Kunyatsoteerera ndezvekuteerera nekunyatsotarisa apo mumwe munhu anotaura, kupfupisa uye kuratidza kumashure kwezvakataurwa, nekudzivisa kutonga uye mazano.
Kunyatsoteerera kunosanganisira zvinopfuura kungonzwa izvo mumwe munhu anotaura. Paunenge uchinyatsoteerera, iwe uri kuita izvo zvinotaurwa nomumwe munhu pasina kupa mazano kana kutonga.
Chinonyanya kukosha chekuteerera kushingaira chiri kuratidza kumashure izvo zvinotaurwa nemukurukuri.
Aya matanho anotevera achakubatsira iwe kuti uve munyatsoteereri anoteerera:
Ita ziso uchiona apo mumwe munhu anotaura. Kazhinji, iwe unofanirwa kuve nechinangwa chekutarisa maziso pamusoro pe 60-70% yenguva yaunoteerera. Tenderera kune mumwe munhu, uye unodzungudza musoro wako pane imwe nguva. Dzivisa kupeta maoko ako sezvo izvi zvinoratidza kuti haunoteereri.
Panzvimbo pokupa mazano asina kubvunzwa kana maonero, zvinongorondedzera zvakataurwa. Unogona kutanga izvi nokuti "Nemamwe mazwi, zvauri kutaura nde ...".
Usapindira apo mumwe munhu arikutaura. Usagadzirira mhinduro yako apo mumwe munhu anotaura; chinhu chokupedzisira chaanotaura chingashandura zvinoreva izvo zvaatotaura kare.
Mukuwedzera pakuteerera kune zvakataurwa, tarisa unhu husina maturo kuti utore pane zvinoreva zvakavanzika. Kutaridza chiso, inzwi rezwi uye mamwe maitiro anogona dzimwe nguva kukuudza kupfuura mashoko chete.
Paunenge uchiteerera, chengeta hurukuro yako yechipinda. Dzivisa zuva nezuva. Hazvibviri kunyatsoteerera kune mumwe munhu uye izwi rako romukati panguva imwechete.
Ratidza kufarira kuburikidza nekubvunza mibvunzo kuti ujekese zvinotaurwa. Bvunza mibvunzo yakasununguka kukurudzira mutauri. Dzivisa mibvunzo ye-ye-kana-isina yakavhara iyo inowanzovhara hurukuro.
Dzivisa pakarepo kuchinja nyaya yacho; zvichaita sokuti hauna kuteerera kune mumwe munhu.
Sezvaunoteerera, ivai vakasununguka, musapindira mune zvematongerwe enyika, uye musarega kutonga uye kusagadzikana.
Mazano
- Iva nemoyo murefu apo iwe unoteerera. Isu tinokwanisa kuteerera zvakakurumidza kupfuura vamwe vanogona kutaura.
- Dzidza kubvuma kuteerera kwakasimba. Tarisa hurukuro yevhevhizheni uye ona kuti uyo anobvunzurudza ari kunyatsoteerera. Dzidza kubva pamakanganiso evamwe.
Muenzaniso weKuteerera Kushanda
Mumuenzaniso unotevera wekukurukurirana kwefoni, uchaona kuti kuteerera kwakasimba kunoita kuti mukurukuri anzwe akanzwika uye anokurudzira kukurukura.
Lisa: Hi Jodie ... Ndine urombo zvikuru kurasa izvi kwauri, asi ndakarwa nehanzvadzi yangu uye hatina kutaura kubva ipapo. Ndiri kungonzwa ndichitsamwa chaizvo.
Jodie: Hi Lisa ... zvakanaka, hapana chinetso. Saka iwe wakanga uchirwa uye imi varume hamuna kutaura?
Lisa: Hungu .... taive nekukakavara nokuti ndaida kuti aende kunzvimbo yedu kwemazororo asi akati yakanga yakaoma zvikuru nevana muzvigunwe. Ndakanga ndatsamwa panguva iyoyo, asi iye zvino ndinonzwa svenhema.
Jodie: Ndinokunzwa ... iwe wakanga uchikakavadzana ndokuita kuti iwe upeswe, asi zvino unonzwa wakashata nezvazvo.
Lisa: Hungu, anonditadzisa, ndichifunga kuti nokuti handina vana ini handigoni kunzwisisa kuti chii.
Ndaiziva kuti zvaizova zvakaoma kwaari, asi ndakafunga kuti aizoda kupedza mazororo panzvimbo yedu chero zvakadaro. Hatigoni kubvumirana zvachose.
Jodie: Inonzwika sokuti iwe wakanga wakatsamwa nokuti akanga achiita zvido uye haanawo kuedza kuedza kukuona iwe.
Lisa: Zvakakwana. Zvichida ndinofanira kungomuudzazve kuti ndinonzwisisa zvakaoma, asi kuti ndinotarisira kuti anogona kuuya. Kana kuti zvimwe vangangosvika zuva racho panzvimbo pokugara usiku hwose. Handidi kukakavadzana naye zvakare.
Jodie: Saka ... zvichida iwe uchataura naye uye unomuudza iwe unonzwisisa manzwiro ake ... uye kushanya kwezuva kungave kusina kunaka?
Lisa: Hongu, ndizvo zvandinofunga kuti ndichaita. Ndatenda! Ndinonzwa zvakanaka zvikuru sezvo ndine mukana wekugovana zvandainzwa.
Tsvakurudzo paKuteerera Kwekuteerera
Mune chidzidzo che2011, Gearhart naBodie vakaona kuti kunyatsoteerera kwakanyanya kunosanganiswa nemashoko ehutano hwemagariro kwete pane unyanzvi husingazivi , zvichiratidza kuti kuva munoteereri anoteerera kune zvakawanda zvinoenderana nekuva anoshanda anongorarisana naye panzvimbo yekugona kukwanisa kutaurirana kusingabatsiri uye kutaurirana kwepfungwa .
Izvi zvinorevei kana iwe uchitambudzika nekunetseka kwevanhu ?
Vanhu avo vari kushingaira uye vanonzwisisa vateereri zvakanaka pakutanga nekuchengetedza kukurukurirana. Kana iwe uchikudziridza unyanzvi hwako hwokuteerera, iwe uchavandudza mano ako ekukurukurirana-zvisinei, usatarisira izvozvo kuti ubatsire kuderedza zviratidzo zvekuzvidya mwoyo iwe unowanzonzwa. Iwe uchada kugadzirisa kuzvidya mwoyo kwako pachako, kuburikidza nekurapa kana imwe nzira yekurapa, kuitira kuti unyanzvi hwako hwekuteerera huve hunovhenekera kuburikidza.
Kunobva:
Gearhart CC, Bodie GD. Kushanda-Empathic Kuteerera seChidzo Chekugara Kwevanhu: Uchapupu Kubva Bivariate uye Canonical Correlations. Reports Reports 2011; 24: 86-98.
Pennsylvania State University. Kunyatsoteerera Kuteerera.