Kubvira pauduku hwemakore kusvika kumakore ekumucheche, vana vanowedzera kushamwaridzana nekuchinja kwehupenyu. Ingofungai musiyano pakati pemucheche pazera remakore maviri uye rimwe pazera remakore manomwe kana masere. Kuchinja kukuru uye kuwedzera kunowanikwa mukati memakore iwayo anopindira. Zvose zvegore rimwe chete zvinodanwa nekutsamwa uye kubatana nevabereki.
Vana vezera iri vanotambudzikawo kuti vaite zvinhu pachavo, vane kuchinja kukuru mumanzwiro, uye kazhinji vane nguva yakaoma yekuwana pamwe nevamwe vana. Mwana ane makore maviri anodawo kutarisirwa nguva dzose, kuti kusava nehanya kwake kunokonzera dambudziko.
Kufambira mberi kusvika kune makore manomwe uye iwe uchaona kuti mwana ava kunyatsoziva pakuita zvinhu zvakasununguka uye zvichida anozvikudza pamusoro pezvinhu zvakadaro. Munguva yepakati pehuduku, vana vanove vakakwanisa uye vane chivimbo. Vabereki vanotanga kuisa kuvimba mumwana, vachimubvumira kutora mabasa ezuva nezuva sekusarudza zvipfeko zvake uye kugadzira kudya kwake kwekudya. Ushamwari hwemhuri huchiri hunokosha, asi vana vari kunyanya kuderera panguva ino. Kusiyana nemakore akwegura, apo kuparadzana kwevabereki kunowanzoita kuti zvive zvakakodzera kuchema, vana-kuchikoro-vana vanowanzoenda kuchikoro vakanyarara uye pasina mharidzo yakawanda. Panguva yemasikati, vana vanobvumirana nekubudirira nevezera ravo uye vanoteerera mudzidzisi uye vanotevera mazano.
Kunyange zvazvo kukura kwepfungwa kunobatanidzwawo basa rinokosha mukufambira mberi uku, huwandu hwakawanda hwehutano uye hwepfungwa hunowanikwawo pakati pehucheche hwehuduku. Sezvo vana vachitanga chikoro, nyika yavo yehupfumi inova yakawanda zvikuru. Apo vazhinji vekushandurana kwavo kwepakati pekugarisana kwaive zvikurukuru nemhuri, kuiswa kwechikoro kunovhura nyika itsva yose yehukama nevamwe vanhu.
Izvi zvinopa vana mari yakawanda uye yakadzika dzimba dzehupenyu hwehupenyu nevanhu vose vanoziva uye vasina kujaira.
The Developing Social Self
Sezvo vana vachipinda kuchikoro, vanotanga kubhadhara zvikuru kune avo vakavapoteredza. Sezvo vachicherechedza vamwe vanhu kakawanda, vanotanga kuzvienzanisa nevezera ravo. Kuzvifunga kunokura zvishoma nezvishoma muhuduku, kutanga mumakore ekutanga sezvo vana vanoziva kuti ivo vanozvimiririra uye vanofambira mberi pakunzwisisa zvakasimba kuti ndivanaani uye chii chavanoda. Pakati pepachikoro chesekondari, vana vanotangawo kukudziridza pfungwa iri nani yekuti vanoenderana sei mune zvemagariro avo.
Mumakore mashomanana okutanga echikoro chepuraimari, vana vanowanzova nemafungiro evanhu pachavo. Vanowanzowedzera mano avo ega kuita zvimwe zviito zvakadai sokuverenga kune zana, kubhururuka netambo zvakakwana, kana kukunda mujaho kurwisana naye waunodzidza naye. Kuwana unyanzvi huzhinji hwehutano hwepamusoro ndiyo imwe nzira inokosha yekuvandudza pfungwa yekuzviremekedza . Nokuita mutambo, vana vanotanga kuvandudza unyanzvi hwavo uye vanove vakachenjera uye vachiita mamwe mabasa nemabasa.
Vana vanotanga kutarisa kuti vezera ravo vanoita sei izvozvi mabasa uye kazhinji vanozvienzanisa nevamwe.
Mwana wechikwereti wechitatu anozviona kuti ari kumhanyira angasuruvara kana mumwe mukomana ari mukirasi yake achimurova munhangemutange munguva yekudzoka. Izvi kuziva kuti haasi iye akakunda kana kuti anokurumidza kumhanyira angave nemigumisiro yehupenyu hwake hwose. Sezvaanokura, mukomana achazotanga kusimbisa zvakanyanya pazvinhu zvinokosha kwaari. Kana kumhanya kuchiri kukosha, anogona kutanga kuedza kuitira kuti avandudze unyanzvi hwake. Kana kuti, angaona kuti iye ari mutambi wemutambo ari nani, saka kuva mumhanyi unokurumidza kusakosha zvakare.
Kugadzira Ushamwari Mumhuri Yechiripakati
Nekuwedzera kwenyika yehupfumi kunouya kuiswa kweshamwari.
