Mhuri yacho inobatwa sei nemuganhu wehutano hwezvirwere zvirwere? Borderline person disorder (BPD) inoparadza hutano hwemupfungwa huri kungoita munhu ane BPD . Inobatanidzawo munhu wese wavanogovana naye ukama naye, kusanganisira shamwari, mhuri, uye shamwari dzepabonde.
Sezvo kune nyaya dzakawanda dzemhuri dzinopindira zvakananga nemuganhu wevanhu zviratidzo uye maitiro , mhuri yose yemunhu ane unhu hwemiganhu inogona kutambura.
Izvi ndezvimwe zvezvinowanikwa zvakanyanya zveBPD mumhuri uye kuti ungawana sei rubatsiro semhuri.
Kushungurudzika
Kuona munhu waunoda neBPD kutambura uye kubata nehukama hwakaoma zviratidzo zveBPD zvinomanikidzira zvikuru kune nhengo dzemhuri. Nhengo dzemhuri dzinowanzofunga kuti dzisingabatsiri kana dzichitarisa mudiwa wavo neBPD dzichiita zvinhu zvinokuvadza. Izvi zvingave zvakanyanya kuve chokwadi kuvabereki kana kuchengetedza vechidiki vari neBPD , avo vanogona kunge vakaita sevasina kudzora.
Mukuwedzera kune kusingaperi kushungurudzika kwekutarisira munhu waunoda neBPD, nhengo dzakawanda dzemhuri yeBPD dzichava nedambudziko rakaoma repfungwa nekuda kwemamwe maitiro akaipisisa anowanikwa neBPD. Semuenzaniso, vanhu vazhinji vane BPD vanozvibata mukuzvivaraidza , sekucheka kana kupisa. Maitiro aya anogona kuve akaoma zvikuru zvokuti anogona kutungamirira kukurumidza kufa. Mukuwedzera, vanhu vane BPD vane huwandu hwekuzviuraya .
Nhengo dzemhuri dzinowanzotarisirwa kutarisa maitiro akaipisisa (semuenzaniso, kutyaira mudiwa wavo kuchivanze chekukurumidzira mushure mekuedza kuzviuraya) uye inogona kukuvara mupfungwa (iyo inogona, mumatambudziko akaoma, inotungamirira kune zvinetso zvakadai sekugadzirisa matambudziko stress disorder).
Mhosva uye Mutoro
Nhengo dzakawanda dzemhuri dzevanhu vane BPD dzinorondedzera matambudziko akaoma nemanzwiro ekutadza.
Kutsvakurudza pamusoro pezvikonzero zvinokonzera BPD zvinoratidza kuti kubatwa zvisina kunaka kwevana nenzira yekutsvaga kana kukanganisa kungave kwakabatana nekuvandudzwa kweBPD. Panewo humwe uchapupu hwomunhu ane simba maitiro . Izvi zvinowanzoita kuti nhengo dzakawanda dzemhuri, kunyanya vabereki, dzizvipe mhosva kana kuti dzinzwe dziine mhaka, kunyange kana kukura kweBPD yavo yavanoda kwaiva kunze kwekutonga kwavo.
Pamwe nekunetseka kwemukati pamusoro pemutoro wekusimbiswa kweBPD, nhengo dzakawanda dzemhuri dzakaoma nguva yakareba kuziva kuti vane mutoro wei kune avo vadiwa vavo kuti vadzoke kubva kuBPD. Dzimwe mhuri dzinoedza kutsigira asi dzinonetseka kuti kana dzikatsigirawo dzichapa mubayiro humwe hutsika hwehutano hweBPD, hwakadai sokuzvivaraidza. Vamwe vanoda kutsigira asi vanonzwa vakatsamwira munhu ane BPD pamusoro pemafambiro avo. Pakupedzisira, vamwe vane dambudziko rekusigira nekuda kwezvavanoda matambudziko epfungwa. Somuenzaniso, nokuti BPD inowanzomhanya mumhuri, vamwe vanhu mumhuri vanogona kunge vane BPD.
