Kuvhiringidzika kuchikoro kunogona kuva dambudziko rakanyanya kune vana vane hanya nevanhu. Nhanho yekutanga yekubatsira mwana anotambudzwa ndeyekudzidza pamusoro pemigumisiro yekudheerera. Zvichida wakaona kuchinja mumararamiro emwana wako ane hanya uye unogona kunge uchifunga zvinhu zvakadai sezvinotevera:
- Ndezvipi izvo zvinoitika uye kwenguva refu zvinokonzerwa nekudheerera?
- Kushushikana kuchaita kuti mwana wako ashushike mupfungwa here?
- Chii chaungaita kuti ubatsire mwana wako kukurira?
Kuvhiringidzika Kunowanikwa Sei?
Kuvhiringidzika kwave kuri kuitika kunowanzoitika mune zvikoro uye nzvimbo dzekutamba. Pasinei nekutengesa mabhiriyuta, kushungurudzwa kuchikoro, kana kumanikidzwa mune zvebhazi pachikoro, vana vazhinji vanogara vachitya. Kana iwe uine mwana ane hanya munzanga , kushungurudzwa kungave kwakanyanya kupararira.
Inenge imwechete pavana vashanu ichashungurudzwa kubva pakutanga kusvika kuchikoro chesekondari. Vanodzvinyirira vanotora vana vanoomerwa kuzvidzivirira ivo pachavo. Dzimwe nguva vanobatwa nechisimba vanogona kutova vanyengeri pachavo.
Zviratidzo zveMwanakomana Anodheererwa
Unogona sei kuziva kana mwana wako ane hanya nehupfumi ari kunyadziswa? Tarisa zviratidzo zvinonyevera zvakadai sezvinotevera:
- Shanduka mukuda kuenda kuchikoro
- Zvinhu zvakashata kana zvakarasika
- Kusuruvara kana kushushikana
- Zvirwere zvepanyama
- Dambudziko rokurara
Kuvhiringidzwa kwakavanzika uye Migumisi Yenguva refu
Vana vakawanda vanotambudzwa havaudze munhu.
Kunyanya, vakomana vakwegura havakwanise kutaurira kudzvinyirira. Ngwarira kuchinja mumararamiro emwana wako nemanzwiro kuitira kuti iwe unogona kutsvaga kudzvinyirira kuri kuvanzwa.
Iyo yakareba kwenguva yakaipa yekushungurudzwa pamwana inogona kusanganisira zvinetso nekuzviremekedza uye kuzvidya mwoyo. Zvakakosha kupindira mangwanani kana uchifungidzira kuti kudzvinyirira kuri kuitika.
Chikonzero nei Bullies Inotarisa Vaya vane Hanya Nevanhu
Vana vane kushungurudzika kwemagariro evanhu vanova vavariro yevanyengeri nekuda kwezvikonzero zvakawanda. Kunyanya, vanyengeri vanowanzotarisa vana vanovaratidza zvinotevera:
- Iva neshamwari shomanana kana kupedza nguva yakawanda iwe woga
- Pasina kutsigira
- Anooneka ari pangozi uye anozvideredza
- Iva nehutano hwemagariro evanhu kana matambudziko ekugadzira ushamwari
Vana vane shamwari vashomanana havakwanise kuzvidzivirira uye avo vane manzwiro ekuderera vanozvimirira havagoni kuzviriritira ivo pachavo.
Kudheerera Kunokonzera Kufunganya Kwemagariro Akaipisisa
Zvimwe zvidzidzo zvakaitwa kuti zviongorore migumisiro yekudzvinyirira kushandiswa nemashonga akadai semakonzo kana rats. Kunyangwe izvi zvingaita sezvisinganzwisisiki, mapurisa anotendwa kuva nemafungiro akafanana evanhu, saka rudzi urwu rwekutsvaga hunoreva.
Mune rumwe ruzivo , mhando dzakasvikirwa kune "kushungurudza" pane mazuva gumi uye kuchinja muuropi dzemakonzo akasimbiswa akaongororwa. Zvigumisiro zvakaratidza kuti hormone vasopressin yakagadziriswa, iyo yakaita kuti kuwedzerwa muhutori zvakagamuchirwa zvinonzwisisana nehutano hwemagariro evanhu. Mushure mokudzvinyirira, mhirizhonga iyi yakasara kure nedzimwe mhando, kunyange dzakashamwaridzana. Izvi zvinoratidza kuti vanhu vanogona kuva nemafungiro akafanana: kushungurudzwa kwenguva refu kunogona kukwidza mahomoni ekudzvinyirira angakonzera kuderedzwa kwehupenyu hwevanhu.
Mune chidzidzo chechipiri, makonzo akaiswa pasi pekushungurudzika kwehutano, asi aive akagara pamwe nedzimwe rondo kana oga aripo uye mushure mekushungurudzika. Zvakawanikwa zvakaratidza kuti rats dzakasimbiswa dzaive dzakabatanidzwa neshamwari kare uye shure dzaive dzakanyanya kugadzikana uye zviri nani kugona kudzoka. Uku kutsvakurudza kunoratidza kuti kuva neshamwari imwe chete inogona kunge ine chidziviriro chekuti mwana wako arambe kushungurudzwa.
Mune chidzidzo chakafanana nevanhu, vatsvakurudzi vakawana zvinotevera:
- kushungurudzwa panguva yekuyaruka kunowedzera ngozi yezviratidzo zvekushungurudzika kwevanhu munzanga
- vakomana vane kushungurudzika kwevanhu vanowanzoshungurudzwa
- Kunyorera kuvhiringidza kunogona kuva kwakaoma zvikuru kune vana vane hanya nevanhu
Nzira Yokugadzirisa Nayo Kudheerera
Kunyange zvazvo zvingave zviri kuedza kutora mamiriro ekudheerera nemwana wako mumaoko ako, kune matanho aunogona kutora kuti ubatsire-kuwedzera mamiriro acho uye kudzivirira mwana wako.
- Iva akasununguka kuti ukurukure kudzvinyirira uye usatsoropodza kuti mwana wako akatarisa sei mamiriro ezvinhu kusvika ikozvino.
- Taurira mudzidzisi wemwana wako uye mukuru pamusoro pekudheerera. Iva nechokwadi chokuti mwana wako ane munhu mukuru kuchikoro zvokuti anogona kutaura kana ari kukuvadzwa.
- Kurudzirai mwana wenyu kuti ave neshamwari kuchikoro. Ziva nzvimbo dzakachengeteka dzaanogona kuenda kunze kwechikoro kana akanzwa achityisidzirwa, seimba yemubereki.
- Kana pasina hutano hwekudzivirira hurumende huri panzvimbo yechikoro chevana vako ungada kufarira.
Shoko Rinobva
Kana iwe uchifungidzira kuti mwana wako ari kunetswa, tora mamiriro acho ezvinhu zvakakosha. Vana vanonyara uye vanonyara kubvuma kuti vanotambudzwa, naizvozvo rubatsiro rwenyu runokosha. Gara wakadzikama, taura neshamwari, uye upe ruzivo rwemwana wako kuti atsungirire mamiriro acho ezvinhu.
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