Mibvunzo yekutevera inokosha chikamu chekutaurirana. Pasina mhinduro-mibvunzo, iwe nehurukuro yako yevamwe uchapedza kubvunza uye kupindura kune mimwe mibvunzo isina kutaurirana zvakadzama pamusoro pehurukuro chaiyo-iyo ichanzwa isinganzwisisiki .Mibvunzo inotevera inoita kuti hurukuro iende mberi uye inobvumira kutsanangurwa uye kujekesa kwemashoko.
Zvisinei, kana iwe uchitambura nehutano hwehutano hwevanhu, uchibvunza mibvunzo yekutevera-kana kunyange kuita hurukuro shomanana munzvimbo yekutanga unganzwa uchinetseka-kana kuora mwoyo kunokonzera kushungurudza. Paunenge uchishanda pamusana pekushungurudzika kwako nehutano ne rubatsiro rwekurapa, shandisa mazano pasi apa kuti ushandise zvakare paunyanzvi hwako hwekutaura. Kuva neruwandu rwemhando yemibvunzo yandichakupa iwe chivimbo uye kubatsira kubatsira kuderedza kushungurudzika kwevanhu munofunga.
Matanho ekukumbira Mibvunzo Inotevera
Hurukuro huru inotanga nekukurukurirana pamusoro pezvinhu zvakadai semamiriro okunze, mhuri, basa, zvinokuvaraidza, nezvimwe zvinodiwa. Kune nzira mbiri dzekuti mumwe munhu ataure: nekubvunza hongu / kwete kana mibvunzo yakasununguka.
Hungu / Kwete Mibvunzo
Hongu / kwete mibvunzo inoda chete hongu kana kuti kwete mhinduro kubva pane zvamunotaura naye. Iyi mibvunzo inowanzotanga nemashoko akadai seokuti ",," "," ",", "", "" akaita, "" ita, "nezvimwewo.
- "Wakatarisa nguva yekuguma kweMupukutu usiku huno?"
- "Iwe unoenda kuchechi musi weSvondo here?"
- "Unoda kufamba here?"
Mibvunzo Yakasvinudzwa
Zviri pachena kuti iwe unogona kuona kuti dzimwe dzemibvunzo yepamusoro yei yei / kwete ingatungamirira mukukurukurirana. Zvisinei, iwe unogonawo kutungamirira shamwari yako zvakadzika mumusoro nekubvunza mibvunzo inotora tsanangudzo yakawanda. Iyi mibvunzo inotora fomu yakasiyana, kutanga nemashoko akadai se "sei," "sei," "chii," uye "kupi."
- "Iwe unobata vanaani?"
- "Unoitei kuti ufare pamusi wevhiki?"
- "Iwe unofarira sei kuva wekambani?"
Pasinei nokuti unotanga hurukuro duku nekubvunza mibvunzo yekuti hongu / kwete kana mibvunzo yakasununguka, unoda kubvunza mibvunzo yekutevera kuti uwedzere hurukuro.
Mibvunzo Inotevera
Kana shamwari yako yehurukuro inopindura kuti iyo yakatarisa Ruponeso (kana chero imwe yeratidzwa) usiku hwakatangira, tevera nemubvunzo kuti uwane mamwe mashoko akadai seaya anotevera:
- "Wakafunga nezvei zvakaitika kumakurukota emadzinza?" kana
- "Iwe unofunga kuti chii chichakunda?"
Zvakanakisisa kusarudza nheyo yaunonyatsoziva pamusoro payo, kuitira kuti iwe unogona kutevera mhinduro yemumwe munhu nemuongorori wako.
Kana munhu wacho achipindura mubvunzo wakazaruka nokutaura kuti ane hanzvadzi imwe, zvimwe zvingave zvinogona kutevera zvinogona kusanganisira zvinotevera:
- "Anogara kupi?"
- "Anoitei?"
- "Unoona kakawanda sei?"
Paunofunga nezvekutevera mibvunzo, mazwi anotevera anotevera anogona kushandiswa kuvaka:
- Ndiani?
- Chii?
- Sei?
- Sei?
- Kupi?
- When?
- Zvinoreva?
- Uye?
Kana uchinge uine tsika yekubvunza mibvunzo yekutevera, ichava nyore kuvaita panguva yekukurukurirana. Yeuka, zvakadaro, kugara uchinyatsoteerera kune izvo mumwe munhu ataura.
