Kushungurudzika kwepfungwa kunoratidzika kunge kwakabatana zvikuru nehosha iyi
Vanhu vazhinji vane mhirizhonga yemunhu (BDD) chirwere (BPD) vave nezviitiko zvekushushikana mupfungwa. Kutaura zvazviri, dzimwe nyanzvi dzinofunga kuti kusavhiringidzika mupfungwa kunogona kuva chinhu chimwe chinowedzera njodzi yemwana yekuita BPD mukuyaruka kana kuti munhu mukuru.
Chii chisina kuvhiringidza Emotional?
Emotional invalidation ndomumwe munhu paanokuudza iwe kuti manzwiro ako haisi echokwadi, haana musoro kana asina hanya, kana anofanira kuvanzwa kana kuvanzwa.
Somuenzaniso, kana mwana achitya, mubereki wavo angavaudza kuti, "Rega kuva mwana akadaro, hapana chaunofanira kutya." Uyu ndiwo mhinduro yekushushikana; haisi kungotaura chete kumwana kuti manzwiro avo haana maturo asiwo kuti ivo vasina simba nekuda kwekunzwa.
Zvimwewo, mubereki angapindura, "Ndinonzwisisa kuti unotya. Ndiudzei zviri kuitika kukuita kuti utye. "Iyi ndiyo mhinduro inogutsa; inoudza mwana kuti manzwiro avo anoremekedzwa (kunyange kana mubereki angabvumirana kuti pane chikonzero chinotyisa chekutya).
Kusavhiringidzwa Kwemwoyo uye Borderline Manhu Dambudziko
Nyanzvi dzakawanda dzinofunga kuti kusavhiringidzika mupfungwa, kunyanya muhuduku nekuyaruka, kunogona kuva chinhu chimwe chinotungamirira kukurudzirwa kweBPD.
Marsha Linehan, Ph.D., chiremba wepfungwa yekliniki uyo akatanga Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) yakaratidza kuti " mamiriro ezvinhu anokanganisa mafungiro ," kana mamiriro ekuti mhinduro dzemunhu dzinogara dzisina kubvumirwa kana kurangwa, dzinogona kuwirirana nezvimwe zvikonzero zvinokonzera BPD.
Mumuenzaniso waDkt Linehan, vana vari pangozi yekuvandudza BPD mushure mehupenyu vanoberekwa vane chigadziro chezvakagadziriswa kune zvakasimba mhinduro dzemanzwiro. Zvinosuruvarisa, idzi mhinduro dzakasimba dzinogona kugadziriswa nekusavhiringidzika (izvo zvingadaro, asi hazvirevi, kutora maitiro ekutsvaga kana kusaregererwa ).
Zvakakosha kucherechedza kuti mumuenzaniso uyu, pane kubatana pakati pemanzwiro emwana uye zvakatipoteredza. Nemhaka yokuti mwana ane simba rakadaro rekuita mamiriro ezvinhu izvo vamwe vangave vasingaiti, maitiro avo anowanzove asina kukodzera. Kana mubereki kana muchengeti anotsanangura mhinduro dzemwana sekunyanyisa, vanogona kutarisana nemafambiro anoodza mwoyo manzwiro emagariro.
Zvinosuruvarisa, kuodza mwoyo mhinduro dzemwana, kunyanya kana mwana iyeye akadzivirirwa kuti ave nemanzwiro akasimba, zvichida haabatsiri kudzivisa mwana. Pane kudaro, zvinogona kunge zvakakanganisika-mwana wemanzwiro aanoita anowedzera, zvichiita kuti kuwedzerwa kwemanzwiro. Uyezve, mwana uyo angakanganwa mukana wekudzidza kutarisa manzwiro avo nekubudirira, izvo zvinogona kutungamirira kune mamwe manzwiro ekuderedza pasi mumugwagwa.
Kusakanganiswa Kwemwoyo Kunokonzera BPD?
Dhiyabhorosi Linehan weBPD inosanganisira kusavhiringidzika mupfungwa seimwe ngozi, uye kune humwe humwe hwakasimba hwehukama huripo pakati pehutano husina kunaka neBPD (maitiro akasiyana-siyana ekubatwa zvisina kunaka, zvakadai sekuregererwa kwepfungwa uye kushungurudzwa, kunokonzera kusagadzikana kwemanzwiro).
Uyezve, kutsvakurudza kwakaratidza kuti zviratidzo zveBPD zvinosanganiswa nemishumo yekuonekwa kwehutano hwekusagadzikana kwepfungwa.
Asi hapana nzira yekuziva kana kusagadzikana kwepfungwa kuri, zvechokwadi, chikonzero cheBPD. Izvi ndezvokuti zvizhinji zvekutsvakurudza panyaya iyi ndezvekudzokorora (zvinoreva kuti muongorori anobvunza munhu kuti ataure nezvezviitiko zvakamboitika kare muupenyu hwavo; izvi zvinyorwa zvingave zvichienderana nekushamwaridzana) uye correlational (zvinoreva kuti inoratidza hukama pakati pekusavhiringidza mupfungwa uye BPD asi haigoni kugumisa kuti kusavhiringidzika mupfungwa kunokonzera BPD).
Kudiwa Kwavanoita Kunogona Kupa Mutsigiri Womweya
Kana iwe uchida mumwe munhu ane BPD uye uri kuverenga izvi, ungangodaro wakacherechedza kuti mamwe maitiro ako kumanzwiro emudiwa wako ave asina kuvhiringidza.
Nokuti munhu ane BPD ane shungu dzakasimba kune zviitiko zvinoita sezvidiki, zvinogona kuva zvakaoma kuramba uchigadzirisa. Zvisinei, kudzidza humwe unyanzvi kuti uwedzere mafungiro ekusimbisa mhinduro zvinogona kubatsira kuderedza reactivity yemudiwa wako.
Kuti udzidze kuti iwe unofanirwa sei kugadzirisa mafungiro (kunyange kana iwe usingabvumi), ona nyaya ino pamusoro pekugadzirisa manzwiro .
Sources:
Linehan MM. Kuchenjerera-maitiro Kurapa kweBorderline Personality Disorder . New York: Guilford, 1993.
Selby EA, Braithwaite SR, Joiner TE, Fincham FD. "Zviratidzo zveBorderline Personality Disorder, Kuonekwa Kwemucheche Kushushikana Kwepfungwa, uye Kusagadzikana Mukati Izvino Maitiro Okudanana." Zvinyorwa zveMhuri Psychology , 22 (6): 885-893, 2008.