Munguva yakapfuura, kwakave nekukakavara kukuru kwakapoteredza kuongorora kwesayenzi rwerudo. Vanhu vakawanda vanoona rudo sevanoshamisa uye vasingazivikanwi. Pano pane mibvunzo mina yakawanda pamusoro pebasa rerudo mune zvepfungwa.
1. Kudzidza kworudo kwakasiyana sei nedzimwe nyaya?
Mumakore ekuma1970, Senator weUnited States ainzi William Proxmire akapa chiremba wepfungwa Elaine Hatfield zvaakadana kuti "Golden Fleece Award." Chaizvoizvo, akamupomera mhosva yokuderedza mutero wemadhora pamutsva pasina rubatsiro rwe rudo.
Panguva iyoyo, vanhu vakawanda vakabvumirana naye.
Kubva ipapo, kutsvakurudza pamusoro rudo kwakabatsira kuchinja maonero atinoita kuvabereki, dzidzo, nekukura kwevana . Kune zvakawanda zvakasiyana-siyana mukuratidza rudo rudo. Harry Harlow akazivikanwa zvikuru nekuedza kushandiswa kunorega kusangana nemonke mhuka dzeshamwari dzevanhu, izvo zvakaratidza kuti kusuruvara kwe rudo kunogona kuve kukurudzirwa kwezvakanaka. Nhasi, vazhinji vanoda vatsvakurudzi vanoshandisa pachedzo-mhinduro yekuongorora kuunganidza ruzivo pamusoro pemafungiro, maonero, uye maitiro kune rudo.
2. Munguva yose, vanyori vepfungwa vanouya nemhando dzakasiyana dzorudo. Pane imwe iyo ikozvino yakabvumirana kune vamwe here?
Zvichida muenzaniso unozivikanwa zvikuru nhasi iSternberg's Triangular Theory of Love. Chikonzero chikonzero ichi chinonyanya kukoshesa ndechekuti inosanganisa zvizhinji zvezvinhu zvinowanika munyaya dzepakutanga dze rudo . Maererano neSternberg, pane zvinhu zvitatu zvinokosha zve rudo: kushamwaridzana, kuda, nekuzvipira.
Ukama hwakavakirwa pane chimwe chete chezvinhu izvi zvinowanzoonekwa sechine simba, asi imwe yakavakwa pazvinhu maviri kana kupfuura zvinowedzera. Semuenzaniso, kusanganiswa kwechishuwo uye ukama hwepedyo ndiyo iyo Sternberg inotaura se " rudo rukuru ." Kubatanidzwa kwehukama hwepedyo, chido, nekuzvipira mafomu izvo zvinozivikanwa se "rudo rwekudya."
3. Pane zviongorori zvenguva ichangobatanidza zvisungo pakati pevana ne rudo rwevabereki kune umwe neumwe kune rudo rwevanhu vakuru kune mumwe wavo here?
Ehe. Pakave nekutsvakurudza kwakanyanya munzvimbo ino munguva pfupi. Kutenda kwechimiro kwakaratidza kuti apo ukama-mubereki hukama huchishanda senheyo inokosha yehukama hwehupenyu hwemamangwana, hukama hwepakutanga pakati pevabereki nevana hahurereizvo kureva kuti munhu achaita sei muhukama semunhu mukuru. Zvisinei, kumwe kutsvaga kutsvaga kwakaratidza kuti kubatana pakati pehukama hwedu hwepakutanga uye hukama hwevanhu vakuru hungave hwakasimba kupfuura hwakambofungidzirwa.
Ongororo dzakawanda dzakaratidza kuti vanhu vanoonekwa sevanonyatsobatanidzwa muhucheche vanokura kuti vave nehutano uye kwenguva refu yehukama hwevanhu vakuru. Zvisinei, kutsvakurudza kwakave kwakaratidzawo kuti vanhu vanogona kukunda kushamwaridzana kusina kunaka muhuduku kuti vave nehukama hwakanaka hwehukama sevanhu vakuru.
4. Dzimwe nguva vanhu vanoda rubatsiro norudo, kana nokuona mumwe chiremba achikurukurirana matambudziko avo kana kuti kurapwa nekuora mwoyo kana zvimwe zvirwere zvepfungwa?
Chimwe chezviongorori zvakajairika zvakapiwa navanachiremba uye vanachiremba zvinonzi "Global Assessment yekushanda." Iyi kuongororwa yakagadzirirwa kutarisa zvinhu zvose zvehupenyu hwomunhu kuitira kuti aone kuti munhu ari kushanda sei.
Rudo runowira pasi pemaambura ekugarisana kwevanhu. Zvinetso nerudo uye ukama hukama hunogona kuva chiratidzo chezvinetso zvikuru, saka vashandi vakawanda vanotora mashoko aya zvakanyanyisa. Vanachiremba vakawanda uye vanodzidza nezvepfungwa vanobvumirana kuti kunetseka nehukama hwehukama hunoita sehutano hwakanyanya hunoda humwe rudzi rwekupindira.
Imwe nzira yerapi iyo inoshandiswa kubatsira nematambudziko akasiyana-siyana akafanana nerudo rukuru rwehutano, runotarisa pazvibatanidza uye kugadzirisa zvinetso nehukama hwehukama. Iro chirongwa chechinguva chiduku chinoenderana nekutenda uko kunotarisana nehupenyu hwehupenyu hwedu kunogona kuratidzira muhutano hwepfungwa uye zviratidzo zvakadai sekuora mwoyo.
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