Ushamwari hunova hunokosha zvikuru mumakore ose epakati nepakati. Kunyange vana vane huchenjeri hunovimba nevabereki vavo uye vanonakidzwa nekupedza nguva nevanin'ina vavo, vanowedzerawo kufarira kuvaka ukama nevamwe vanhu kunze kwemhuri. Kudzidza kuita nekuchengetedza ushamwari chinhu chinokosha chekugadzirisa kwekutanga panguva ino. Zvinhu zvishoma zvinogona kuita kuti mubereki ave nemwoyo yakawanda kupfuura kutarisa mwana wako achioma kuti awane shamwari kana kurwisana nekurambwa kwevanhu kana kunyadzisa kunobva kune vamwe vana. Nenzira, kune zvinhu izvo vabereki vanogona kuita kuti vave nechokwadi chokuti mwana wavo ari kuwana ruzivo rwemagariro evanhu avo vanoda kubudirira kuchikoro uye gare gare muupenyu.
Munguva yemakore ekutanga ehuduku, vana vanotadza kusaisa pfungwa dzakawanda mukusarudza kana kuita shamwari. Muzviitiko zvizhinji, kusarudzwa kwavo kwevamwe vatambi vari mumakore aya ekutanga inowanzova nyaya yekuswedera pedyo. Vamwe vana vari munzvimbo imwechete panguva imwe chete. Sezvo chero mubereki kana mudzidzisi anokwanisa kupupurira, kukakavadzana kunowanzovhiringidza muhuduku kubvira vana vaduku vachiwanzove vasina ruzivo rwemagariro evanhu sekugovana, kuteerera, kushivirira, uye kubatana.
Sezvo vana vachipinda muchikoro, vanonyanya kusarudza pamusoro pevaya vanosarudza sevamwe shamwari. Sezvo vana vachizvienzanisa nevamwe, vanotangawo kutonga pamusoro pevamwe vana. Zvinoshamisa kuti, zvakadaro, vatsvakurudzi vakaona kuti vana vanoita sevanonoka kuita zvisarudzo zvisina kunaka pamusoro pevamwe vana. Kunyange zvazvo vanhu vakuru vachikurumidza kutaura kuti "vana vanogona kuva vane utsinye," vana vakawanda vane pfungwa dzakawanda pamusoro pevadzidzi vavo.
Vana vanoita, zvisinei, vanotanga kutora maitiro evamwe vana uye vanoita zvisarudzo pamusoro pevana vavanoda kuva shamwari navo. Vamwe vana vanogona kukurudzirana kune vamwe nokuti vanogoverana kufarira mumabasa akafanana nemitambo kana mitambo yemavhidhiyo. Vamwe vana vangave vachiswededzwa kune dzimwe shamwari neshoko rekuti vari kubuda sei, kuti vanopfeka sei, kana kuti vanobatana navo vari mumapoka. Munguva ino, vana vanosarudza kushamwaridzana avo vane mutsa uye vanogara, uye zvimwe vanobuda. Vanowanzodzivisa vana vane kunyara kana kunyanyisa.
Kunyange zvazvo vabereki vangave vasina zvakawanda zvavanotaura pamusoro pekuti ndiani wavo ari shamwari neshamwari sezvavakaita pavakanga vachiri vaduku, pane zvimwe zvinhu izvo vanhu vakuru vanogona kuita kuti vatungamirire vana kune shamwari dzinofara uye dzine utano. Vabereki vanogona kutanga nekukurudzira mwana wavo kuti ataure kune vamwe vana asi vadzivisa kuva pushy. Kana mwana achiita seanofarira kungoita chete neshamwari imwe yepamusoro, vabereki vanogona kufunga kubatanidza mwana kuti apedze pamwe nevamwe vana zvakare. Chikoro chikamu chikuru chekuita shamwari, asi kupinda mumabasa kunze kwechikoro sekutamba softball kana kutora zvidzidzo zvekudhika zvinopa mimwe mikana yekuvandudza hukama hwakanaka hwehukama.
Ushamwari hwakanaka hunozivikanwa nekubatana, mutsa, kuvimba, nekuremekedzana. Saka vabereki vanofanira kuitei kana mwana wavo achiita kunge ari muushamwari husina kunaka? Kuyeuka kuti ushamwari hwose hune hutsika uye hunosimba hunogona kubatsira. Nguva inokakavadzana kana kukakavadzana hakusi chiratidzo chekuti ukama hunoparadza kana husina kunaka. Kana, zvakadaro, ushamwari hunova chinhu chinokonzera kushungurudzika kana kufunganya, saka inguva yekuita chimwe chinhu. Vabereki vanofanira kutanga nokutaura nemwana wavo uye vachimukurudzira kugoverana manzwiro ake neshamwari. Vakuru vanofanirwawo kubatsira vana kunzwisisa kukosha kwokufamba kubva mumamiriro ezvinhu, kunyanya kana shamwari iri kukuvadza mumuviri kana mupfungwa. Pakupedzisira, vabereki nevamwe vanhu vakuru vanogona kuedza kusimbisa kure pakati pemwana neshamwari. Somuenzaniso, mudzidzisi angasarudza kuisa vana vari kurwisana kunze kweumwe.