Nhaurirano hurukuro nyaya ndiyo yakanakisisa yekukurukurirana pakati pevanhu vasingazivi mumwe nemumwe. Kana iwe uchirarama nehutano hwehutano hwevanhu (SAD) , kugadzira hurukuro duku kungakonzera kushungurudza. Kudzidza kugadzira hurukuro duku kunogona kubatsira kuvaka chivimbo chako kuitira kuti iwe utange kutanga kukurukurirana, kuyanana, uye kukudziridza unyanzvi hwako hwemagariro evanhu.
Imwe nzira yakanaka yekuderedza kuzvidya mwoyo ndeyokugadzirira mhando dzemisoro dzinogona kuuya. Kuita hurukuro duku hakurevi kungoziva chete zvokutaura, asiwo izvo zvakanakisisa zvakachengetedzwa pachedu. Panguva imwe chete, zvakakosha kukunda chido chako chekudzivisa zvachose. Pane kungotya kutaura zviduku, ita pfungwa yekukunda kutya kwako.
1 - Best: Weather
Kunyangwe kutaura pamusoro pemamiriro ekunze kungaratidzika kusina maturo, inyaya yakanaka isina neutachiona iyo munhu wose anogona kukurukura. Ko dutu guru rakaputika here? Iwe uri pakati pekupisa? Usatarisa kunze kwekunze kwemukova wako kune mamwe mafambiro akanaka.
Pasi pane mamwe mazano ekutanga kukurukurirana unogona kushandisa:
- "Zuva rakanaka, haufungi here?"
- "Zvinotarisa semvura iri mumamiriro ezvinhu."
- "Wakarayira here ino mamiriro okunze akanaka?"
Dzidzira kugadzira hurukuro duku pamusoro pemamiriro okunze nekukumbira mumwe wemibvunzo iyi panguva inotevera paunozviwana uri pakati pekunzwa kusina kunaka.
2 - Best: Arts and Entertainment
Masikirwo uye varaidzo zvinowanzoita vatambi vekutamba zvakanaka zvinosanganisira
- mafirimu nemitambo yeTV
- nzvimbo dzokudyira dzakakurumbira
- mimhanzi yakakurumbira
- mabhuku
Kuti ugadzirire nyaya idzi, shandura pane zvinozivikanwa uye nguva dzose uri pakati pekuverenga bhuku rakanaka. Edzai kumubvunza mumwe munhu, "Wakamboona mafirimu akanaka munguva pfupi yapfuura here?" Iwe unogona kubvunza vanhu 10 usati wawana munhu anofarira kutaura newe-ndizvo zvakanaka. Ita zvakanaka nekurambwa, kana kuti kuitsvaga. Zvose zvinongoshanda, shure kwezvose.
3 - Zvakanakisisa: Mitambo
Nyaya dzemitambo yaunogona kukurukura nevamwe dzinosanganisira
- magamba anodiwa
- mitambo yemitambo
- tournaments
- bowl games
Chengetedza kuti ndeipi mitambo inowedzerwa panguva iyo nguva, dzakadai sebhola, bhora, hockey, uye gorofu, kuitira kuti iwe uri pamusoro pekuita kwezvino. Somuenzaniso, apo maOlympic ari kuitika, munhu wose ane chokwadi chekuzorora pamusoro pavo. Kana iwe usingadi mitambo, taura pamusoro pekuti nei usingadi.
Bvunza mumwe munhu, "Wakamboita mutambo uyu wegorofu mumavhiki ekupedzisira here?" Kunyange zvazvo izvi zvingave zvisinganzwisisiki nguva shomanana dzokuita iwe, pakupedzisira, zvinonzwa zvakanyanya kwauri.
4 - Zvakanakisisa: Nhau
Nzira huru yekugadzirira hurukuro duku ndeyokuverenga nhau mazuva ose. Ziva zviri kuitika munyika uye muguta rako. Kunyange zvazvo mapepanhau emapepa ari kuitika, nhau dze digital kana zvakananga kubva kune zvinyorwa zvemashoko kana kudyidzwa kuburikidza nehuwandu hwemagariro evanhu ave nzira dzinozivikanwa dzekuchengetedza ikozvino.
Pasi pane mamwe mazano ekukurukurirana kukurukurirana:
- Wakambonzwa nezvehotera idzva ravari kuvaka mudhorobha here?
- Iwe unofungei pamusoro pevadzidzisi vanoenda panhandare?
- Ndakaverenga kuti ivo vari kuenda kunokwira nhanho dzekutengesa, makazvinzwa here?
Yeuka kuti hurukuro shoma ndeyekuvaka bhiriji pakati pako nemumwe munhu. Hazvina hanya nezvaunotaura nezvazvo, asi pane kuti unotanga kutaura.