Ingogadzirisa mubvunzo wako kana munhu wacho apedza kutaura, nokuti izvo zvaanotaura zvinogona kuchinja zvaunokumbira zvakare.
Imwe nzira yekuita izvi ndeyokuita nekunyatsoteerera kuteerera, umo iwe unoteerera sekunge iwe ungadikanwa kutsanangura izvo munhu wacho ari kutaura kune mumwe munhu. Kana chimwe chinhu chisingaiti chinonzwisisika kana iwe usingazvinzwisisi, bvunza kutsanangurira.
Kuverenga Pakati PeMigwagwa Nokutevera Mibvunzo
Dzimwe nguva pahurukuro, mumwe munhu achakupa zviduku zviduku zvinoratidzira pane zvaanoda kuti iwe ubvunze pamusoro pekuzotevera. Munhu angataura chimwe chinhu chakadai sekuti "Ndave ndakashanda semudzimai, asi handinyatsozivi kuti ndezvenguva yakareba sei."
Muchiitiko ichi, funga kubvunza mibvunzo yekutevera inokubatsira kuti ujekese izvo mumwe munhu ari kufunga, zvakadai sekuti "Unorevei nezvazvo?" kana kuti "Sei iwe uchifunga izvozvo?" Shandisa izvi kana iwe uchinzwa kudiwa kwekunzwisisa pfungwa yemumwe munhu kana kuti vari kunzwa sei pamusoro pehurukuro chaiyo. Izvi zvinonyanya kubatsira kana munhu wacho akanganisa pfungwa pamusoro pezvinoreva zvakadzama kupfuura mazwi chaiwo iye ari kutaura.
Dzimwe Mazano Okutevera-Mibvunzo
- Ratidza kufarira uye kukurudzira mumwe munhu kuti ataure achinyemwerera uye achikudzunga panguva yekukurukurirana.
- Zvinenge zviri nyore kubvunza hongu / kwete uye nekutevera mibvunzo kana iwe uchiramba uchitaura nezvemashoko, varaidzo, uye zviitiko zvemitambo.
- Kana pasina chikonzero chekutevera, uye mumwe munhu achiri kutaura, zvinyorwa zvinopindirana zvakadai se "Nditaurire zvakawanda" kana kuti "Inonakidza" kukurudzira mumwe munhu.
- Kana mumwe munhu anotsanangura chimwe chinhu chaanoda , zvakadai sekufa kwemazuva ano mumhuri kana kurambana, shandisa tsitsi uye kutsigirwa pane kungokumbira mamwe mashoko, kunze kwekuti iwe uchiziva munhu wacho zvakanaka. Munhu iyeye angangoda kutsanangurira mamiriro ake ezvinhu kuitira kuti uzive chikonzero nei asingaiti saiye pachake. Siyai kwaari kuti asarudze kuti vangagovana zvakadini.
- Usakurumidza kupindira mukati kana pane kunyarara. Rega mumwe munhu nguva kuti apindure uye usapindira.
Zvechokwadi Inofarira
Paunotanga kugadzira hurukuro duku, ungangodaro uri kuedza kuzviita iwe uye mumwe munhu ari nyore. Ndiko apo pane kazhinji inokurumidzira shure uye yakabuda ye "hongu" uye "kwete" mhando dzemibvunzo.
Ndiko paunotanga kuva nehanya zvechokwadi kune izvo mumwe munhu anotaura kuti iyo hurukuro inotora hupenyu huri yoga. Saka-funga zvishoma nezvekuwana tsanangudzo yekubvunza mibvunzo yekutevera, uye nezvimwe pakuva nehanya zvechokwadi kune mumwe munhu.
Shoko Rinobva
Shandisa mazano aya paunoona uchida kuita hurukuro duku nemunhu wausingazivi kana mumwe munhu wausingazivi. Yeuka, kunyange zvazvo iwe pachako-kuzvidya mwoyo iwe pachako kunogona kutsvaka kukwana-izvi hazvifaniri kuva chinangwa chako. Pane kudaro, fungidzira chinangwa chako chekupedzisira chekuita shamwari itsva uye kuona mubvunzo-uye-mhinduro hurongwa sechinhu chinokosha pakuvaka ushamwari ihwohwo.
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> Northeastern University. Unyanzvi hweAmerican Small Talk .
> Shyness Research Institute. Nzira Yokuita Nayo Kubudirira Duku Kutaura.
> UT Health San Antonio. 12 Mazano Maitiro Aungaita Duku Kuduku .