Kurwisana pakati peBPD Family uye Mental Health System
Kushushikana kwekutarisana nemudiwa weBPD anodiwa kunowedzera nekunetseka kwekutarisira kurapa kwavo. Kazhinji, vanachiremba vanotenderera kumhuri yeBPD kuti vabatsire kuronga kurapa kwemhuri, iyo inogona kusanganisira vazhinji vanopa mauto uye mapoka uye maitiro akawanda akasiyana-siyana ekutarisira (kusanganisira kurapwa kwepanyama uye nguva dzese dzisina kukwana kana kuti chirwere chepachipatara chisingaiti ).
Nhengo dzemhuri dzinogona kudanwa kuti dzione kuchinja kwehupenyu hwemudiwa (semuenzaniso, ndiyo mafungiro avo pasi pemazuva ose kana kuti ivo vakamira kutora mishonga yavo sezvazvakatemerwa here?), Kupai kutakura kune vakasarudzwa kana kurongedza kutsvaga nzira itsva dzokurapa. Kukurukurirana zvinhu izvi uye hurongwa hutano hwehutano hwepfungwa haisi basa rakanyanya uye unogona kuisa mutoro kune imwe yakasimbiswa yemhuri yeBPD.
Migumisiro Yakakura yeBPD
Zvinosuruvarisa, kushungurudzika, kushungurudza uye nyaya dzekutsigira zvakabatanidzwa nekuva nemunhu ane BPD mumhuri inogona kuva nemigumisiro kune vose vari pedyo nekuwedzerwa mhuri.
Vabereki vevechiri kuyaruka uye vanhu vakuru vane BPD vanotsanangura kushungurudzika kwakanyanya kwekutarisira mwana neBPD kunogona kutaurira muukama hwewanano. Hazvisi zvisinganzwisisiki kune iri dambudziko rekutambudzika kunotungamirira kumatambudziko muwanano uye kunyange kuparadzana kana kurambana.
Mukuwedzera, vana vomumba vanobatwa nenzira dzakawanda. Vamwe vanin'ina vanogona kutorwawo kune basa rekuchengetedza, asi vamwe vanogona kurega kubva kumhuri kuti vazvidzivirire ivo (kana mhuri dzavo, vana, nezvimwewo) kana kuti kudzivisa kushungurudzika kunobatanidzwa pakuva neukama hwepedyo ne mumwe munhu ane BPD.
Mhuri yakawedzerwa inogonawo kugadziriswa; vanasekuru naambuya, vanamainini, vanamunini uye dzimwe hama dziri chikamu chekuchengetedza mhuri yeBPD, uye vanogonawo kunzwa kunetseka kwekutarisira munhu ane BPD.
Rubatsiro rweBPD Family
Hazvisi nyore nguva dzose kune vadiwa kuti vawane rubatsiro uye rubatsiro rwavanofanira kutarisira nhengo yemhuri yavo neBPD . Kana iwe ukazvipira kuwana rubatsiro, kunyange zvakadaro, pane zvingasarudzwa uye zvishandiswa zviripo.
Kutanga, kana iwe uchifungidzira kuti mudiwa wako ane BPD, uye ivo vasati vava kurapwa, unogona kuvakurudzira kuwana rubatsiro rwavanoda. BPD chirwere chepfungwa chakakomba chinoda rubatsiro rwevashandi; iwe haugone kubatsira mubatsiri wako oga.
Iko kunewo zvigadzirwa zvinowanikwa zvakakwana kune nhengo dzemhuri. Somuenzaniso, National Alliance for Borderline Personality Disorder (NEA-BPD) inopa Family Connections Program yose muUnited States. Iyi purogiramu yekirasi yevhiki-12 yakagadzirirwa kupa dzidzo, unyanzvi hwokudzidziswa uye kutsigirwa kune nhengo dzemhuri dzevanhu vane BPD. Kuti udzidze zvakawanda pamusoro pegurogiramu, shanyira Family Connections peji yewebhu ye NEA-BPD.
Kunobva:
Giffin J. Family Chiitiko cheBorderline Personality Disorder. Australian neNew Zealand Journal of Family Therapy . 29: 133-138, 2008.