5 - Zvakanakisisa: Mhuri
Vanhu vanogona kukubvunza nezvemhuri yako. Kukurukurirana vanozarura nezvemhuri kunogona kusanganisira zvinotevera:
- "Une hama here kana hanzvadzi?"
- "Wave wakaroorana kwenguva yakareba sei?"
- "Une vana here?"
Iva akagadzirira kune mhando dzemibvunzo nekudzokorora nekubvunza vamwe nezvemhuri dzavo. Kushanda mumhando iyi yehurukuro duku kunoratidza unyanzvi hwako hwekutaurirana, uye kunokubatsira kuti udzidze zvakawanda nezvomunhu munguva pfupi.
6 - Zvakanakisisa: Shanda
Imwe hurukuro duku inowanikwa inowanzo inoshanda. Unogona kubvunzwa zvaunoita uye iwe unoda basa rako. Kana ukaita chimwe chinhu chisingawanzove chakaoma kutsanangura, funga kuchengeta makadhi ebhizinesi muhomwe yako. Izvi zvinonyanya kushanda zvakanaka kana kambani yako kana basa rine webhusaiti iyo vanhu vanogona kushanyira.
Dzimwe pfungwa dzehurukuro duku dzine chokuita nebasa dzinosanganisira zvinotevera:
- "Wave wakashanda kwenguva yakareba sei (aise zita redu)?"
- "Unofarira basa rako here?"
- "Icho chiyero chinonakidza chebasa, wakapinda sei mairi?"
Nguva dzose fungisisa pane zvaunoda kudzidza pamusoro pevamwe uye zvinhu zvaunonakidzwa kutaura nezvazvo. Izvi zvichaita kuti zvinyorwa zviduku zvive zvinonakidza kupfuura basa.
7 - Best: Travel
Vanhu vanoda kunzwa nezvezororo. Kana iwe uchifamba, iva wakagadzirira kupindura mibvunzo uye kupa maonero ako pamusoro penzvimbo dzawakashanyira. Isa pamwe chete albums kuti unogona kuratidza vanhu vanoshanyira imba yako.
Bvunza vamwe pamusoro pezvavanofarira nzvimbo dzekufamba uye zvavanokurudzira. Vanhu vakawanda vanoda kufarira uye vanofara kufara pamwe chete nezvakaitika kwavari.
Sezvimwe zvinyorwa zvepamusoro, kana uri kuedza kupindira muhurukuro yeboka, nguva dzose ratidza kusangana kweziso, kuseka, uye kuzvitaurira iwe kutanga. Zvino teerera uye uyeuke mazita evamwe vanhu vari muboka.
Ungarangarira sei mazita evanhu? Ongorora, kudzokorora zita, funga nezveumwe munhu waunoziva nezita iroro, shandisa zita mukukurukura, uye taura zvakare kana uchisiya kukurukura.
8 - Zvakanakisisa: Gossip
Hazvina kudiwa kutevera vanonyadzisa makuhwa kuti vaite hurukuro duku. Zvisinei, iri pfungwa yakanaka kuziva zvishoma pamusoro pevamwe vanozivikanwa zvikuru kune dzimwe nyika kana nyaya yacho inouya.
Chengetedza rudzi urwu rwehurukuro shomanana yekusangana zvisina kukodzera kana mapoka asingaiti. Kunze kwekuti vamwe vose pamusangano wenyu wekushanda vari kukurukurirana nezvevanhu vakakurumbira, zvakanakisisa kutungamirira nezvimwewo.
9 - Best: Hobbies
Vanhu vanoda kutaura pamusoro pezvavanoita uye vanogona kunge vane hanya newe. Kana iwe usina chekuita zvinhu, funga kuedza chimwe chinhu chitsva. Kwete chete iwe uchava nechimwe chinhu chokutaura nezvazvo, asi kuva nechido chokukuvara kuchakupa mukana wokusangana nevamwe vane zvimwe zvinodiwa.
Iva nechokwadi chekubvunza mibvunzo yekutevera apo iwe unoteerera nezvezvimwe zvekuita zvinhu. Teerera pakati pemitsara pamwe chete. Kana mumwe munhu akati, "Ndiyo nguva yekupedzisira yandakambofamba," bvunza kuti sei!
10 - Zvakanakisisa: Hometown
Iwe unogona kubvunzwa nezvemusha wekwenyu. Semuyenzaniso:
- "Ndokupi iwe wakakurira wakasiyana kubva kwaunogara iye zvino?"
- "Wakabvepi?"
Bvunza vamwe nezvemisha yavo yekugara. Iwe hauzombozivi kuti ndiani angave achibva panzvimbo imwechete saiye uye kuti ungatanga sei kugadzira kuyanana. Tarisira kuti vamwe vachakubvunza pamusoro pezvako, uye uve neanecdote inofadza kana nyaya yaverengwa kuudza.
