Passive Communication Kugona Kuita Zvaunofunga Nezvemunzanga
Kukurukurirana kusinganzwisisiki inzira iyo iwe usingaiti zvakananga zvaunofunga kana zvaunoda uye izvo zvinowanzobatanidza kusagadzikana mutauro wemuviri. Vanhu vazhinji vane hutano hwemagariro vanopedzisa vachishandisa kusataurirana.
Kushungurudzika kwevanhu munzanga (SAD) kwakazara zvikuru uye kunogona kuva chipingamupinyi muupenyu hwako hwezuva nezuva. Kana iwe uchinetseka mune zvemagariro, unyanzvi hwako hwekutaurirana hunogona kunge husina simba nokuti unofunganya nezvekuungana kwevanhu, kusangana nevanhu vatsva nekukakavara.
Imwe yenzvimbo dzinokosha dzingave dzakakanganiswa ndekukurukurirana. Pasi pane tsanangudzo yekuti kushamwaridzana kukurukurirana uye kushungurudzika kwevanhu munzanga kungave kwakabatana.
Kutsanangura Passive Communication
Kukurukurirana kusinganzwisisiki muenzaniso wekusaudza vamwe maonero ako nekukundikana kuchengetedza kodzero dzako uye kuwana zvaunosangana nazvo. Vatauriri vasingatauri vanokundikana kuva vatsigiri uye vanobvumira vamwe kuti vashandise zvakanaka.
Passive Communication Maenzaniso
Kutaurirana kusinganzwisisiki kunogona kuratidzwa munzira dzakasiyana-siyana.
- Vamwe vatauriri vasingatauri vanopoteredza musango, zvakadai sokuti "Ndinoshuva kuti mumwe munhu angayeuka kuti abvise doro" pane kungokumbira nhengo yemhuri kuti ibvise dota. Mazano akadai izvi anowanzoenda asingaoneki, achiita kuti mutauri wekutaurirana asingatsvaki uye munhu wemhuri akashaya hanya akavhiringidzika.
- Vamwe vanongobvumira vanhu kudarika pfungwa dzavo nemanzwiro avo. Somuenzaniso, kana iwe uri wezvinomera uye vashandi vako vanosarudza kusangana pane imwe nzvimbo yekuchengetedza, unogona kusarudza kutaura chero chinhu kana kuratidza chimwe chinhu kunze kwekutya kuonekwa sekuoma kana kuti kunotora.
- Vamwe vatauriri vasingatauri vanotaura zvakanyanyisa kana kuti vanoremekedza. Vanogona kukumbira ruregerero nguva yakareba kuti vaone mafungiro avo kana kuti vanokodzera zvavanotaura. Somuenzaniso, kana akashevedzwa mumusangano, mutauri wekutaura asingatauri angati, "Izvi zvinogona kuva mubvunzo weupenzi, asi iwe wakamboona dambudziko iri kubva munharaunda iyi here?" Izvi zvinobva mukushayikwa kwekutenda uye kuzvidya mwoyo pamusoro pekuonekwa semafungiro kana kuti utsinye.
- Vamwe vane utano husina kunaka hwemuviri hwakafanana nekusimudza.
Migumisiro yePassive Communication
Vanhu vane chirevo chekutaurirana vasingatauri vanogona:
- Inzwa uchinetseka kana kuti upenyu huri kunze kwekutonga
- Inzwa uora mwoyo kana kuti usina tariro
- Inzwa kugumbuka kana kuvhiringidzika nokuti zvinodiwa hazvisati zvasangana
Zvinetso neKutaurirana Pasinganzwisisiki Nehukama Hwevanhu
Kana iwe uchinetseka mune zvekugara uye usadzivisa kukakavara, kutaurirana pasina kungakonzera kusagadzikana uye kukuvadza. Nemhaka yokuti iwe haugadziri kukakavadzana kana zvikaitika uye uchirega zvikwangwani zvisingaoneki, kutsamwa kwako kunogona kukura.
Pakupedzisira, iwe uchada kuratidza manzwiro aya, asi nokuti vakagara kwenguva refu, zvinogona kubuda zvakanyanya uye kukuvadza ukama hwako. Mushure mekunge, unogona kunzwa uine mhosva, uchiita kuti iwe uwedzere kutarisa mune ramangwana.
Izvi zvinogona kukonzera kushungurudzika kwepamagariro evanhu kana iwe uchitaurirana nevamwe kana kuedza kuzvitaura iwe pachako. Izvi zvinotyisa zvinogona kupfuurira pachedu kwenguva refu kana pasina kupindira.
Kutadza Kukurukurirana Pasinei Nokukurukurirana Kunobatsira
Kune vakawanda vane kushungurudzika kwevanhu munzanga, kuzvidzora kuderera, uye kuvimba kwakashata kunoita kuti tisafambidzana. Izvi zvinogona kukonzera ruzivo umo kushamwaridzana kwekutaurirana kunotungamirira kune zvido zvako zvinopera zvisina kukwana, izvo zvinoita kuti unzwe uchinetseka zvikuru uye zvinoita kuti iwe uwedzere kuwedzera.
Izvi zvinogona kunge zvakaoma zvikuru kuputsa uye kazhinji zvinoda rubatsiro rwehutano.
Kusiyana neizvi, kutaura kwakasimba :
- Zvinoreva kutaura zvakajeka pamusoro pemafungiro ako, zvaunoda, uye manzwiro asina kuputsa zvido zvevamwe
- Zvinogadziriswa kuburikidza nokuzviremekedza kwakasimba uye kuvimba
- Inosanganisira kuzvirumbidza iwe pachako uye zvaunofarira, pasina kukumbira ruregerero
Imwe nyanzvi inonyanya kugadzikana nehupfumi inogona kukubatsira kuti uite kuburikidza nehutano hwako uye pamwe nekukubatsira iwe kutaura zvekutaura uye nechivimbo.
Haisi chinhu chingaitika usiku hwose; zvisinei, mutarisiri akanaka wehutano ane ruzivo rwekufunga kwehutano hwehutano hunogona kubatsira kuvandudza mararamiro ako mumagariro evanhu uye kukupa iwe kuzvikurudzira iwe pachako.
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