Nharaunda Dzemagariro Inobatsira Chikamu Chinokosha Munzira Iyo Vana Vanofunga Nezvako
Kune vamwe vana, manzwiro avanoita pamusoro pavo uye maitiro avo evanhu vanogona kuita kuti vatarise kuora mwoyo .
Kunzwisisa Kunamata Kwevanhu
Mwana wese ane ruzivo rwemagariro evanhu, ndiyo nzira yatinoona nayo mabasa edu akasiyana-siyana munzanga maererano nevamwe. Zvingava kuburikidza nehutano hwemagariro evanhu, tsika kana rudzi, zvido, kubudirira, kana zvitendero, vana vanowana pfungwa yekudada, kuzvidzora, uye kusagadzikana kubva pamagariro avo evanhu.
Saka, kana ruzivo rwemagariro evanhu rwakachinjwa nokukurumidza, kutyisidzirwa, kana kubvunzurudzwa, hazvishamisi kuti mwana angave akachengetedzeka pakuora mwoyo.
Munhu wose Akasiyana
Havasi vana vose vanoona kuchinjwa kana kutyisidzirwa kumagariro avo evanhu vachaona kuora mwoyo. Pane kudaro, zvinofungidzirwa kuti avo vanoratidzika nehuwandu hwemamwe mabasa ehupenyu huri panjodzi yekuwedzera kuora mwoyo kana chimwe chinhu chiri kurasikirwa kana kutyisidzirwa.
Semuenzaniso, mwana anozviona seyeredzi yemutambo wenhabvu angasangana nekunetseka uye manzwiro ekurasikirwa kana akangoerekana akuvara uye asingakwanise kutamba bhora zvakare. Anokwanisa kurasikirwa nemamiriro ake semutambi wenyenyeredzi, shandisa nguva shomanana nevadzidzi vake pamwe neshamwari, uye pakupedzisira angaona kuderera mukuzviremekedza kwake , kunovhura suo rekuora mwoyo .
Izvi hazvirevi kuti mwana haakwanisi kukudziridza hutsva hwemagariro evanhu, asi zvinongotsanangura kukosha kwokuti mwana anozviona sei maererano nenyika yakamupoteredza.
Vanhu Vakatikomba
Kuti tive nehuwandu hwemagariro evanhu, tinoda vanhu vanotitenderedza kuti titsigire kana kuramba. Kuti uzive sa "Kelly shamwari yakanakisisa," Kelly anofanira kuzviratidza.
Vanhu vanotenderedza isu vanoitawo kuti tive nehutano hwevanhu uye nzira yatinonzwa nayo pamusoro pedu. Kana mwana akanyara uye achibviswa , zvichida kuti vamwe vana vachatora pane zvavanoda uye vanomusiya ari oga, nokudaro achiratidza kuti anozivikanwa sevanhu se "ane hanya uye akadzoka." Nekudaro, angave asina hugutsikane mune zvaanoita munzanga, achinzwa akasurukirwa, kana kuti akaora mwoyo achiedza kusununguka kubva pane izvozvi.
Kubatsira Mwana Wako Kuzivikanwa Kwemagariro Evanhu
Somubereki, unogona kutsigira dambudziko rehupenyu hwemwana wako kuburikidza nekubvuma kuti ndiani uye ndiani anokosha kwaari. Edza kusasimbisa zvakanyanya kune imwe chete yevanhu inobatsira. Pane kudaro, mumukurudzire kuedza zvinhu zvitsva uye zvakasiyana, uye kumuyeuchidza nezvemamwe mabasa anokosha aanoita muhupenyu, semwanasikana, muzukuru, hanzvadzi, cousin, mudzidzi, munharaunda, nhengo yevechidiki, muvakidzani, nemamwe.
Zvakanaka kuti mwana wako anzwe akashungurudzika shure kwekuodzwa mwoyo kana kurasikirwa kweukama hunokosha, asi kana ukacherechedza kuti ane zviratidzo zvekuora mwoyo , tsvaka mazano kubva kune vanachiremba vevana kana vamwe vanopa utano hwepfungwa .
Zviratidzo zvekuora mwoyo
Kana mwana wako achitanga kurasikirwa nechido mumabasa aimbove achida, kurara zvakanyanya kana zvisingasviki pane zvakasikwa, ane dambudziko kuisa pfungwa dzake pamabasa ake echikoro, kudya zvishoma kana zvishoma kudarika, kuratidza manzwiro ekusuwa kana kusakundikana, kuwedzerwa zvinogumbura kudarika nguva uye / kana kuparadzanisa pachako, uye kana chimwe chezviratidzo izvi chave chichienderera mberi kwevhiki dzinopfuura mbiri, inogona kuva nguva yekukurukura chiremba wevana kana chiremba wehutano hwepfungwa.
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