudziko, vatsvakurudzi vanoti pane kune zviratidzo zvinonyevera zvinouraya zviripo muhukama. Zvitsva zvikuru zvekudzidza zvakaratidza zvinotevera zvinokonzera ngozi (predictors of death):
- Yakaparadzaniswa - 83 muzana
- Kushungurudzwa kwemishonga - 68 muzana
- Kuwedzera kushandiswa - 56 muzana
- Kutsika mafambiro - 50 muzana
- Chiitiko chemhosva - 46 muzana
- Zvinotyisidzira kuuraya - 43 muzana
- Pamberi pemhuri inobhadharwa nechisimba - 36 muzana
- Kushungurudzwa kwevana - 33 muzana
- Zvinotyisidzira kuzviuraya - 33 muzana
- Kuita zvinokonzera chirwere chepfungwa - 31 muzana
- Mutadzi akaunza zvombo - 29 muzana
- Kushungurudza - 29 muzana
- Kutyisidzira nezvombo - 25 muzana
- Pakuvadzwa kwepfuma - 23 muzana
- Vakashatisa urongwa hwekuchengetedza - 23 muzana
- Kupera kwakakomba kwakakura - 23 muzana
- Kurwisa zvepabonde - 21 muzana
- Kushungurudzwa kwemhuka - 8 muzana
Zvakare tinoona kuti doro uye kushandisa zvinodhaka hazvisi izvo zvinokonzera kushungurudzwa kwemhuri uye kushungurudzwa asi icho chinhu. Kana iwe uchangobva kuparadzana kubva kune waunenge ari kunwa kana kushandisa zvinodhaka mushure mekuitika kwenhoroondo yekuwedzera kushungurudzwa, unogona kunge uri munjodzi huru.
Ronga Kuti Upukunyuke Kwacho
Kana iwe uri muukama hwechisimba huri kuwedzera, zvinokosha kunyatsokura uye urongwa hwakachengeteka kuti uende, pane kungosiya uchinge uchinetseka kana mukupisa kwechiitiko. Dzidza zvose zvaunogona pamusoro pengozi dzekuedza kusiya uye kuti ungaita sei chirongwa chekuchengeteka.
Kana iwe uchiziva mumwe munhu ari muukama hunoshungurudza, chenjerera pakuvapa mazano, akadai, "Iwe unoda kubva kunze uko!" Dzidza zvose zvaunogona pamusoro pechisimba chemhuri, kuti ungaziva sei zviratidzo zvekushungurudzwa , kuti ungabatsira sei munhu ari kushungurudzwa, uye kudiwa kwekunyatsorongedzwa nekuchengetedzwa kwakachengeteka.
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