11 - Zvakaipisisa: Mari
Kubvunza mibvunzo yezvemari yevanhu yawakangosangana nayo haina kukodzera. Zvakanaka kubvunza kuti mumwe munhu anoitei kubasa kana kuti izvo zvakanaka zvipi zvebasa iroro, asi usabvunza mibvunzo pamusoro pemari. Vanhu vazhinji vachawana mubvunzo uyu inonyadzisa uye isina kukodzera.
12 - Zvakaipisisa: Zvematongerwe enyika
Dambudziko nekutaura nezvematongerwo enyika ndeyekuti hauzive kuti ndiani muboka revanhu angave nemafungiro akasimba. Gara kure nehurukuro iyi kunze kwekuti iwe unoda kuisa pangozi kuguma pakati pehurukuro inopisa.
13 - Zvakaipisisa: Chitendero
Chitendero ndechimwe chiitiko chaicho uye chinogona kuve chinonyanya kunzwisisika icho chinofanira kudziviswa.
14 - Zvakaipisisa: Zvepabonde
Kutaura nezvepabonde kana kubvunza mibvunzo yehukama hwepedyo hazvina kukodzera panguva huru hurukuro. Paunenge uchitaura nevasingazivi, usataurirana pachena pamusoro pepabonde kana kuita zvido zvepabonde. Zvose izvi zvinogona kuita kuti vamwe vasanetseka.
15 - Akaipisisa: Rufu
Rufu nderimwe nyaya inorema inofanira kudziviswa pahurukuro duku. Paunenge uine vamwe vausingazivi, usadzorera nyaya dzepfungwa dzinogona kugumbura.
16 - Zvakaipisisa: Zera / Kuonekwa
Kunze kwekuti iwe uchiziva mumwe munhu zvakanaka, dzivisa nyaya dzine chokuita nezera uye kuonekwa.
Usabvunza zera remunhu. Kunyange zvazvo mubvunzo wacho ungaita seine nyore kwauri, unogona kuva nyaya inopisa kune vamwe.
Mukuwedzera, dzivisa mibvunzo yakabatana nechitarisiko. Usabvunza mukadzi kana ane pamuviri, kana kuti kutaura kuti mumwe munhu akaremerwa uremu. Iwe hauzombozivi chikonzero chekurema kana kurasikirwa, uye unogona kusara mumamiriro asina kunaka.
17 - Zvakaipisisa: Mhemberero yega
Kunyange zvazvo mukurumbira makuhwa ari mutambo wakanaka panguva yehurukuro duku, makuhwa pamusoro pevanhu vamunoziva pachavo. Kunyengedza pamusoro pevamwe hakungokuratidzi muchiedza chakaipa, asi hauzombozivi kuti ndiani angaziva mumwe nomumwe. Dzivisa zvakaipa-kutaura vamwe.
18 - Zvakaipisisa: MaJokes anonyadzisa
Chengetedza majee ako ane shungu kune shamwari dzako dzepamusoro (kana zviri nani zvakadaro, udzorere ivo nemajokisi asina nguva uye zvigadziriswa nzvimbo). Kunyanya, kuita zvekuita zvepabonde kana zvekusarura kunokanganisa uye nzira inokurumidza kugumisa kukurukura nevasingazivi .
19 - Zvakaipisisa: Misoro yakashata
Dzivisa kutaura kwenguva yakawanda pamusoro pemisoro iyo imwe-yakatarisana. Kana pasina mumwe munhu akaona iyo firimu, usapinda muchidimbu pamusoro pegadziro kana zviitiko zvinonakidza. Tarisa nokuda kwezviratidzo zvekuti vamwe vakarasikirwa nenyasha uye vanoona kugumisa nekukurumidza nyaya yako.
20 - Zvakaipisisa: Past Relations
Dzivisa kutaura pamusoro pehukama hwekare pane zuva rokutanga . Kufananidza kana kutaurirana nekusingaperi maererano nerudo rwakapfuura nderokudzoka uye nzira inokurumidza kuvimbisa kuti hauna kuwana zuva rechipiri.
Shoko Rinobva
Izvo zvakanakisisa hurukuro nyaya ndezvokuti munhu wese anokwanisa kurondedzera uye asingakwanisi kugumbura. Kune rumwe rutivi, hurukuro shomanana hurukuro inoparadzanisa, inoita kuti usakanganise, uye nokukurumidza kupedza hurukuro. Dzidza musiyano pakati pezviviri, uye iwe uchawana zviri nyore kutaura nevasingazivi-usinganzwi wakasimbiswa.
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> Indiana University Southeast. Nzira Yokuita Nayo Kubudirira Duku Kutaura.
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> Stanford University. Unyanzvi uye Sayenzi Yekutaura Kudiki .